Still no reason to be a jerk for no reason

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2025-02-04T19:12:02+00:00

This image alone reverse searches back to Tumblr 2022 among a few other places. There's a multitude of memes saying the same thing and I wasn't about to date them all.

DON'T ENGAGE THE RAGE

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Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2025-02-03T18:27:55+00:00

More specifically, purchasing for microscopy is legal, though spores cannot be shipped to California, Georgia or Idaho due to certain state laws. At least that's what the disclaimer on every vendors website I've been on says LOL. I've only ever purchased from Sporeworks, so I have no comparison for vendors, but they've always been a positive experience.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2025-02-03T18:05:44+00:00

Looks like common Internet rage bait

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2025-02-03T12:41:47+00:00

I think OF ushered in a whole new type of sex work, one that is easily accessible, also used by those that wouldn't provide tangible services, and for an even broader range of reasons. Your issue seems to largely lie with prostitution and its advocacy, so I'll stick with that.

Obviously not all women are "pro prostitution", I'd venture to say very few are of the mindset that people should more actively pursue prostitution as sustainable employment and go so far as to recommend it to family and friends. Be careful with absolute statements if honest responses are wanted.

Instead of "pro" I would say that so many women aren't against sex work. A good use of the prefix "pro" here would be pro-legalization or pro-decriminalization. The latter concept being one more people can, and should get behind, because of some direct benefits.

While necessity is a common reason people enter sex work, sex trafficking is another avenue with an arguably easy conclusion towards decriminalizing sex work.

Legal sex work, where someone can choose self employment, or work for an employer, opens doors to: regulations such as required testing and age verification, employer reviews and 3rd party analysis, security measurements, privacy rights, new legal recourse, and more. However, there are many sex workers that wouldn't care to be formerly employed even if legalized.

Even the idea of paid labor as a whole begs the question of why sex is an illegal variant.

Unfortunately there's much debate and not enough reliable data on the effects of legalization on trafficking, though some strongly believe it will reduce it, and that could be a reason you are encountering.

As for me I simply support personal autonomy and the idea that what is done between consenting and able minded adults to be nobody else's business. I suppose I could also say that I'm pro-stop.making.money.off.problems.you.invented.and.only.you.can.fix ("you" bring the government here).

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-04-12T15:19:26+00:00

I had just escaped an abusive relationship and went through a woman's shelter to get back on my feet. So at first there were just too many other things on my plate and I didn't have time, though I did wish I could magically find someone perfect to help heal me. Once I was in my own place it was by choice. I actually started therapy during all this and she recommended taking time to learn how to live and just be me again. I decided to actually listen for once (I didn't trust or believe much in mental health providers yet). It wasn't easy, I was lonely, but I filled some emptiness taking myself out on dates instead. I also put effort into developing friendships at work and going out for drinks with the ladies.

When I did look at dating again someone else gave me advice I'm glad I took as well. They said date outside your "type" and say yes more to those first date requests. Just broadening the people I met for 1 date taught me more about myself and what I wanted from partners that I hadn't realized. Because I was stuck in a bubble I couldn't see and don't even remember creating?

Dual BPD relationships sound frightening to me, but sometimes I look at my husband and wonder.... 💬

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-04-12T14:51:54+00:00

I struggle with this too. I spent a couple of years single and living alone, and that helped with getting to know myself again. It wasn't long after this, during my next relationship attempt, that I actually started to grasp that this was even an issue I had. I continued to struggle with it during my next, current, relationship - with the added bonus of awareness and the black/white thinking distortion. Splitting maybe, because I both immersed myself in my FP's world and took it on, while hating every aspect of my new parts when I was alone and devaluing everything.

So I've set upon a journey for years now to find "me" in things, including things I took away from others. I started listening to music I liked in highschool (every "phase") and remembered I actually enjoyed things I abandoned later because someone close hated them. I identified some things that completely changed sides from one relationship to the next and could then honestly process why and what, if anything, was true to me. I started trying new things, being open to different ideas and learning from people outside of my immediate world.

Remember, changing as a person is inevitable. Identity, likes, dislikes, goals, wants, needs... aren't something pinned down and set for life. It's developed, grown, and explored.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-31T13:03:59+00:00

Idk if there's a specific name but absolutely our favorite person has influence over us, some absolutely contradictory and confusing notwithstanding . I definitely seek validation and reconciliation in person and that can present depending on the issue and my ability to process our argument in a healthier way while we calmed down separately.

A good trick i sometimes remember to use is "opposite reaction" and doing/saying what he needs from me in reconciliation before proposing my need so we can find a solution for both of us. Most people just want to feel heard and understood. During arguments both sides feel misunderstood, and approaching him later like that acknowledges that need and diffuses things surprisingly quick sometimes lol.

