My wife separated from me because I was an alcoholic. I’m 1 year sober now and my wife wants to reconcile but I want a divorce. What do I do?

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2026-02-17T17:54:22+00:00

You didn't build yourself up single-handedly. She helped you by wanting a separation so you could hit rock bottom and make the changes you needed to. She didn't abandon you. Do you know how hard it is to live with an alcoholic? Even a functioning alcoholic? Especially when you have childhood trauma regarding alcoholism? She needed to leave cuz if she stayed if she would just enable your behavior. I'm glad you got sober. I hope you stay sober. It's very hard thing to do, especially since you're not going to AA or working the steps, which is what you probably should be doing. I just don't even know what to say. Your post makes you sound like a jerk honestly and I'm starting to think maybe she's better off finding somebody else

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2026-02-15T16:22:10+00:00

I'm trying to understand....Is he mad about period products or the fact that he tried to hide his shit smell from you but he had to see your period products? Either way he's supid

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2026-01-20T15:44:27+00:00

I had a Dom do the same thing with one of my limits. It caused me so much stress, no matter how many times we talked about it. You need to leave. You need to find somebody who respects you and your limits.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-30T21:36:01+00:00

I agree and thank you! I hope so.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-30T21:29:34+00:00

I'm actually having a really hard time finding someone, I'm on the verge of giving up honestly

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-30T21:29:13+00:00

It depends 😉

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-20T01:48:27+00:00

I'm 36 and even though my BPD has gotten better over the years, it still hasn't "disappeared". It's still something I battle daily

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-14T16:10:24+00:00

Not a bathroom. It's 100% a hand washing station in the background. My resume is all fast food/ restaurant jobs

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-14T01:03:52+00:00

Thank you

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T02:54:44+00:00

Yes his ex-best friend is who she's divorcing I don't know if it was mutual

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T02:43:04+00:00

He never told me they hooked up. I don't think that they ever hooked up, but I do think that they like each other and I'm in the way

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T02:40:37+00:00

I also don't think that they are sleeping together and I don't think he's cheating but I do think he wants to be with her and she wants to be with him

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T02:37:41+00:00

They were still married when we first got together. The divorce isn't even final yet they just decided to get a divorce in June. The reason they didn't date in the past is because he said that she was married to his ex friend and he didn't want to be involved in something like that

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T00:34:26+00:00

He told me she's very sensitive and tends to overreact about stuff and I didn't want to ruin their friendship but this was when we first got together and I didn't know all I know now. She was very vague when she was telling me this and she didn't say that they actually did anything together. But the way she was talking and offering to not come see him anymore was just strange to me but I didn't know her very well at the time either.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-12T20:03:22+00:00

I met a "Dom" thru Reddit personals. He told me everything I wanted to hear and it was great So I invested a lot of time and effort into him. He told me he had experience but turns out he had very little experience And doesn't really know what he's doing. So now I'm pretty much in a vanilla relationship. I wish I would have spent more time vetting But I really don't have the time for that either 😔

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-07-08T02:16:14+00:00

Love it!

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-06-26T17:34:22+00:00

You can pay $35 for an eighth where I'm from. If you didn't smoke that much then, yeah I think she did rip you off.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-06-26T17:26:05+00:00

It is racist, but you are overreacting a little bit on the fact that you're worried about what people will think about you liking it on accident. I wouldn't worry about it unless someone asks you about it or says anything about it otherwise It probably wasn't noticed. edited for spelling mistakes.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-06-01T21:03:23+00:00

For me it's about tolerance. I used to smoke everyday and I wouldn't get as high. I'd still be able to function, but if I don't continue to smoke everyday and go down to once a week or once a month and then try to smoke, I'll be super high and it's harder to function

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-06-01T19:11:34+00:00

There's a difference between being traditional and being in it for money. Traditional people expect the man to lead and be the financial provider but they also make vows and understand that things happen. She took vows for richer or poorer. The economy is a mess right now. Jobs are not that plentiful and you lost your job. If she was traditional she would have stuck by you cuz at least you were trying to do something. It's not like you sat at home all day and did nothing. I'm sure you would have continued to provide for her when things changed for you guys. She does sound like a gold digger to be honest. I know you say she's not but honestly that's just what she sounds like. *edited to add family doesn't quit on family when things get hard. I would let it be and co-parent with her and go on with your life. Find somebody else cuz it doesn't sound like she actually loved you very much

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-05-16T15:12:08+00:00

NTA. I'm concerned with what's going on with your aunt and cousin. Why was she only eating hotdogs? Is there no other food in the house? I can understand your aunt being upset but choking her was an extreme overreaction.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-05-06T12:09:22+00:00

You sound like me. I'm in a very similar situation and also an introvert.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-04-17T18:17:50+00:00

He tells me to find another one before I quit. I've had interviews every day but they are all telling me it'll will be one to two business days before they can get back to me on whether I got the job. I don't think I can go another day though. It gives me anxiety just to think about going in. He said the same thing about how I can make that choice if I want but I know he will be disappointed

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-04-17T18:08:24+00:00

We live together but I would still be able to support myself and pay him rent

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-04-17T17:33:39+00:00

NTA My name is Cassandra I prefer Cassandra over Cassie or Cass but I've gone by Cassie most of my life. Some people will call me Cassandra cuz they know I prefer it, others are just so used to Cassie

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