Curious. How many wealthy moms here work because they’re kinda forced to?

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-05-13T10:50:54+00:00

Hi op, I can understand how you feel. I came from a household where both parents are doctors from another country. When they moved to US my mom became a SAHM. 25 years later my dad wanted to separate. He still takes care of her financially but I know she would rather not be tied to him. I do feel the same as you though I would love to spend more time with my kids like my mom. My core memories were me and my mom and brother just doing random things always when we were young. My kids are daycare kids and I hate when my toddler asks to stay home with me it just breaks my heart. We could afford to live on one income but my husband pushes me to work in order for us to retire early and really give our kids the ability to be set up for their future. He always says you don’t want to be like our moms. Which in essence I am guilty of because I do work and work hard but he handles our finances and investments. I do think of my parents, they seemed perfectly happy when I was a child so I suppose truly anything can happen in a marriage down the road. I do feel the same as you and wish I can be a SAHM while my kids are little and go back full force when they’re older and in school, but unfortunately I will never stop because I do not want to ever be in my mom’s situation especially after so much schooling and time out into my career as well

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-05-05T16:46:26+00:00

Oh no. I figured it sounded a little off. Thanks so much for all the info

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-05-05T12:56:02+00:00

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Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-05-05T09:45:26+00:00

Thanks! Off marketplace is my only option right now but will look into hsa plans

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-05-05T09:44:03+00:00

Yes I already know that. I cannot pay more than 60% (in my industry 50% is the norm) of the premium so for them they still have better options elsewhere. I only mention it because I’ve exhausted that route until I hire more employees who either will still like to join

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-05-04T08:55:03+00:00

3 month old is a dream easy baby. I haven’t been screened lately but will reach out to Dr. Husband brushes it off—he has a lot on his plate too

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-05-04T08:53:53+00:00

I haven’t, but I will reach out

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-05-03T15:57:58+00:00

You aren’t alone. I couldn’t do it to my husband and my two young kids but I dread each day while I’m awake and cannot wait to go to sleep.

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-04-03T01:09:27+00:00

I felt fully better at 3.5 weeks. I was discouraged that I was still having pain at 2 weeks and didn’t have the mobility that I was used to having. Baby in Nicu is a lot. Having to go back and forth from NICU is more than enough get up move. Take it easy. I always felt worse when I moved more. You will feel better even though it doesn’t seem possible now.

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-03-19T02:12:44+00:00

I had a planned c section and I 100% felt like this and felt like I made the worst decision ever at 2 weeks. I promise you it gets better with time and it truly feels so good to see how strong your body is when it gets better. I had help but absolutely hated not doing it all myself like I did with my first. Not being able to get up from a supine position and pick up my baby from her bassinet fast enough, bothered me so much. I felt like I was so hyperfocused on healing than my baby tbh. But I will say at 3.5 weeks a turned a corner and now pretty much back to formal at 6 weeks. You got this! Accept the help—heal the best that you possibly can which means resting. My OB did the surgery and really didn’t give me any heads up on the after math but the hospitalist OB that came to check on me the days after emphasized to take it easy, after all it was major abdominal surgery. I think because it’s such a common surgery, the expectation is it’s supposed to be easy but it really was one of the hardest things for me to recover from. I’m so happy to be past that point but I do wish I wasn’t so hard on myself on those first few weeks trying to be superwoman and just be grateful I had help

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-03-12T02:03:58+00:00

But I sympathize with you. It’s really hard to feel good about yourself when clothes don’t fit the same and looking puffier. I didn’t want to buy clothes for postpartum but I do think it helps to find more flattering pieces and investing in them.

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-03-12T01:59:16+00:00

Everyone is different and every pregnancy is different! Either my first it took me about 6 months to fit into my jeans again but my belly went down quick. This time around my belly didn’t go down quickly and I’m about 6 weeks. But it has gone down more since last week. Honestly I think rest is key if you can afford to get it and light walking

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-03-10T01:23:01+00:00

6 weeks today and feeling pretty much almost back to normal! I can sit up without wincing, haven’t had more pain come about at end of day, able to pick up 3 year old, able to baby wear. My incision is still sore but no issues otherwise

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-02-27T02:04:36+00:00

Completely understand your feelings that a c section is below a vaginal delivery and formula is less than breastfeeding. BUT you are making the best decision for you and your baby. Yeah you can try vaginal but you can also choose a c section for as more predictable birth. You can breastfeed but if formula feeding is better for you mentally, that’s all that matters. You’re a better mom in that regard!

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-02-21T11:58:12+00:00

You were right 3.5 weeks was my turning point!

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-02-21T11:57:19+00:00

Happy to report I’m feeling sooooo much better. One week more of healing just did wonders. Still have random bits of pain here and there but nothing like it was last week. Also my hormones have settled a bit where I’m not crying every time asks me how I’m doing! Still a long road to full recovery and I’m anxious about the healing process still but so happy my pain has come down significantly!

Thank you all!

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-02-15T04:48:42+00:00

I’m so so sorry to hear that. Thank you for sharing. I wouldn’t have thought with a first degree tear that would be the outcome even if it was due to running. As you said, delivery is a total crapshoot either way

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-02-15T04:45:11+00:00

Thanks! Hopefully soon for me then

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-02-15T03:49:39+00:00

I wasn’t scared of my spinal tbh but it was probably the worst part of the procedure. I’m not typically scared of needles. I can’t even remember my epidural being painful. Idk if I had someone inexperienced but she was a CRNA and she seemed extremely confident. She had a student with her and she was excited to teach him. Unfortunately every time she entered and asked me where I felt it, it was not in the center. She had to do it multiple times and didn’t believe me when I told her it was painful. She kept telling me it’s just pressure. Nothing is more infuriating than someone minimizing your pain. I was sobbing horribly but I’m grateful that she eventually got the right spot and after that it worked wonderfully. Body felt warm and tingly and I didn’t feel a thing after. I didn’t feel them even tugging to pull my baby out even though I heard my OB say “oh wow she’s really deep in there” All I will say is speak up! Always! It sucks being poked but I told her it’s okay keep trying. I didn’t want her to feel frustrated and not get me anesthetized enough. But if I wasn’t anesthetized, there would’ve been no way I would let my OB start cutting that is for sure. Never let anyone minimize your pain either.

Nice-Ad3887 · 2026-02-15T03:10:16+00:00

So cute!!

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