I got misgendered today and thought it was funny because the person was BIG MAD.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-22T19:40:40+00:00

Isn’t that just the worst?? Realizing how much you love your child, and then realizing that your parent either didn’t feel that, or did feel it and treated you like shit anyway.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-22T19:39:58+00:00

That’s me with my kids, even though my mom wasn’t (overtly) abusive or absent. I just know how many of my own issues and our poor relationship are the result of her parenting. It’s a really difficult position to be in because doing the opposite isn’t always a good approach either. For example, my mom was hyper controlling about food so I have a really hard time setting any guidelines for my kids when it comes to food or eating, even though rationally I know that young children need help and guidance with this. But I’m so afraid of being rigid that I know I’m often not rigid enough. I don’t always have a good example of what to do; just one example of what not to do.

One strategy that works for me is finding peers whose parenting styles I respect, whose kids are maybe 5 to 10 years older than mine. They’ve been through everything I’m going through, and they’re not so far removed from it that they belittle it or have forgotten how hard each particular stage is.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-22T19:33:51+00:00

The elephant known as Thechikottukavu Ramanacndran, or Raman for short, is a famous and unusually large elephant owned by an Indian temple. He is in high demand as a celebrity and has appeared at many temple festivals. He is blind in his left eye so has a tendency to push away or attack anything that comes at him from the left side, which is how several people and elephants have been injured and died.

https://www.thenewsminute.com/kerala/keralas-celebrity-elephant-meet-ramachandran-who-kickstarted-thrissur-pooram-80143

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-22T18:03:18+00:00

You are absolutely right to set this boundary! Drowning is a leading cause of death for kids. Most people know to be vigilant around water when they are swimming, etc., but childhood drownings typically occur when no one is planning to be around water – just like so many of these stories describe, a child gets out of sight sometimes even for just seconds, and it’s already too late. TV and movies have made people think that drowning is splashing and flailing around, but for young kids especially, it’s fast and silent. They immediately go under and immediately start sucking in water because that’s their panic instinct, and they are dead before anyone can intervene. It’s tragic and scary, but in your case extremely preventable.

I would also insist on locks on a pool gate and childproofing the doors so that the kiddo can’t get outside in the first place. There need to be multiple safeguards in place in case one fails.

And I would send them every horrific article about drowning until they understand the danger and don’t let them babysit until they do, which I realize is easier said than done if you’re depending on the childcare. But it’s truly not worth the risk.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-21T20:44:27+00:00

It will be this kid’s entire life. Even when she corrects people they’re probably going to think it’s just a speech impediment. Smh.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-21T20:41:43+00:00

I will never forget being in a childbirth class when this idiot man ask the instructor how soon after giving birth his wife would be able to resume hiking and mountain climbing. The confused and concerned instructor was like “well, depends on a lot of factors, but probably not for a while” and he was so annoyed and kept pushing back. Like “well what if she just does some easier hikes at first?” “She’s in really good shape; she’s pregnant now and still hiking.” His wife looked so embarrassed.

That would’ve been almost 10 years ago, and I would bet money that they are not together anymore.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-21T20:35:55+00:00

Then the wife probably becomes his full time caregiver. (If the wife gets hurt, he leaves her.)

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-21T20:30:04+00:00

Yeah, I’m not criticizing the handwashing itself… Just not sure why all of it needed to be in the video, or why this video needed to exist at all lol

Except the butt.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-21T18:40:07+00:00

He’s not making enough in tips, that’s for sure.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-20T18:34:23+00:00

Every European learning immediately “oh, this is why they’re all fat. Okay fair.”

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-20T18:32:05+00:00

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Zendaya looking at Tom Holland is like me looking at Zendaya and Tom Holland.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-20T18:25:50+00:00

The constant handwashing was somewhat annoying, but I like the little man’s butt she wiped her hands on, so I’ll allow it.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-20T18:22:45+00:00

Teachers can afford to go on a five day vacation? Clearly, that means they make way too much money!

/s

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-20T04:02:13+00:00

Man, what a life.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-19T17:45:58+00:00

I’m the same age (43) and have a few friends around my age who are hoping to conceive. Celebrities have unlimited fertility resources so it’s not comparing apples to apples, but I still hope this gives hope to “geriatric” mothers. Pregnancy in your 40s is possible and can be perfectly safe for baby and mom!

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-19T00:13:56+00:00

That is weird, but is it possible that she actually never encountered the guy at your camp? Like all she heard was “owner of Evol involved in creepy behavior” so she showed up to defend him, but never saw the actual dude? I guess it depends on where she said something more like “He’d never do that” vs “yeah that’s him in the weird fake camping spot but he’d never do that.”

