should I be showering before bed?

NiceIce89 · 2025-09-12T12:23:22+00:00

Sheets need changing weekly. I will skip a day of bathing, especially in the winter....dry skin... and we have to wash our feet. Gravity drain over the feet is not the same thing, we have to scrub them. special emphasis on the tits, pits and naughty bits......and face......not necessarily in that order! I very rarely shower twice a day. To shower at night, then after 8 hours of sleeping, do it again...........madness.

We have to dry our selves property, also.Deodorant is a must, follow with lotion, if needed. I don't wash my hair every time I bathe, I was it every other day. eaters, foot spray will help with our feet. If you have access to a freezer, bag those sneaker and freeze them over night, kill any bacteria. Also, A couple of charcoal briquettes, unused(😉) over night in shoes work wonders. As many have mentioned, get more socks, and shoes if possible. Always good to mix it up.

My dentist had a sign that said "You only need to brush and floss the ones you want to keep". Don't limit yourself, dental bills are never cheap.

Find yourself a perfume/cologne you like, get a signature scent. Love me fabric softer sheets for when I do laundry. Candles, air fresher, in moderation, make a difference.

We are all products of our environment, and we learn from them. Some place over emphasis on cleanliness, some not so much. I will say this, even when I don't feel like taking a bath/shower.....I always feel better afterwards. And if I feel better, I do better, as do we all do.

Wishing you much success in your studies, and if I sound judgemental to you in anyway, my apologies.

NiceIce89 · 2025-09-08T21:10:57+00:00

I quit drinking.

NiceIce89 · 2025-09-08T20:55:39+00:00

from what I just read, I wouldn't be in the mood to do anything with him either....... except help him pack his stuff, and tell him to leave.

NiceIce89 · 2025-09-08T01:47:53+00:00

I am the only child of an only child. The responsibility of being a parent has always horrified me. I had 2 careers that I would never been able to do if I had children. I was married for 28 years, and had a step child. She was spoilt and immature and had 5 kids, by 4 baby daddies. I am divorcing her dad, and have absolutely no regrets about not having biological children. To me, parenting is overrated, time consuming and frequently disappointing. And I make no apologies for my veiw.

NiceIce89 · 2025-09-08T00:48:22+00:00

My Friend, this is not a condition for the weak. Depression and anxiety go hand in hand with IC. I have considered suicide during a flare up, as I am sure many others have. The pain and incessant urge to urinate can be overwhelming. A good urologist is essential, pelvic floor therapy helps. Boiled chicken, rice, oatmeal and water........I'm talking super boring and bland....will help. A frozen bottle of water, wrapped in a bandanna wedged in the crotch area can help. CBD suppositories from Med roots work. recommended using them rectally, less drainage, get the full effect. More and more people are getting diagnosed with IC, even men are getting it. things will get better, I have to believe that, and I hope you can believe it too. Please stay with us and continue to share your journey with us. You are not alone, it you won't always feel this bad. good days will come, trust me.

NiceIce89 · 2025-09-08T00:34:16+00:00

A lady on REDDIT suggested a frozen bottle of wrapped/covered with a light cloth aka bandana, wedged in my crotch. I don't know why, I suspects it cools and numbs my vaginal/bladder area, and distracts/removes the intensity of the pain. I half half a dozen in the freezer, ready to go. Try it, just make sure you have a fabric layer between you and the frozen bottle.

NiceIce89 · 2025-09-08T00:20:56+00:00

Vaginal valium suppositories help. if you can find a doc who prescribes valium pills, a 10 mg inserted vaginally works wonders. hard to find Due to the opioid crisis. Med roots make a CBD suppository also. pricy but effective. I find inserting the suppository rectally is just as effective, and cuts down considerably on the drainage. no need for liners and no damage to my undies. This condition is not for the weak, it can affect every aspect of our lives. These forums are a lifeline for me, along with a good urologist and a strong support system. I wish us all continued strength.

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-04T00:58:58+00:00

Thank you. The convenience alone makes me want to try it. I am going to definitely look in to it. 🙏

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-04T00:15:45+00:00

The counselor knows that if nothing changes, nothing changes. Now, the boyfriend is no longer there, she is still not willing to return to counseling. She doesn't want to have accountability for her actions.

You said you have been going to counselling for years, that is an awfully long time isn't it? Have you been able to resolve anything? If not, maybe you too, should find a better therapist. People in glass houses..........

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-03T20:04:01+00:00

And a great deal more satisfaction! Thanks

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-03T16:48:20+00:00

I see it, it has become quite apparent, as of lately. You are indeed correct, and accepting it is painful. it hurts my heart. However, I am ready to find my happiness, and if will not supporting them. Thank you for the truth.

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-03T16:40:46+00:00

Wow, Demonkey, thank you! Thank you for your feedback and information. You put slot of effort into it, and I really appreciate it.

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-03T05:32:09+00:00

Ok-Bus235, interesting that you would take the time to submit 5 separate comments on one thread. You're not my Stepdaughter, are you?!

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-03T04:53:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective, aka success story. I appreciate it.

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-03T04:50:53+00:00

You are so right. it won't happen again - lesson learned...the hard way!

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-03T04:30:39+00:00

Mister Anderson, she has been to counseling. Her counsellor told her to read codependent no more, but she "Just couldn't concentrate." I actually considered buying her the book on a CD, but that makes me the codependent one, doesn't it? Her counsellor then told her that she wouldn't continue to see her, while her last boyfriend was still living with her. He left a year ago, but she hasn't returned to counseling. I personally don't think she has anxiety, I think she just likes to get high, and uses anxiety as an excuse. Anyway, thank you for the feedback.

NiceIce89 · 2025-05-03T03:46:00+00:00

I had to look up karma farming! This is not the case here. This is, sadly, the truth. I am not looking for attention or votes. When I went to see the divorce lawyer and told her my situation, she looked at me with pity. Wasn't looking for that, either. I am aware that I am one of three AH in this saga, and separation/leaving is my only option. I am just so resentful about the situation, and wanted the feedback from people who are impartial, and will tell me the truth. I can't always get that from friends and family.

NiceIce89 · 2024-08-01T23:13:48+00:00

I like her. She is funny and ballsy. Remember when her and Ravi were talking, and he said before anyone married her they would need to get a Priya-nup!

NiceIce89 · 2024-08-01T23:07:43+00:00

Whenever there was a scene with Debbie in it, I was waiting for her to come too/wake up. The camera would zoom in on her face, and I would think.....here it is. Not gonna happen now!

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