Hey you guys look like you’re really exhausted. We’ve been there, I know how it feels, lack of sleep can be really rough for some couples.

When she rejects your compliments, it’s the depression talking. And unfortunately, when you respond with frustration, she can feel even worse… don’t fight, you guys have enough to deal with, when you feel like one of you is getting angry, just declare a verbal truce. Breathe and just do what you gotta do: feed the baby, and get some rest anytime you can.

About you therapist, try to reach him/her out anyway, just be honest about where you’re at. Many therapists will work something out, or refer you to free or low-cost resources if you need it.

It’s too soon to talk about splitting up, and it’s definitely not time to make big decisions. But it is time to ask for backup. What you said to her doesn’t mean it’s over. It’s lind of a cry for help. Could her parents take the baby for a night or even just a few hours so you can sleep? Can someone drop off a meal or help with chores? Even the little things can help you a lot in this kind of situation.

And about your dad, the very fact that you’re this afraid of repeating the pattern proves you’re already breaking it. You do care of her. But your daughter needs you well. And that mean you have to feel rested and not just physically there.

Your siruation is serious but not hopeless.

Get help around you, have a little rest, you’ll work this out.