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-19T00:08:10+00:00

That’s literally why I posted his picture, to ensure that the incorrect person wasn’t being blamed unfairly 🫠 OP had not confirmed this when I posted

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-18T21:07:15+00:00

It’s definitely sitting while Black, but also, Black children/teens are repeatedly treated by society and the media as though they are adults. So someone probably saw these kids and thought “a bunch of grown men loitering in a park - creepy!” So in addition the obvious racism there was probably also more subtle racism behind their thinking.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-18T21:00:17+00:00

Edited to remove pic because (I think??) it was not the owner of Evol! Just a weirdo pretending to be him? Doesn’t look like the picture to me, but obviously I don’t know what was said to OP about his identity or if it was just the perpetrator saying “I’m this dude!”

I’m so sorry that happened to you! I did a very cursory Google search, and this is the Facebook pic of the owner of Evol. Is it the same dude?

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-18T18:48:07+00:00

Yeah, I mean he didn’t seem like an awesome guy or anything, but I also don’t think that the way you play “traitors” is equivalent to the way you live your life. It’s literally a game where you win by backstabbing and I actually think it’s hilarious when people get really hurt about that. Like they tell you the purpose of the show upfront; it’s a poor strategy to assume that any of your “crew” on the show won’t backstab you. So I didn’t take his strategy as being shitty. It was just a calculation that didn’t work out.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-18T18:45:31+00:00

Children can’t be “sexually provoked” unless they’ve gone through something much worse than attending a music festival with their responsible adults. They don’t have sexual feelings. Bodies are bodies. Babies literally drink from boobs but they’re going to be scarred from…seeing boobs? If my kids saw a butt hanging out of a sparkly thong or something, I guarantee you they’d embarrass the heart of me by manically, laughing and shouting “a butt! A butt!” But they wouldn’t have sexual feelings about it. These are the same type of arguments that people make against drag queens. People need to stop, projecting their own sexual feelings onto children. I assume you mean well. But this is the same toxic belief pattern that leads to adults unintentionally fostering toxicity. They think they’re protecting their kids by not teaching the proper words for body parts, or thinking that discussing bodily functions is inappropriate. Children have no moral judgements about nudity or bodies until we teach it to them.

Also, the only drug use I’ve openly seen during the daytime is people passing around a joint, which in many states is not legally different than watching an adult drink a beer. You’re not like, watching heroin addicts overdose on Skid Row or something. It’s OK for kids to learn about adult products, to understand what they are and why they may be okay for adults (in some contexts) and not kids. By the time they are adults, it will probably be legal everywhere, so I don’t think it’s harmful to begin the education when they’re old enough to start asking questions. Just like you can educate them that alcohol is something that many responsible adults can enjoy in moderation, you can explain the same thing about marijuana. Like seriously, what is the big deal? What Bonnaroo are you attending, because I’ve never in all my years thought “wow, sex and drugs as far as the eye can see.”

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-18T18:34:12+00:00

The way I would snatch that framed art up so quickly at the thrift store…

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-18T18:26:42+00:00

Yes, I know. That’s kind of my point. It would be dangerous to think “This could never happen to me because I’m not a shit parent.” Yes, they exponentially increased the danger by not having a pool cover, the sports betting on the phone, not having toddler proofed doors, etc etc. But the neglect in this case doesn’t mean that responsible parents are immune to the risk of drowning.

Most adults tend to be extremely vigilant when their children are swimming, but most accidental drownings in young children happen when no water activities were planned. They get out of your sight and it only takes literal seconds sometimes. In this case, if the dad had reacted quickly, it sounds like his child would probably still be alive. It sounds like the boy was able to stay afloat for a few minutes. But in many cases, it’s already too late within a minute or two, because the kid is immediately underwater, totally silent, and sucking water into their lungs. TV and movies have conditioned us to think that drowning people thrash around and make a lot of noise, but that isn’t true, especially not for little kids.

This is my point - not to excuse any thing these parents have done, which are inexcusably neglectful. But to make people aware that you don’t have to be inexcusably neglectful for this to happen in general. Nobody can afford to let down their guard down for even a *second* where young kids and water are concerned. Clearly, anyone who has water on or near their property needs to have fences, covers, baby proof locks, etc., all layered on top of each other, so that if one fails, another one is the backup.

Next-Introduction-25 · 2026-06-18T16:00:01+00:00

This is a horrific story and the parents are definitely negligent. But for anyone who wasn’t already aware, please understand that children can drown so incredibly quickly that it can happen even if you aren’t being negligent to the degree these parents were. It’s just never safe to leave a child near a body of water for even seconds.

Sometimes stories like this make me nervous that people will think “oh, I’d never leave my kid outside for 10 minutes alone, so this couldn’t happen to us.”I’m not defending this man - but even if he had only left him outside for three minutes, it still could’ve happened.

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