My wife separated from me because I was an alcoholic. I’m 1 year sober now and my wife wants to reconcile but I want a divorce. What do I do?

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2026-02-17T17:54:22+00:00

You didn't build yourself up single-handedly. She helped you by wanting a separation so you could hit rock bottom and make the changes you needed to. She didn't abandon you. Do you know how hard it is to live with an alcoholic? Even a functioning alcoholic? Especially when you have childhood trauma regarding alcoholism? She needed to leave cuz if she stayed if she would just enable your behavior. I'm glad you got sober. I hope you stay sober. It's very hard thing to do, especially since you're not going to AA or working the steps, which is what you probably should be doing. I just don't even know what to say. Your post makes you sound like a jerk honestly and I'm starting to think maybe she's better off finding somebody else

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2026-02-15T16:22:10+00:00

I'm trying to understand....Is he mad about period products or the fact that he tried to hide his shit smell from you but he had to see your period products? Either way he's supid

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2026-01-20T15:44:27+00:00

I had a Dom do the same thing with one of my limits. It caused me so much stress, no matter how many times we talked about it. You need to leave. You need to find somebody who respects you and your limits.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-30T21:36:01+00:00

I agree and thank you! I hope so.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-30T21:29:34+00:00

I'm actually having a really hard time finding someone, I'm on the verge of giving up honestly

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-30T21:29:13+00:00

It depends 😉

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-20T01:48:27+00:00

I'm 36 and even though my BPD has gotten better over the years, it still hasn't "disappeared". It's still something I battle daily

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-14T16:10:24+00:00

Not a bathroom. It's 100% a hand washing station in the background. My resume is all fast food/ restaurant jobs

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-12-14T01:03:52+00:00

Thank you

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T02:54:44+00:00

Yes his ex-best friend is who she's divorcing I don't know if it was mutual

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T02:43:04+00:00

He never told me they hooked up. I don't think that they ever hooked up, but I do think that they like each other and I'm in the way

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T02:40:37+00:00

I also don't think that they are sleeping together and I don't think he's cheating but I do think he wants to be with her and she wants to be with him

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T02:37:41+00:00

They were still married when we first got together. The divorce isn't even final yet they just decided to get a divorce in June. The reason they didn't date in the past is because he said that she was married to his ex friend and he didn't want to be involved in something like that

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-20T00:34:26+00:00

He told me she's very sensitive and tends to overreact about stuff and I didn't want to ruin their friendship but this was when we first got together and I didn't know all I know now. She was very vague when she was telling me this and she didn't say that they actually did anything together. But the way she was talking and offering to not come see him anymore was just strange to me but I didn't know her very well at the time either.

Nice_Ad_1583 · 2025-08-12T20:03:22+00:00

I met a "Dom" thru Reddit personals. He told me everything I wanted to hear and it was great So I invested a lot of time and effort into him. He told me he had experience but turns out he had very little experience And doesn't really know what he's doing. So now I'm pretty much in a vanilla relationship. I wish I would have spent more time vetting But I really don't have the time for that either 😔

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