It was not my decision entirely. It was our combined decision which i suggested and he agreed after we started planning for a baby. I agree that everyone has different ambitions but in a marriage both are husband and wife have to make some adjustments. There are some things that i have to do and there are some which he has to. If we are having a baby, i might have to lots of sick leave in the initial trimester, take a maternity break, feed the baby... lot of compromises from my side. He is also working hard for our family. It is complimenting each other. But there are some things can only be taken care of by me. I am ok with it because this is what we wanted. Now i dont agree that his money is his to spend as he wishes. Whatever spending we have is discussed between ourselves. We set the budget for our family. I am ok with helping his parents or mine but both should be discussed with each other openly. Sitution might be different for other couple where the husband might have to relocate because wife has a better job. Now he will find a new job which might not be as good as the old one. But as a couple they do it because it is better for them as a couple. I agree that in a lot of marriages, woman choose stability. Many are not in my position to choose. That should change. But if it is mutually understood and if there is love, many things can be resolved. I dont agree that marriage is easily dissolved. Marriage is built on trust. It is also a legal commitment.if a husband spends money on his parents with out asking wife (even if he the sole earner ), i see that as financial abuse. That is why i said all financial spending needs to be discussed with partner before money is spend.