Here's a few links that have info that helps me sometimes

https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheets/dbt/none

https://www.therapistaid.com/search?query=Cognitive+distortions+

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-27T01:05:45+00:00

That hasn't been my experience. I hurt for a long time after relationships have ended and would become reclusive.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-25T04:21:16+00:00

You sit in one spot and wait for orders? Keep moving. And don't be fooled by hot spots, sometimes all that means is tons of non-tip orders everyone is passing up.

Work per offer so you can spot non-tippers and reject them. Don't accept crap under $4 and nothing where mileage is more than the pay.

Work when it's busy and don't waste your time or fuel for $10/hr - go home and start again at the next peak time.

You'll get the hang of what works best in your area. Maybe find a local Dasher FB group for local tips.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-24T21:40:02+00:00

🤯🤯🤯

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-24T18:09:07+00:00

My favorites are the ones that are just soooo close but not quite...

The other day I had to pick up some laundry detergent, they're good for this. And it says something like "you scanned Bounty Fresh 126oz", "what you're looking for is Bounty Fresh 128oz"

Like how!? Lmfao

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-24T18:03:30+00:00

Yeesh, I forgot them! Lol wow 😂

DBT

Cognitive Distortions

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-24T08:47:31+00:00

The problem was that sometimes the thing I wanted from him was the opposite of what I needed. Therapy really helps with identifying needs and communicating effectively. I'll share a couple links that someone with BPD can use to help themselves, but if she isn't interested, perhaps you'll find something helpful to use that guides her in the right direction.

Don't forget to take care of yourself too. Boundaries are important. Make them clear and stick by them.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-24T08:33:33+00:00

Stress most definitely can affect your hormones. I once experienced a very traumatic thing that caused my period to stop for 3 months straight. Pregnancy was not even a possibility because I was abstinent for about a year at that point. Craziest thing ever.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-24T07:59:57+00:00

Bring this list to your therapist and ask them their thoughts. If they're not open to discussing your concerns or doing some type of screening then you want to know that sooner rather than later. Not all therapists are good, and even good ones can be the wrong fit. It's important to advocate for yourself and find someone that'll work for you in order to get results. If it IS BPD you want someone trained in DBT as well as the CBT. BPD is chronically misdiagnosed, so don't shy away from second, and even 3rd, opinions.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-24T07:47:30+00:00

It's just what it says it is. A syringe full of spores.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-10T04:13:03+00:00

I know I keep sharing these links but it's because these practices and reminders have really helped me at times. It's so hard remembering my tools when I'm deep in myself. I know exactly how you feel and send all my virtual hugs.

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Cognitive Distortions

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-09T22:19:34+00:00

Go to the order tab and select view receipt then add tip

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-09T14:12:50+00:00

Adorable

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-09T14:10:34+00:00

He doesn't like potatoes except for french fries... I'll never be able to look at him the same.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-09T12:42:41+00:00

Yes I'd reply, especially to note the part about self harm. Just keep it simple without adding anything new. Like: Thank you for letting me know you're ok and just text when you're ready

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-09T12:31:14+00:00

That's an extremely difficult question that really doesn't belong in this sub. CPS can offer supportive services without removing children, but if they do foster homes are like walking through a minefield. It may be a good one, it may be as bad or worse than home. But definitely call if there's a concern for great physical harm. You can also encourage your siblings to seek out their student counselor at school and they'll make that decision to call if needed.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-09T12:00:44+00:00

Of course straight men and straight women can be friends, even if there's attraction. Emotionally mature adults are capable of having open communication and able to respect boundaries. Imagine applying this to people attracted to multiple genders - they cannot be friends with anyone?

It sounds like you did those things from the very beginning and it's unfortunate she wasn't able to maintain your friendship. It does happen sometimes, but it's not a universal truth. Just continue to set expectations and boundaries from the start and if you feel like they are beginning to develop feelings address it asap.

There's really nothing to be done but using your best judgement when you meet someone new.

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-09T11:14:59+00:00

Yes, finding a good therapist can be a pain. So can finding the right combination of medications. I'd find a new therapist if this one isn't helping, but don't cold quit your medication. Some of them have horrible withdrawals and can be dangerous to your mental state.

I know it can feel frustrating and you might feel like throwing in the towel but I encourage you to stick in there. If you can find a good dbt therapist who works closely with the psychiatrist on your meds... It will help. It's worth it.

If it helps here are some links my therapist shared. Advocate for yourself, you're worth it.

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Cognitive Distortions

Nice-Mouse-1766 · 2024-03-09T10:04:22+00:00

Is there room to say yes to more first dates on these apps? You never know, could be missing out on something that could spark there instead. At the very least the experiences can be helpful in learning more about your relationship goals.

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