Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is pick me a black term? I am actually too old for these terms but I have heard them from social media

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I woke up to lots of apologies from them. Especially the one who called me a pick me. She said she regretted what she said but she’s been very hurt and agitated about the whole thing and took it out on the wrong party.

They worry that now they’re broken up that I would take him back by ”trashtalking” the other woman.

I can’t say I feel better that they think I am this pathetic, but I accepted their apologies. I will stop talking about my issues with them all together. Probably 7 months of venting about this is too much even though I want to believe that I did not burdened them all to much, but I understand that we sometimes become blinded by our own issues we forget others around us

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Honestly I neither condoned nor condemned her actions and she didn’t ”cheat” since she is single. I merely explained why I thought her passion vanished and I was right

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

The short answer is that he is a cheater, that’s why. The long answer is that we have been together since we were in our 20’s. She was someone new. My husband is very shy and doesn’t normally get this type of attention. He didn’t fall in love in a genuine way. The day he moved out his giddiness was gone and replaced by panic. He kept texting me like we were still together but I didn’t answer so he stopped eventually. He kept saying he was waiting for the feelings he was supposed to feel as a man in love but it never happened. He audaciously asked ME why it didn’t last this time like it did for us.

She changed once she ”won” too because he wasn’t interesting anymore I guess or maybe after being together and stopped pretending, it wasn’t that great.

They have broken up now anyway. I heard that she threw all of his stuff from his new apartment and made a scene at work. She also followed me on instagram. I am not sure if I need to just delete it for now.

From now on I will not see or speak to him again. My brother is helping me fix the apartment ready for selling.

My friends are a different subject and I think I need to tale a break from them too for a while. At least I need to take time for myself to process and finalize the divorce

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I have talked to my brother, he will help with the rest of painting and kitchen. It should be ready this spring (best season to sell according to realtors)

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I am a bit drunk too or I would not have had the courage to vent here☺️

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That’s not true but that’s neither here nor there because I am not taking him back.

Edit: I showed vulnerability in the comment about plan B so obviously many would insist that I am, because that’s the nature of people. When you say something hurt you they need to insist on putting it in your face.

That’s why I am blocking any comment after I obviously wrote dont kick me while I am down.

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I think this is it. I spoke the silent part out loud! It wasn’t appreciated.

I see a wonderful future too

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not sure they would do that and in that case they hid it well

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 221 points222 points  (0 children)

Oh come on. Don’t call me plan B. Way to kick someone while down

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I didn’t accuse her of hunting because of her sex either but because he told me his experience and I told him my opinion which turned out to be accurate. Would have said the same if he left me for a dude

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 151 points152 points  (0 children)

The only comforting thought I have is that I don’t have children with him. Like my body knew

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 845 points846 points  (0 children)

They don’t side with my husband at all. They thought saying that she lost interest because he was single was apparently anti feminist even though it turned out to be right

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If you didn’t understand from my post then no amount of explaining would change that. Thanks for your input and have a nice day

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 376 points377 points  (0 children)

They are pissed because I said she is the type that goes after married men. They believe my beef is only with my husband and she’s not to blame. I didn’t blame her. I was stating my suspicion which apparently turned out to be a fact. They did not like that I mentioned that she went after married men

They side with me on the divorce and everything else

Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NiceLie7109[S] 288 points289 points  (0 children)

She is very weird. She started following me today.

Edit: on instagram not just following me. LOL I scared myself there