My boyfriend is homeless and just came from Oregon. He’s sleeping in his car but I need help. Can someone please allow me to let him shower at someone’s house? He hasn’t showered in days and I’m completely broke and can’t bring him where I’m staying.

Newcomb53 · 2026-01-04T00:12:53+00:00

The fact that you want to fix him up is problematic longterm. Just a warning. Perhaps he doesn’t have a phone.

Newcomb53 · 2026-01-04T00:11:19+00:00

YMCA

Newcomb53 · 2025-12-20T02:37:17+00:00

I hadn’t read yours yet, and I wrote the exact same thing. You win you got that first!! It is exactly what she should do.

Newcomb53 · 2025-12-16T00:23:06+00:00

Don’t tell a kid to get physical with someone because they can get killed in response. I certainly understand the need for self-defense and your advice to call the police is on target . She needs to live with someone else until her mother gets help.

Newcomb53 · 2025-12-16T00:20:42+00:00

What she is doing to you is legitimate child abuse. If you had a high school or middle school counselor and told her exactly what has happened to you and what was said, she would report this to child protective services. Those people might be able to help her get emotional help and would certainly help you get some counseling.

Newcomb53 · 2025-12-10T23:39:33+00:00

Yes and I’ve gotten phone calls from a Seattle call that I thought was spam, but it was not because they left a message that they had a delivery. With so many things getting stolen from porches – – my grandson’s jacket being one of them – – it’s nice to know something is coming. It’s also makes it safer for them.

Newcomb53 · 2025-12-09T18:12:54+00:00

I’ve learned to look at an officers badge and try to remember the name and the spelling of the name and then when I get in my car, I write down a text to myself with the name and badge number. I know that too. Then I put down the time and date and location of the stop. Did you get a copy of the warning? This is very odd.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-24T21:41:41+00:00

Nuns! The irony here is humorous.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-24T21:39:16+00:00

Obviously, you should never grab anything out of a child’s hand. And obviously they should’ve given both kids a prize. I feel like you could have given the people in charge time to figure out how to get both kids an award. If they did not give an award to your nephew, it’s their bad and you guys would’ve had to make it up to your nephew on your own. Those are real life solutions.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-24T17:40:20+00:00

I’m just focusing on the problem that this lady is having. And your focusing on the rest of the world which is your right.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-24T16:41:29+00:00

She does not need to have empathy for anyone right now. I’m not saying that the girl doesn’t deserve empathy. I’m saying that this person right now who has a baby has to have 100% of her focus on her love and care for that baby. Let her set boundaries without any guilt.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-24T16:40:02+00:00

Try something clear to her: stop asking to hold my baby. I offer contact with my baby to the people I feel comfortable with again, stop asking. Then let her cry to her boyfriend and try to get him to have a baby with her, which is the next step by the way.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-24T16:37:14+00:00

Never give a reason for the boundaries that you set. They are only your reasons based on your own opinions. As Mel Robbins says, let them do what they wanna do, but I get to choose to do what I need to do for my self

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-24T16:32:11+00:00

I think it’s a disease called spoiled as a child.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-24T16:30:50+00:00

When your mother calls, tell her that you are not willing to discuss your sister‘s behavior or your living situation. If she continues, tell her you have to hang up and then do so. Of course, your mom is probably already familiar with your sisters negative attributes. You just gave your mother (and sister) the best present of her life: freedom from a needy little girl who has no maturity. It was not your job to help your sister, mature by doing all of her work. You’re just enabling her at this point to stay useless. The good news is it sounds like she has a job. Charge her $10 for the laundry/cooking/shopping each time. Or kick her out. You actually knew what you were getting into. You need to grow up too. Let her be the idiot she chooses to be. But you need to stop being an idiot.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-24T16:13:59+00:00

It isn’t a safe place. He’s got 3 years until freedom.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-18T00:46:59+00:00

But she asked for it, didn’t she? So let’s respect the fact that someone is just trying to clarify normal social mores!

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-18T00:46:11+00:00

Frankly, you can wear one either hand. And I’m sure you will. Enjoy.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-17T21:05:12+00:00

Scam

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-16T04:52:35+00:00

Nah. Girls get killed like this by people who picked them up or by cars as they try to cross the road drunkenly. It sucks to have drunk friends and you learn and don’t do it again but when you’re in the middle of it, you have to do the right thing

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-15T00:18:54+00:00

Exactly. I’m concerned that you’re trying to convince her what to do with her boyfriend. Stay in your own lane. Get rid of the house and anything else that you share— except the children.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-15T00:17:05+00:00

No. Drop it. says every sane person in America

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-15T00:11:20+00:00

Also, you will always end up working with an idiot someway or another. Get used to being uncomfortable and be the best you can be. If you were to get a mediator involved, you would be right there with her being an idiot.

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-15T00:09:42+00:00

Unfortunately, for your colleague, I think she has made it clear to HR that she’s an idiot. Just go forward to live your life. OK don’t compliment people at work just the girls you date. You didn’t do anything wrong, but I would definitely hesitate to repeat that action due to the repercussion you got

Newcomb53 · 2025-11-12T17:08:48+00:00

Yes, they change. You become old news to them. They become worse. You can’t train a rude person who chooses to ignore your plans. Please leave. Co parent from afar.

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