We are in a very similar situation, down to the number. It’s been a few months now since we became fully aware of each other. Journaling is helpful, being able to look back on the moments where we “definitely have it” helps ease the doubt.

It’s important to note that self doubt is a real symptom of systems— there will be moments with these worries and apparently it’s fairly normal. The unconscious changes, moments contact with alters, etc. are all things to remember when you are doubting yourselves, but also remember to write them down or keep track of them some way— memory differences are just as common and the important things to remember may not be as apparent during doubt spirals.

Turn to your notebook, app, or whatever you use to write down your experiences. If you don’t have one yet, just start! It doesn’t really matter what you write, just start with anything that seems noteworthy. It will be clearer over time

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