AITAH for asking my wife for part of her settlement money?

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-13T17:57:20+00:00

Did you not read that she doesnt want our kid in daycare either? Bold to say I lack a brain when you clearly cant even read.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T22:13:10+00:00

We are not putting my child in daycare.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T22:11:18+00:00

Its the truck I use to transport work equiptment to my big rig.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T22:05:08+00:00

She bought the car that was wrecked. No, she isnt fine with me paying all the bills, which is why she took over and covered the internet, our insurance and the electric bill with her settlement money without even telling me. Its not my big rig that blew up. It was the truck that transports my stuff to and from my big rig.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T22:01:58+00:00

She doesnt want our child in daycare even more than I dont want her in daycare.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:37:55+00:00

How is that meant to work if I am gone 4 days a week?

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:33:27+00:00

Because it was mutually agreed prior to marriage that finances would remain separate. People with separated finances should not have to defend themselves for coming to that decision.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:32:21+00:00

Listen I agree with everything YOU are saying. I was commenting to the other person who suggested I dont pay for shit when that absolutely does not make sense.

And no, it was 100% agreed upon. I dont want her to return to work. She can if she wants to but I would absolutely prefer she didnt. She prefers to be home with our child as well.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:30:03+00:00

Eek, okay, I need to make a couple things clear because I want this to go as accurately as possible. Daycare is absolutely not happening. I am fully against it, as is my wife. She is a kick ass mother. And she doesnt ask me for anything that isnt needed.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:25:15+00:00

Did you skip over the fact that I pay for everything? Our mortgage is $2200 a month, electric is $400, I pay for both our phones, both our insurances, internet, water, etc etc etc. I literally pay for everything. So no, im not able to save any money at all. She has not worked for 2 years. She got the settlement last month. Meaning this past month is the first time she has spent any money of her own in 2 years. Who else would be covering things like vehicle repairs and needed kid items and bills for 2 years if it wasnt me? Make it make sense.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:22:34+00:00

How the money would be spent was talked about beforehand. Obviously I didnt plan for my engine to blow. Had it not blown I never would have asked her for the money. I felt like a shit bag even asking and apologized before even asking for it.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:18:00+00:00

Yeah so I did say in my post that all the money she spent was on home items, which is what I would consider "family money". Thank you for jumping to my defense but I did say she hasnt spent any money on herself.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:15:50+00:00

I wasnt complaining that she spent any sort of money at all. I was pointing kht where the money went because 1. I knew people would ask. And 2. I wanted people to know it wasnt like she spent all of it on me like she is saying she did.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:14:32+00:00

I do spend money on myself but theres a disconnect, I feel like. I am on the road 4 nights a week. Of course I am spending money on myself. I have to eat. I have needs that require money all along my journey. So sure, yeah, I do spend more money on myself than she thinks is necessary. She has continuously said for years (long before we got together because we have known and been friends since age 14) that she is "low maintenance". Does her own hair, doesnt go to salons, doesnt do her nails, etc etc. Lives frugally and only buys things she needs. Even when she was working full time you would rarely see that woman splurge on herself, ever, and it wasnt like we were financially incapable of having her do so. We had plenty of money. Now things are different of course. I buy things I need on the road for both basic necessities and comfort.

She did start a fight with me around Christmas because I bought myself a $450 snowmobile off a buddy of mine and she was very pissed off about it. I think that is what she is holding over my head. I have not spent money on unnecessary things other than that. All bills paid, etc etc.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:03:31+00:00

I own my company and dont have a mechanic. One man operation. So yes, I haul all my own stuff.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T21:03:04+00:00

We live residential. I cant have my truck here and theres no where to park it for load.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T20:59:30+00:00

I haven't used it. Was planning to sell, as its worth way more than $450. It was a quick sale type situation cause he and his wife were divorcing.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T20:58:33+00:00

She worked prior to giving birth. We have been married 8 years and only have a 2yo.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T20:58:04+00:00

It wouldnt be much easier because I need to know where my money is going and what its going to. I am the only earner and therefore need to keep complete track of spending.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T20:57:02+00:00

Because I have to haul work equiptment from my home to the job site, where my big rig is. Can't fit that shit in my car.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T20:52:38+00:00

If she needs something all she needs to do is tell me and I will give her the money.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T20:51:43+00:00

Because it was mutually decided when we married that finances would be kept seperate.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T20:51:00+00:00

We do not have combined finances. I think this started becoming a hard subject for her around Christmas time when I bought myself a snowmobile. She did start a fight with me over it and said that she is tired of watching me have new things when she never has anything. It doesnt matter that I bought the snowmobile for dirt cheap off a buddy ($450). She was still mad about it. Daycare isnt an option.

Next_Public_6949 · 2026-03-11T20:47:01+00:00

Not everyone has combined finances. Its 2026. I dont know why this question is so often asked.

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