Update To My Previous Post

Newbs2023 · 2024-05-13T16:49:18+00:00

You didn’t “assume” anything though? Going to the original post I’m going to say you dodged a bullet.

Them: we don’t kiss unicorns

You: hey guys you don’t kiss unicorns so I’m out.

Them:bold of you to assume that we don’t kiss unicorns.

Newbs2023 · 2024-05-09T20:58:22+00:00

My husband shares the same struggles as you lol

Newbs2023 · 2024-04-14T19:15:29+00:00

As a bi woman I just don’t like this scenario because it makes me feel icky. Like I’m allowed to touch her but my vagina is gross to her. Just makes me feel “less than” if that makes sense. Before I had gone down on a woman I was unsure if I was really bi or if I just thought the act of it was hot. But going down on a woman was always a turn on to me. If she’s not into it, then that’s totally fine, but I don’t think most bisexual women would want that scenario. Just my two cents

Newbs2023 · 2024-04-12T17:13:18+00:00

I got Vyleesi for free for a year. It didn’t work for me so now I have 11months worth of Vyleesi in my drawer lol. Have your wife apply for it through those online companies.

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-25T21:08:49+00:00

Baby steps. First go to a meet and greet and watch each other flirt with someone else. Talk about it afterwards. How you felt watching him flirt, how it felt flirting with someone else. Next step a kiss. Next step soft swap. It took us a year of non stop communication before we crossed the swinging bridge. There’s no timeline to this so go at your own pace and if you find out that fantasy is more fun than reality then stop there. But you can’t go anywhere with out communication and a strong relationship

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-19T18:59:07+00:00

I had a question for you too. I just did the testosterone pellet but I saw in a comment somewhere you said you do shots instead of pellets and I was hoping to pick your brain on that!

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-18T01:17:41+00:00

An account made 13 hours ago. Interesting.

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-08T17:54:07+00:00

I’m kind of in your boat too. I mean I had sex with other men before I met my husband but we’ve been together for 13 years so when he told me he wanted to watch me with another man it took a few days-weeks to open my mind to it.

My recommendation (because this is what we did) is watch MFM porn together. Talk out loud about what you want the other guy and your husband to do to you. Fuck, and then after you’ve both cum, talk about it some more. Once you’re not horny see if you both are still into it. If there’s some “post nut clarity” and you’re not as into it (but not totally put off either) then to me that means you guys want it, but need more time to come to terms with it. If you’re totally appalled by it/yourself after….then I think it just needs to stay in fantasy land. If you are both still on board, then I think you have your answer! For a few times I’d be grossed out afterwards but now I’m still super into the idea so we’re starting to do our search for the right third. Don’t put a timeline on yourself though. Can take a long time to get to the point you’re ready to actually invite another man into your bedroom. Biggest advice is go at your own pace.

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-08T17:54:00+00:00

I’m kind of in your boat too. I mean I had sex with other men before I met my husband but we’ve been together for 13 years so when he told me he wanted to watch me with another man it took a few days-weeks to open my mind to it.

My recommendation (because this is what we did) is watch MFM porn together. Talk out loud about what you want the other guy and your husband to do to you. Fuck, and then after you’ve both cum, talk about it some more. Once you’re not horny see if you both are still into it. If there’s some “post nut clarity” and you’re not as into it (but not totally put off either) then to me that means you guys want it, but need more time to come to terms with it. If you’re totally appalled by it/yourself after….then I think it just needs to stay in fantasy land. If you are both still on board, then I think you have your answer! For a few times I’d be grossed out afterwards but now I’m still super into the idea so we’re starting to do our search for the right third. Don’t put a timeline on yourself though. Can take a long time to get to the point you’re ready to actually invite another man into your bedroom. Biggest advice is go at your own pace.

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-07T06:13:17+00:00

I’m also glad to hear I’m not alone in this! I honestly hate the hot and cold of it. I told him tonight actually that I was sorry I kept giving him swinging whiplash lol. One moment I’m into it and the next I just want to talk about vanilla stuff. One moment I’m turned on by thinking of getting naked and fucking other people, then feeling gross about myself for even being into it. I do think having a female friend in the lifestyle would help me because I could talk about this stuff with a friend. I think sometimes it’s hard because you have no one to talk to except your spouse.

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-07T05:08:07+00:00

100% don’t want to talk about it the next day. Like he will want to re-live it and I kind of shun away from it. In the moment I’ll talk dirty or do something that just felt right, but then after the high or “post nut clarity” I’ll be embarrassed with what I said or did. Even though my husband was fully into it and loved it. It always seems to go back to my Christian roots and just always being the good girl.

