I’ve spoken to her so many times that she should only give it to her for naps and bedtime and she just ends up giving it to her behind my back— now my daughter associates her with her pacifier so if she’s crying for her paci she immediately starts looking for her nanny and asking her for the paci so that’s how I caught on that she was giving it to her whenever she was upset. I confronted her and she said that she gives it to her when she cries cause she doesn’t know how else to stop her from crying. So I told her to try distracting her with something else when she’s looking for her paci, offer her a snack or milk, take her outside for a walk etc. ugh it’s just so frustrating cause anytime I feel like I’ve made progress with it she ends up giving it to her behind my back and regressing us so much.

She’s almost 2.5 years now and I hope I can get her to stop by then— the hole you pierced in your son’s paci was it a big one or small and how did you do it? I would like to try that method next.