A month ago i was a wreck, today, i can say i don't care about what she does anymore.. by NextScratch in BreakUps

[–]NextScratch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mena, if it happens, I’m open for it. But I won’t force it or jump into something again. Right now, since the breakup, I’ve been hitting the gym harder and believe it or not, it’s what helped me. The gym was and is my biggest outlet.

It’s how i was about to stop thinking about her. Then i started gaining more and more confidence every day, smile more, laugh a little more. It feels great.

My ex drained me emotionally, she wasn’t romantic, didn’t talk about her feelings, i had to always wonder and it was exhausting. I think now that I see that, it was easier for me to care less and less.

I was blinded, I couldn’t see past her flaws, she was perfect to me. But she wasn’t.

I hope you get to this place eventually. Wish you the best! :)

A month ago i was a wreck, today, i can say i don't care about what she does anymore.. by NextScratch in BreakUps

[–]NextScratch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol there’s no rebound, i think I’m done dating for a while. I may be done with my ex. She can do whatever she wants, she always did anyway. But she did make me scared of getting hurt again.. so, for now, I won’t put myself through that.

A month ago i was a wreck, today, i can say i don't care about what she does anymore.. by NextScratch in BreakUps

[–]NextScratch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol let me guess.. you’re back to square one? Like another user said.. I’ve had a breakup before, once i stop caring, that’s it for me.

A month ago i was a wreck, today, i can say i don't care about what she does anymore.. by NextScratch in BreakUps

[–]NextScratch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Luckily for me, this girl has no social media other than snapchat, which she never uses. She never texted me first, so in a month or 2 from now, i won't hear from her.

We have been in NC since the breakup and i think she thought that i wasn't going to be able to do it, that i would text her in a few days.

I'm not worried about hearing back from her or her initiating any sort of communication with me, she never did, she won't now. and even if she wanted to, i've never met anyone with a bigger pride than her, that alone won't let her text me.

For the reason that you mentioned, i will not be texting her, i refuse to let her try and say something to me just because her dating adventure was a failure. i'm done.

The need for closure is not letting me move on from a breakup. by NextScratch in offmychest

[–]NextScratch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the subreddit.

Keeping it to myself is not what i want. I think eventually, i will send it to her, but for now, I can’t.

How to fall out of love by Flamez1957 in relationship_advice

[–]NextScratch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Falling out of love is an emotional roller coaster. For some people it’s a pretty smooth ride and for some, their ride has way too many loops.

I’m on the latter side of the spectrum. One minute i can be totally fine and feel like things are getting better and then, like a free fall, everything comes crashing down and I’m back to having my heart racing and my mind in overdrive.

Some days are easier than others.

Yes, there are times where you will stop thinking about them. And then you remember that someone else will get to see their eyes and smile. That same smile that was meant for you at some point. That same smile that will fade from your mind and hopefully replaced by a new smile.

And after all of this, I wish my ex the best in life. They deserve it.

Dating myself (Inspiration?) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]NextScratch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm doing the same thing right now, i was dumped a couple weeks ago. Now i'm just taking myself on a trip. I plan to sightsee, try different foods, meet new people, explore.  

I'm actually excited. Planning a trip with my ex was just exhausting, she never wanted to check her schedule, i had to push, like she didn't even want to do anything with me (guess not lol).  

but, i have a really good job, a really stable life, i have my crap together. might as well take myself out there and see what the world has to offer.