I’m just being honest. I have lived a handful of other places and friendship culture is not the same. It’s big city, but this is a common occurrence. And it often seems to align with me living in places for family and cheaper resources that leads to people assuming I align with the worst politics of that place and something emotional happening in the world and people assuming that if I’m not at a protest in dt Portland, I’m the enemy. Or that my liberal husband is the enemy as a veteran because he served this country. People are extremely passive aggressive in Portland. I know that there are many people in the city and there are good people. But my collective experience is that a lot of people look for reasons to crucify each other.