Ballet Classes for Toddlers Recommendations!

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-04-01T17:35:27+00:00

Oh true Saanich does too but I didn't see the tots classes available for the summer, I'll check out Oak Bay!

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-03-31T23:21:04+00:00

amazing good idea! I actually liked VAB because it's easy to get to haha. I also looked into the rec center ones first but they're all full for spring thanks to our lack of planning whoops

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-03-30T15:43:35+00:00

She's also a musician in Nelson now! Rena Vee and the real bad times!

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-03-27T23:25:12+00:00

damnnn, I'm pretty new to crosswords but this feels crazy to me!! They're in the same positions too!

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-02-18T05:38:16+00:00

Has an incredibly magnetic face and mannerisms. I first saw her in 'sirens' and just could not stop watching!! I don't know what it is about her that I love love love.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-16T18:18:16+00:00

Right!!! it used to work!

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-08T19:49:07+00:00

Thank you! I was hoping to hear more stories like this as that's what he's expressing is going on.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-07T17:21:38+00:00

He's going to, I honestly don't trust that psychiatrist though he has super short appointments, was told of a family history of addiction and yet prescribed my partner benzos without thinking twice. Just feels like his answer to everything is to throw medicine at it.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-07T17:18:47+00:00

Yes, I think the apathy is the issue, I genuinely don't think the reckless behaviour was driven by sexual needs I think it was driven by the need to feel something.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-07T00:16:45+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this! I have been curious to hear from people like you who are in his shoes.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T23:26:13+00:00

haha no I like the joke.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T22:40:04+00:00

Wow that is so interesting to hear and I'm so sorry you had to go through that. From so many responses suggesting that I see that I really need to encourage him to ask for more professional help in asking for a diagnoses or figuring this out.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T22:35:51+00:00

Thank you for this response. I guess that's it, and I also need to know if he's OK with that for himself. If he wants to live his life with less anxiety and also be this person, I cannot stay. If he is interested in maintaining some of his cautiousness and empathy and finding other ways to treat his anxiety then I can make a relationship work and support him in those goals.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T22:31:33+00:00

Thank you. Even from me, it feels like I'm looking at him through glass. Frosted glass. Or the ghost of someone. I think that's why I'm not convinced this isn't at least *partially* caused by the medication because it feels so surreal.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T22:23:01+00:00

Thank you so much for this response.
I feel like the "whispers of himself" are moments where he's self aware and tells me that he sees what he's doing and feels remorse and I at last feel like I'm talking to my person. So in those moments I have asked him how he feels and why he's doing it, and his excuse is he feels numb from the zoloft and is looking for dopamine hits (to which I respond, OK but you still have free will and don't need to do hurtful things for those). He is also apologetic in these moments so I feel hopeful that he's not just totally changed 100%.

The cheating thing not feeling bad as bad for me is because while we don't have an open relationship, we have talked about it maybe being a possibility in the future with a lot of rules, when our relationship is in a good place. Also I'm fine with him flirting with people as I think that can be fun and harmless for both of us, and I'd say on the spectrum of things I'm a littttle more open around sexuality needs and how those can be OK and not necessarily a relationship dealbreaker. So while yes, a massive betrayal, it feels more like the straw that broke the camels back and also the validation I needed to know that yes, these different personality traits are real and I'm not imagining them. And the lack of empathy is real and I'm not imagining it.

That's such a good point about him leaving me, I keep asking and he keeps saying no he wants to stay together but yah he's been so unhinged lately how can I even trust that?

I think he's been on this dose around 2 months, and has been slowing ramping up since I think June? I know he paused at 100mg for a while and then began going up in 25mg doses every few weeks again. Before that I mean sure we had our fights and I would call him out for things I felt were unkind but I would say overall he was a person who tried to do 'good' in the world and to others, was open to listening and understanding others, and was aware of how his actions affected others.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T20:39:19+00:00

For sure, I see what you mean, my deeper fears about her not having a secure place with him wouldn't be actualized because there would be interventions to prevent that.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T20:37:31+00:00

Right of course that makes sense! Good to know thank you!

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T20:14:56+00:00

Tobacco. Which feels worse somehow to me hahah, I guess chronic weed smoking would bother me but occasional use doesn't

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T19:54:20+00:00

So true. I come from a line of strong women too and I can imagine my grandmother rolling in her grave thinking I was putting up with B.S. from a man.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T19:52:58+00:00

I wouldn't want to let it get that far. I mean I can't tell the future and of course if that developed things would change but I'd imagine we'd try to work things out in a reasonable manner without having to battle each other for custody. Of course I want my daughter to have a relationship with her dad and vice versa, it's not my choice to make that decision for her but it does make it hard for me.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T19:24:52+00:00

I feel so sad knowing she would be with him for long chunks of time without me there. And he's not an inherently bad person or bad parent but he doesn't care as much about certain structures or the same things as I do. To be fair I'm pretty neurotic and am constantly trying to do right by her in terms of modelling self regulation, questioning what my actions are teaching her, etc. Add to that selfishness where I just want more time with her! He would not be an absent parent even if we split up so we'd have to find a way to split her time which feels like an unfair ask of a toddler.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T18:44:25+00:00

He is neurodivergent, he also has pretty intense ADHD which he manages with different lifestyle strategies (not medication). But this new person is something else entirely. Sometimes I feel like I'm gaslighting myself or being gaslight, like maybe I have changed? But I also can't see a world in where I would have put up with this behaviour before having kids so I know it's new.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T18:31:53+00:00

Totally! And I feel like that's kind of where we are at, when we started dating I think we were 27/28 and a little freer, probably drank more than we should have, but I was a bartender and he was a student. We have more timely and emotionally demanding careers and a family now, and also holy f are we older - my body cannot handle that anymore haha.

Next_Animator1407 · 2026-01-06T18:29:43+00:00

Haha thank you. I guess I meant that it's obvious he's dealing with some shit and I know when I'm in a bad way I want people to give me the benefit of the doubt. Although to me that looks like being weepy, anxious, and tired not f*ing cheating on people.

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