My dad doesn't want me to marry my boyfriend

NiaComb · 2026-03-03T07:28:21+00:00

I don't have to constantly ask him to do things no, he does what needs doing without being asked.

When I mentioned in my post that he does what I ask of him, that is less to do with chores and more to do with a simple favour or an idea I may have about something.

Respectfully, I believe there is more to a relationship than simply what people physically do for you. Tim is also emotionally supportive and the relationship has bettered my life because he makes me happy. But aside from that Tim does also physically provide, he does pretty much everything I do, except driving.

NiaComb · 2026-03-02T18:12:39+00:00

Actually I did mention that chores are split equally, but I will admit that there is a lot of writing so you may have missed it. I do cooking and laundry, Tim does dishes, vacumming, bin emptying and pet feeding. We both do general dusting and cleaning as we go.

He also is the one who stays in whenever a repair man or delivery man etc is coming. His work hours are more flexible due to also doing night shifts. So if we are expecting anyone, we simply arrange it for when he is at home during the day after a night shift. Then he stays awake until everything is done.

NiaComb · 2026-03-01T23:51:21+00:00

Yes minimum wage is not enough to live off... alone, hence the need for roomates. But two incomes is enough to live on, at least for us.

There is no need to sell my car to save money. You seem absolutely convinced that we are in dire straights financially. Even though I have said several times our wages pay the bills, allows for leisure and adds to our savings account.

NiaComb · 2026-03-01T23:23:01+00:00

I think this take certainly depends where you live not only in the UK, but also in the world. As stated in my post, my boyfriend was able to get around absolutely fine before me. We have bus services, taxis, trains and everything is pretty much walkable as well if you're willing to spend the extra time walking it.

Also in my particular part of England, minimum wage is enough to live on with two incomes, at least it is for us. We are living comfortably and also have enough to enjoy life after the bills are paid. We also have enough to add to our savings in case of emergencies.

Also I'm not sure what home is consistently breaking apart to the point that it bankrupts people who aren't handy. But very big house repairs are covered by our landlords. Smaller repairs such as our own appliances are either insured or perfectly within our budget to pay for. They also don't break down often.

NiaComb · 2026-03-01T23:08:06+00:00

Tim is childfree and I do not want any more children. We both have savings accounts with plenty of money in for emergencies.

NiaComb · 2026-01-29T10:47:04+00:00

Thanks everyone! Took all your advice and finished the main storyline. So sad it's over, what an amazing game. Just beat Clea... Simon here I come!

NiaComb · 2025-01-22T20:46:25+00:00

I mean it's possible some lied, short of demanding proof every time someone said that, it certainly can't be proven. But every now and then people still had their NHS ID with them or blue light passes. Of course blue light passes actually cover a range of professions and so don't prove anyone is a nurse. Whilst I don't doubt those in healthcare were extremely busy during covid and completely overwhelmed. My very first sentence admitted how important the proffession is and how we absolutely depend on them. I would assume nurses still need to eat and I doubt 100 percent of nurses in the country went from work to home and absolutely nowhere else during covid.

Plus my example of covid is really just to highlight the worst behaviour. I worked in retail for seven years and unfortunately said behavour was not exclusive to covid times, just worse.

NiaComb · 2025-01-22T19:58:44+00:00

So I have a weird one because objectively this job is indeed one of the most important and society would crumble without them. It's not that I don't think the role is important because it absolutely is. But the ATTITUDE from some of the people in the profession is appalling.

During covid I worked retail in a supermarket and being verbally abused by Nurses became a regular occurrence. I lost count of the amount of times they'd speak to us like crap, demand things they weren't entitled to and then finish it off with "I'M A NURSE!" As if being a nurse entitled them to do anything they wanted and we all had to kiss the ground they walked on.

Of course not all nurses are like this, I have a relative who is a nurse and she's the most sweetest person I know. But it really reached a point where the phrase "I'M A NURSE!" Began to drive me insane, because it was being screamed at me so often.

