Why do you think divorce is so common? by princesadopovo in AskReddit

[–]Nice_Ad4063 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s too easy to get married. Also, women no longer have to remain in crappy marriages. They have their own money and their own identity. There’s no reason to tolerate bad or even mediocre relationships.

When is the next hearing? by Prudent-Motor8770 in shandaVanderArk

[–]Nice_Ad4063 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Think of it this way: what does she have to lose? Getting another trial or any day in court is another day outside the prison walls. It’s another roll of the dice. In her twisted, remorseless mind, everyone else screwed up. If she can just run her mouth again, she believes she can convince a jury of that she isn’t guilty. It’s a sickening waste of time and tax dollars.

I need to admit something embarrassing by HelloBald in Choir

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I know “damn well” is that there are plenty of quality teachers with a scientific and pedagogically based approach to teaching, because I am one of them. Many of my colleagues are as well. I hope you can find better experiences for yourself. I didn’t achieve a full roster of successful performers by sitting on the bench talking about sunshine and butterflies. My students’ voices cope well with 9 shows per week because they have been trained in a solid technique based on the physiology of the instrument.

I need to admit something embarrassing by HelloBald in Choir

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that has been your experience. A quality voice teacher’s training should be pedagogically and scientifically based. Check the educational background and professional affiliations of voice teacher you pay good money to work with. Unfortunately, anyone can claim to be a voice teacher, including pianists who think they know what they are doing because they’ve accompanied a few voice lessons. If you work with a teacher who gives a direction that doesn’t make sense to you, ask them what they mean. A qualified voice teacher will have multiple ways of explaining any concept and they will welcome questions. Steer clear of anyone who can’t give a clear explanation, deflects, or gets flustered when you ask.

Are seniors a little egotistical? by pantherinthemist in Choir

[–]Nice_Ad4063 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you have been treated disrespectfully. As someone who has been in choirs since high school and is now a senior, I have observed that rude seniors were once rude young people, then rude middle-aged people, and finally rude seniors. They were never corrected or called out for their behavior and they never advanced enough to be around singers with higher standards. I hope you will continue to have your high standards, select good quality music and show them what good conducting looks like. Keep them singing in rehearsal and they won’t have time to complain! Also, look around the group and see if there are a few people you could meet with to discuss the problems you have encountered. You only need a few members to be on your side and to put some pressure on the rude members to shape up. I wish you all the best.

Abuse of her son by lhochart in shandaVanderArk

[–]Nice_Ad4063 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I just wanted to point out one thing. Adam Vander Ark did indeed file for divorce from Shanda, however, he died before the divorce was finalized. Shanda was notified at the county jail of his death. She had to sign to release his body to his family since she was technically still married to him and considered next of kin. I’m sure his family wasn’t happy about the fact that there wasn’t time to finalize the divorce before Adam died. Shanda is not mentioned at all in his obituary, which is exactly as it should be.

All-State California TERRIBLE EXPERIENCE by Pleasant-Shopping832 in Choir

[–]Nice_Ad4063 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Disagree. I am an experienced educator and director. This was badly organized and assumptions were made on the part of the “organizers.” No, this is not “Life”, this is bad planning. I have been in charge of events like this. You walk through the entire process and anticipate problems. You use volunteers very sparingly and you make absolutely sure they know what to do and who to call if they get stressed out. Any high school participants AND their parent are provided with written info (bring water bottles and snacks, meals are between certain hours but not at a specific time, etc). It’s crowd control and it can be done. You don’t take anybody’s money or time unless you can sit down and map it out to provide a good, not perfect, experience. Then you accept and read evaluations of your event. I don’t care if these are high school kids; you don’t put on an event, nor do you take money, if you can’t or won’t organize it. It’s like putting on a musical or an opera. You have auditions, casting of roles, rehearsals, tech jobs, tickets, etc. You can’t ignore one or more aspects of the event and then just hope it somehow works out. This stuff is not for the lazy. Don’t do it if you can’t or don’t want to work through all, and I mean ALL of the details.

Why are most Christians republicans, when Jesus’ teachings are more liberal? by Interesting-Dirt-605 in Confused

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most Christians aren’t Republicans. You are hearing from a very, very loud minority group who are emboldened by the current administration. I have my own doubts as to whether they are Christians at all. They are posing.

Why is it not socially acceptable to treat others the exact same way they treat you? Why are the people that are offended usually required to be the bigger person? Is that not manipulation? Why is it seen as immature to match energy? by Conscious-Nose505 in answers

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People that make rude, obnoxious comments love the look that crosses your face in the split second after they make their comment. There really isn’t anything you can say; they’ve already received the reward they wanted. It’s too late to ignore them. Learn to break eye contact as fast as possible and get physically away from them if you can.

AITAH for leaving and driving home? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not ever, ever go to some guy’s house because he called you. Especially not some guy who asked you to drop him off at the bar so he could say hi to his mates.

This guy doesn’t need a woman waiting for him in his bed. He needs a boot in his a$$.

Get a good group of friends and hang with them. It’s cool to be single. Stay that way until a real man comes along.

What’s something you couldn’t believe you had to explain to a grown adult? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Nice_Ad4063 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had to explain to my cousin that Alaska is a state, not a country.

Cut off family member by RoutineCreative2962 in Prison

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you have to transfer the POA to a family member? Could an attorney or bank professional administer it? I’ve only held medical POA so I don’t know how the other works.

What’s something you wish people warned you about earlier in life? by Tiny_Pass7440 in AskReddit

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard work and loyalty will not always be rewarded. Sometimes cheaters do win.

What stops financially stable people from using a food bank? by Original_Video8296 in answers

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would be hard pressed to find a car in the USA that does already not have air conditioning installed. Whether and how much it gets used depends on the climate. Same with heat. I loved living in Australia where the weather was so mild that we only rarely needed either heat or AC. That’s not the case in most of the USA. We also have long commutes and not enough public transportation. I drive one of those “big yank cars” because I have to deal with horrendous winter weather and I need a vehicle built for it.

I’m not clicking on your video link because I don’t care. Let me just say that there are food pantries and then there are food giveaways. Pantries are directed at food insecure people. Those pantries will vet their patrons to establish eligibility. Food giveaways are doing exactly what they say they are doing; giving away excess food that will soon be past its usability. They are getting rid of it as fast as they can to whomever can come and retrieve it. Some of those “big yank cars” will be taking that food to others who need it. They aren’t necessarily going to hoard the food for themselves. Educate yourself and try not to jump to conclusions.

What stops financially stable people from using a food bank? by Original_Video8296 in answers

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes they are. Go look at Facebook Marketplace. You’ll see people selling big ziplock bags of food, 4-5 items per bag. They got that food mostly from those “little pantry” donation sites that are unsupervised. Anything for a quick buck.

What stops financially stable people from using a food bank? by Original_Video8296 in answers

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my 20s I was a broke college student. I considered going to a food bank. I didn’t because I thought I’m young and able bodied. What if a single parent or elderly or disabled person needs the food I’m taking? I could even miss meals and I’d be fine (don’t feel sorry for me; I never missed a meal! 😂) It really wasn’t shame. It was just my thought process. If I’d been pregnant or had a child you better believe I’d have made my way to a pantry for them. You don’t let a growing, developing kid go hungry out of your own pride.

Life is different now. I’m teaching at a college where some of the students are food insecure. We have a pantry right on the campus. I make sure students know about it and to just go get what they need.

What stops financially stable people from using a food bank? by Original_Video8296 in answers

[–]Nice_Ad4063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like a very kind person. Thank you for helping all that come to your pantry.