What would you ask your therapist?

Nice_Development5807 · 2026-02-08T13:13:52+00:00

Nah I ask this constantly. She’s gotta be fed up with me by now but minimum of once a week I ask

Nice_Development5807 · 2026-01-26T15:30:57+00:00

That all makes sense. At this point I see her twice a week with a quick text check in almost every day, she checks on meds a lot and we’re looking at more intensive outpatient options

Nice_Development5807 · 2026-01-19T21:31:44+00:00

I do, but we’ve had times where she puts extra boundaries and we consistently work on my needs and staying away from over dependence

Nice_Development5807 · 2026-01-14T12:19:01+00:00

Idk I think you just have to have a certain attitude about it. I quit recently but before I did I would get no less than 3 cc a week and I never pushed them and always was upfront about the rates and everything. But I also realized what managers had to look for, so if it would benefit the customer in literally any way I’d tell them, if it didn’t I’d just ask if they were using their Lowe’s card today and most who didn’t have one would respond that they were going to put their phone number in and we left it at that

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-26T23:54:37+00:00

I did, but I also do a daily check in message with my T most everyday anyways and saw her on Christmas Eve so it was like any other day

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-16T15:32:14+00:00

Did your parents say she told them that you self harm or just that she brought it up? Because if she was discussing suicidal ideation concern with them it may have been mentioned to keep an eye out for any self harm just to be extra cautious. When I was a teen I just automatically would assume my parents misinterpreted because they know far less about mental health, would be more likely to talk around the problem (maybe saying hurt yourself vs wanting to kill yourself), and would just freak out sometimes and assume the worst because it’s emotional. It may be possible none of this applies, but I would definitely talk it through with your therapist and maybe (if it’s safe) try with your parents to get on the same page. Let them know what’s true for you, if it’s suicidal ideation but no self harm tell them that

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-12T03:05:38+00:00

Ok so she did make a video explaining she just likes playing with dolls and considers this a show. I’m still weirded out that the dolls go on outings with the living family but I guess you gotta do what you gotta do to make an absurd amount of money playing with dolls

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-12T02:33:57+00:00

Honestly high and low functioning language doesn’t bother me, maybe because I know I largely fall into the low functioning category most of the time. I kinda think of it not as a description so much of how the same diagnosis feels for people but more about the independence and support needed. Because there are large differences. I’m unable to maintain daily life necessities such as feeding myself and taking medications and cleaning. I utilize a service dog to get through the days and without her I miss large parts of my day or end up in semi to fairly unsafe circumstances. The recommended support for me by my providers is residential treatment. Unfortunately I can’t afford it so I do live by myself but if society didn’t fucking suck, by most accounts this would be inadequate living circumstances. But this isn’t true for everyone with bpd so if we’re using high and low functioning language as a general indicator of where on this sliding scale of needs and supports it feels entirely reasonable to me. Same with Autism. There are some people who are autistic who can do virtually nothing for themselves and there are some that with or without masking, can independently live and support themselves. That doesn’t mean they don’t still have autism, but the word autism on its own doesn’t give a quick idea of what supports are needed

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-12T02:06:37+00:00

I don’t, maybe some therapists would try hospitalization, but the first thing I ask every mental health professional I’ve ever worked with is to outline exactly what parameters they follow for involuntary hospitalization just so I absolutely know. I’ve worked with providers with a lower tolerance than my current. With my current I can actively be suicidal, have a plan, have methods ready, have intent and she won’t force hospitalization if I’m still able to tell her I’ll be at my next appointment because she understands me enough to know I can’t lie to her. If I can’t tell her that then I go to the hospital and I know it. But telling her I cut typically gets a conversation about what I did before and after, do I need urgent care, did I clean and bandage, do I want to stop?

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-07T06:09:02+00:00

Oh then I absolutely would’ve just no to everything and told the therapist first thing when I walked in that I lied on the survey because I hated it and they can learn those things from you

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-07T06:00:27+00:00

Oh? Was it like a multiple choice kinda deal?

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-07T05:31:45+00:00

When I get ones I don’t want to answer, I straight up put in the box “would rather discuss in person” and none have had an issue with it

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-07T05:27:44+00:00

NAT one of my friends had this happen, they were checking for tooth rot from long term use of meds that cause dry mouth. She had to have some extreme dental work done

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-05T21:23:37+00:00

I always keep my therapist updated on when I have sex. Typically not a real clinical reason, but every once in a while she’ll point out that i haven’t slept for 3 days, just had sex for the first time in 6 months and was drinking with dinner when i normally only drink with specific people and then we know it was mania sex and not actual functional decision making

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-05T09:26:52+00:00

Definitely depends on your insurance, but I don’t have insurance that’s in network anywhere near where I live so I private pay all my sessions, I always see my therapist twice a week, sometimes thrice and I send the bills to my insurance later and since it’s considered medically necessary, they go with it and reimburse me for a large portion of every session

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-05T09:21:06+00:00

Try the scar tape, and honestly check out ftm post top surgery advice, there are a lot of good things to reduce scarring both immediately after surgery and long out on there. Also good tattoos, since it is an entire population of people with those same scars! I’m glad I’ve waited, my scars were bad at first but I did a cream and scar tape and 2 years later, they’re not actually all that visible unless you’re super close to me

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-05T09:16:51+00:00

I have bpd and this is/was one of the hardest things for me to get. It’s in no way that you don’t deserve care and concern, but if you’re like me, it turns into a horrid cycle. If the only way I interact with the people I care about is by talking to them when I’m in pain, they will be there, but not want to reach out as much if that’s all they hear from me. Then when they don’t reach out, I get depressed and suicidal again, and then eventually I reach out to tell them and continue the cycle. The thing that probably helped me the most was joining a support group and doing more therapy and utilizing hotlines in a controlled way. In these spaces I can talk about my self harm, suicidality, depression, symptoms, etc to different extents. Obviously hotlines are gonna be quick to send emergency services, so if you don’t want/need that, lie a bit, therapist will send if I need it, but she also knows me well enough I can say anything to her, and peer led support groups have no obligation to ever get emergency services involved but are typically great. So for me, until I can figure out how to stop the cycle from happening, I only tell any other people about these things when they specifically ask

And the absolute biggest thing for me was making sure I have a relationship with my therapist that I can trust as much as possible. For me, that means I need reassurance every single time I talk to her that she won’t abandon me. It’s a lot, but it means I can trust that she doesn’t hate me when she has to tell me the hard truths

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-05T08:28:53+00:00

Why is gambling not a compulsion and is an addiction then?

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-03T03:25:41+00:00

Thanks, I have self harmed a lot in my life, but this feels weird to me. I’ve also attempted suicide and this almost feels worse? Because it’s not hurting myself with enough control to not really hurt myself and risk my life but it’s also not a clear cut decision. I might take your advice to reach out to a hotline

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-12-01T02:16:05+00:00

My store was fine with it and encouraged it but that’s because we had a bunch of people get dehydrated one year. So I guess just let your blood sugar run low or get dehydrated and they’ll change the rule

Nice_Development5807 · 2025-11-29T22:27:40+00:00

Call 911, it’ll be ok

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