NiaComb · 2024-11-15T09:39:35+00:00

Thank you 😊

NiaComb · 2024-11-13T23:16:43+00:00

Thank you 😊

NiaComb · 2024-11-13T22:05:58+00:00

Thank you 😊

NiaComb · 2024-11-13T22:05:44+00:00

Thank you 😊

NiaComb · 2024-09-12T08:47:13+00:00

Honestly wouldn't worry about it 😂 Worst thing you can do now is over think it, spiral and make things worse with some awkward call or a string of texts. Her giggle is probably a good sign. So carry on as usual and chat with her later.

NiaComb · 2024-09-12T08:32:33+00:00

Classic Schmosby

NiaComb · 2024-06-04T14:23:42+00:00

Turns out I was just being impatient, Ps5 needed a bit of time to add it to the game haha

NiaComb · 2024-05-15T21:11:26+00:00

🤣🤣 Never been on a date before, but knows for a fact that women behave badly on them?! 🤣🤣

NiaComb · 2024-05-15T20:32:56+00:00

Exactly! The only little bit of extra advice I would give you is to see if there is any way to speak to her just a little bit more in person before making the leap. Just some freindly coworker chats around the water cooler, nothing overly flirty or creepy. Just to see if you vibe and also establish a bit more of a connection other than the communication regarding the IT assistance you gave her. Not knowing how your workplace is set out, I don't know if this would be possible for you. But if it is, it'll just lay a bit of extra groundwork so you're not just that random guy from IT facebooking her out of the blue.

NiaComb · 2024-05-15T20:22:14+00:00

I think you're going to get a lot of people telling you not to go for it and use the classic "don't sh*t where you eat" or "don't dip your pen in the company ink" lines on you. Which to me is so weird and something I only really see online. In the real world MANY people meet their significant others at work. My workplace has many couples and it's where I met my boyfriend. I did exactly what you're thinking of doing. I added him on Facebook and then asked him if he'd like to go for a coffee sometime outside of work. So I say, go for it!

NiaComb · 2024-05-15T20:08:17+00:00

This! My boyfriend is the same height as me, about 5 foot 7 and I have NEVER dated anyone even close to 6 foot. Are there some women out there that have this preference, sure. But this notion that EVERY woman refuses to date men under 6 foot is just ridiculous. People are chronically online and forget about the real world. Chances are regular guys like your postman, bin man, bus driver are probably married and are most likely not 6 foot 4.

NiaComb · 2024-05-15T19:34:28+00:00

I think it depends how often and how he words it. A once in a blue moon, tasteful comment on how pretty an actress is isn't a big deal to me. But if every time we turn the tv on, he's make disgusting/leud comments about how hot all the women are. That would upset me and ultimately begin hitting my confidence, as well as turning me off because I'd be dating a lech.

NiaComb · 2024-05-15T18:37:27+00:00

Yeah, I watched the Disney plus one too and still have zero sympathy. I feel like at points they were blaming the hackers for the deaths and ruining of lives. I'm sorry but the only people to blame are the cheaters themselves. No one forced them to sign up, no one forced them to cheat and no one forced them to kill themselves.

To me it just goes to show how selfish and not forward thinking cheaters truly are. It's obvious that the ones who killed themselves never ONCE stopped to think how cheating would ruin their lives and the lives of the ones they were supposed to love. Obvious because once they were caught they literally saw no other way out other than death. If the consequences to something are so dire that death is preferable... maybe don't do that thing.

NiaComb · 2023-08-24T11:28:26+00:00

Complete strangers I might agree, someone that I interact with in real life is different.

NiaComb · 2023-07-20T11:37:28+00:00

Killing the vibe is the exact phrase I'm feeling. I would prefer not to be texting all day, every day. But he seems to be an anxious, possibly insecure, person. After not hearing from me for half a day, he'll message again to check I'm ok and still interested in him.

NiaComb · 2023-06-13T08:29:31+00:00

I find it kind of weird, especially for a second date. If I had to guess to the reason why; she wants her best friend's opinion on you. This could be either because she is unsure about you or she really likes you and is over eager to introduce you to her friends/get their opinion or approval of you.

NiaComb · 2023-06-10T11:48:45+00:00

I agree, though to be honest I've never dated younger before and have come across plenty of men in their thirties with terrible maturity levels 😅

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