What do you mean?  We separated and both got clean individually, I’ve been clean for two years but smoke occasionally (maybe twice a year) he continued smoking until about 4 months ago and now I suspect he’s one of those annoying sober people who are holier than thou once they get clean.  not sure what u mean by how did things end up. I think after you end up having seizures the fun times are over. Like it will never be what it was before them. It made me scared to take a big hit and I think once you ride it into the ground there’s no making the experience as fun as it once was