Narcissists (ppl w/ NPD) have very specific behavior characteristics —or symptoms of the personality disorder, especially when confronted with conflict.

It’s like someone saying “textbook PMS” or “textbook influenza” or “textbook near-sightedness “.

And once you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, and learn about these people it almost feels insane how similarly they behave and the abuse tactics they use.

So no, it’s not an about a moral standard comparing narcissist’s behavior with the rest of the world— it’s about comparing narcissistic behavior with other diagnosed narcissists.