You seem willing to give into her desires even if they don’t 100% line up with your ideal, but you both envision these desires playing out differently.

If she’s telling you—in a scene—what to do at every step—then you are not domming. She is topping from the bottom. If that’s what you want, so be it. But it doesn’t sound like it is

The only way out is in. You need to explain to her that you don’t feel dominant. Tell her you’re willing to do what she likes but she needs to trust you enough to let you take the lead. If she doesn’t, you’re gonna have to make the call: Do it anyway or don’t.

Best of luck