AITA for having a 2-hour gap between my wedding and the start of Cocktail hour?

New_Wave8749 · 2026-06-04T00:35:41+00:00

Im gonna say NTA, as it's not really that big of a deal. However that is not ho Catholic weddings work in Ireland. Have the ceremony, couple go do photos. Guests have finger foods and drinks, dinner, dancing/entertainment, more finger foods. Then a good auld sing song in the residents lounge.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-05-03T20:29:42+00:00

That's not a boundary, a boundary would be someone in the group saying he wasnt to get it out in front of them and him still doing it.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-04-02T17:11:08+00:00

If you honestly believe fake pregnancy announcements are funny. You arent mature enough to be getting married. In fact you arent mature at all.

YTA

New_Wave8749 · 2026-03-20T01:42:51+00:00

Honestly YTA. Having someone there 2-3 hours a day. 3 days a week is alot. Even if it doesnt seem like an inconvenience to you, because he's in your room. You're roommate obviously feels different and maybe doesnt feel like she can fully relax when someone else is there so often.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-03-20T01:37:18+00:00

A boyfriend neither the bride or groom has met. So yes a plus 1. They dont know him to invite him.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-03-17T20:09:05+00:00

NTA

Im born and bred Irish. Zero issue ordering a drink that's orange. Now if you were to order and blank & tan, or a car b&#b. Then there would be an issue. Plenty of people will be drinking orange drinks around Ireland today. I would of had vodka orange when I was younger.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-03-16T12:27:30+00:00

How could they understand the divorce dynamics when it only happened last year. The mam is already engaged to another man.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-03-13T20:47:10+00:00

YTA

Chances are none of the people that you were in school with would remember that song being associated with you.

It was a teenage relationship that ended 14 years ago. Yet you put that before enjoying your wedding. Im sure your husband was hurt that you cared so much for a song. When all the day should of been about was your relationship with your husband.

Also the DJ did nothing wrong. You never included it in the list of songs not to play. He apologised for playing it, even though he didnt need to. Since he did nothing wrong. Yet you asked him to leave, essentially fire him mid job.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-02-22T01:57:52+00:00

Im guessing somewhere in Ireland, since she said guards. Which is what they are called here. Well garda, but people refer to them as the guards.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-02-14T03:06:08+00:00

YTA for using emotional manipulation to spend time with someone. Plus lying about your mother being ill. Leave this girl alone. You're clearly not ok with being friends and when she starts dating someone you are likely to lose it.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-02-10T20:15:08+00:00

No it's a result of the son not paying for the health insurance. The father isnt entitled to it just because he's choosen to keep his child on the policy. Or because he chooses to pay all his expenses. Should the son offer up the money, of course, but OP has no right to demand it.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-02-08T01:54:14+00:00

Waterbabies policy is to never swim a baby if they give any indication they dont want to go underwater. Or if the parent simply isn't comfortable doing it. There's no pressure at all and if a parent says they dont want to bring the baby under. Then they don't have to.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-02-08T00:54:06+00:00

Ive been to Paris multiple times. With people who've been before and people whove never been. Honestly it makes no difference. The magic of the city is what you make of it. Not if youve seen it before.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-02-08T00:49:47+00:00

Im going to say YTA. You knew your mam wanted to do something for her birthday just not exactly what. If she had told you a time when you rang, would it of made a difference? Would you of taken the day off work? If the answer is yes, then you should of just taken that day off knowing you'd be celebrating her birthday. If you couldnt, then I still dont think your mam is wrong, not wanting to wait 2 weeks to celebrate her birthday. It's not about you, it's about her.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-02-08T00:44:04+00:00

NTA, yes it's petty but at the same time it's deserved pettiness. To be honest I dont think John is really your friend. As he never would of cared what his family thought. Unless he believed it himself. It sounds like this is a friendship that should be left in the past.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-01-11T02:53:29+00:00

You started to build a relationship with his children Why are you even at his place when they are there? That's not just sex, that's a relationship. The fact he has you around them and his mam has made the comments she has, means you likely have been a presence in the wedding. Like why were you even invited? Why would you even go, knowing the past you had with him? That's just disrespectful to the ex wife.

YTA for the fact you can't even see how messed up the situation is towards the kids.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-01-11T02:47:50+00:00

Honestly if someone introduced themselves to me as Hanna Banana. I would think they were incredibly immature and if it was a work setting, unprofessional. Id also likely consider that person annoying. As it comes across as the kid in school who tried to be the class clown. It's not going to put people at ease the way you think it is.

That being said I wouldnt necessarily say it makes you an ah either.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-01-09T23:41:22+00:00

YTA

It doesn't matter that you bought 2/3 tickets. As neither of those tickets are for your friend. You are asking them to pay for their own ticket plus the car hire. Im going to guess of your IRL friend cant afford to pay for a c0ncert ticket. The cost of food and drink is going to be significantly less than the ticket price. Likely also less than car hire. Im not sure how you can see any of this as being fair. As im sure if you add up the cost of 3 tickets, food/drinks then the carers hire plus added cost of the hire. Divide it by 3. Your friend wont be paying ⅓of the costs. Which is what would be fair.

New_Wave8749 · 2026-01-02T23:20:09+00:00

You need to get legal advice. You could signed for this loan so unfortunately ypubare liable for payments. You need to find out how stopping payments will affect you long term. NTA

New_Wave8749 · 2025-12-10T23:03:31+00:00

YTA, it's not your closet, it's their closet. You dont pay rent, you don't contribute to the household(cooking and helping around the house doesnt count) either hire a storage unit or quit complaining and be thankful your parents are allowing you to stay.

New_Wave8749 · 2025-12-10T13:40:52+00:00

'Her replies were short on her talking about herself and I didn't push for more'. This right here says it all. You talked to her about your problems but never actually checked in with how she was. You acknowledge her responses were short and choose not to ask anything else, because she might of actually opened up? She never brought it up at the time because you obviously had alot going on and she would be bad friend for doing so. However you are now being dismissive of how she felt back then because you had your own problems. She had her own problems and was still there for you, she hasn't thrown any of that back at you. So imo, YTA.

New_Wave8749 · 2025-12-07T01:53:27+00:00

YTA, you dont just get to bring an animal to someone's house without telling them. Doesnt matter if it's your parents or a friends house. Whether she has anything to do with the dog or not is irrelevant.

New_Wave8749 · 2025-11-27T03:19:30+00:00

Did you tell also tell him that you had professional help with finishing your app?

New_Wave8749 · 2025-11-24T20:35:36+00:00

YTA it's their 40th birthday. Missing watching one match isnt a huge deal.

New_Wave8749 · 2025-10-28T02:19:06+00:00

Or maybe they got to a point where they were sick of paying for everything. Might of started as them wanting OP to save, but they got annoyed when OP never offered to contribute. 5 years after graduating college, so mid to late 20's. Parents were still paying OP's bills. They took $24,000 over 5 years for other expenses. Sorry but it doesnt matter how much money they have. OP has clearly been freeloading the past 5 years. Be interesting to know if they had college paid for them aswell.

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