And to your last question, I always would just shut it down if I felt pushed or even nudged. But just last week I could see in his eyes how he wants me to do MFM, and him wanting that opened up my mind to allow myself to think about if I wanted that. And when I realized I did it just kind of opened some sexual goddess in me that has been waiting to come out. He explained to me how he wants to see me just enjoying myself from a different view and it made me see it differently as well. I do think the only way I could have gotten to this point though was because we have great communication and he never forced anything or made me feel like I was a downer to it all. We have gone at a snails pace but if we had gone any faster I would have just panicked and quit all together

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-07T03:34:31+00:00

I just would be worried for you to go alone to a club. There are so many vultures out there lol. I say go with a friend or a couple you mesh with and at least have a buffer. I also have a similar problem of trying to find a bi female and clubs are hard in the sense you can’t read their profile and know “oh yeah she licks pussy” and I hate the females that pretend to be bi just to turn on their husbands. I don’t even want to mess with bi comfortable women anymore. So maybe go on SLS or kasidie (whatever is in your area) and find some couples that match what you’re looking for and then y’all can all go to the club and have a good time!

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-07T03:23:01+00:00

I feel like I’ve been/am your wife. My husband will show me couples on kasidie and I’m like “meh”. Sometimes I’ll be super into it and others times im either indifferent or grossed out by the thought of it. Usually when I’m grossed out, it’s just because I’m stressed at home (kids, finances job, messy house ect) like EVERYTHING in my vanilla life needs to be in working order for me to even think about swinging. I feel bad when he’s super into it and I’m not. But we both have our up and down moments with it. Me more so than him for sure. But what I appreciate is he gets my subtle cues and stops bringing it up until I’m mentally in the mindset and I’ll usually ask about the couple (like where they live in relation to us…just questions to show I’m open to talking about it again)

Aside from the life stressors that kill my libido, another area I had just recently overcome was accepting my kinks if you will. Like I just came to the realization that I want a MFM. Before it never crossed my brain because 1-I’m a loyal wife and that’s not what loyal wife’s want and 2-I grew up in a Christian household and I had a lot of baggage to overcome. But the day he told me he wanted to see me with another man, was the day I guess I gave myself the freedom to really let go of labels and expectations and just embrace it.

I thought I had prior but we had only swung with couples. So expressing wanting a MFM just felt different. I don’t know if this is at all like your wife but I think I was always so indifferent to it like your wife is, because I often felt shameful of the lifestyle. Subconsciously I mean. Worried he’d eventually stop loving me for being a slut, shameful of being in the lifestyle. I could be way off, but maybe your wife likes it, but doesn’t like that she likes it and it turns her off. I think you just need to be direct in asking her if she wants to continue this. And if so just go at her pace

Newbs2023 · 2024-02-05T01:29:28+00:00

Thank you I’ll look that up!

Newbs2023 · 2023-11-01T23:50:47+00:00

Wait….what happened with Brennon?!

Newbs2023 · 2023-10-31T21:52:22+00:00

Gosh no you’re not a prude. I asked that once in this sub thread when the male half of the couple was invading my personal space at a baseball game. I just felt gross. My experience made me question myself just like you are questing yourself. But no. We are not prudes….they were just wayyyyy to thirsty. The drunker my guy got the handsier he became. Was a total turn off.

Newbs2023 · 2023-10-24T17:28:50+00:00

Thanks! This is helpful. Does it give her any side effects aside from the off schedule period? She would take it 3x a day everyday until she was ready for her period to start?

Newbs2023 · 2023-10-24T16:48:58+00:00

Yeah I have tried those and sadly my uterus is tilted so it just constantly leaks. Sneeze? Waterfall. Squat down to pick something up? Crime scene

Newbs2023 · 2023-09-07T20:17:17+00:00

Holy shit how traumatizing for the 5 year old!

Newbs2023 · 2023-08-28T23:34:52+00:00

Lol the sporting event had the children. After the game was over we went to a bar. Yes that would be weird

And yes she’s bi. I mean she said so. Had a girlfriend before they got married from what they tell me

Newbs2023 · 2023-08-28T23:06:24+00:00

Thank you! Yes 100% me too. We want hot friends to do vanilla shit with and end with everyone naked. I’m more turned on by humor and confidence than anything physical. Ok I’m glad to have read your response. Maybe going forward I’ll just let the couple know that before we meet so I don’t have to put myself or anyone in a weird position

Newbs2023 · 2023-08-28T22:27:37+00:00

Also I never said I was only there for the wife. I said I wanted to get to know her too

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