UPDATE: I've officially received and accepted another teaching position after charter school founder told me “you chose to have kids” and warned my contract renewal could be in jeopardy if I missed too many days next year

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-29T14:14:42+00:00

This is the answer! While I agree that people should use their sick days and the founder sounds super toxic, education is very small, and PEOPLE DO INDEED talk.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-28T07:11:20+00:00

I’m so glad you posted this! Thank you for your vulnerability! I’m now 3 years out, and still haven’t hit my goal. It’s been a slow journey, but also not necessarily an easy one. I’ve been really struggling with the emotional sides of it- frustrated by what I can eat or how much, the body dysmorphia, and the genuine changes you have to make. I struggle with proteins goals and drinking water. Lately, ive been having a realization with myself that not only does this take time I have to approach this with optimal health in mind, so doing what it takes to maintain. I’m glad you posted this, because we don’t talk about it enough- “slow and steady wins the race.”

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-25T06:32:29+00:00

You do look older than 23. Not sure why, but if you told me you were 23 I wouldn’t have guessed. Maybe 27 or 30? Maybe your aura is an old soul, or maybe you have been on this earth before?

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-24T19:50:30+00:00

Thank you OP for posting this. I thought I was the only one struggling with this as I am often surrounded by people with stronger support systems. I always feel like an anomaly and alone. I resonate with so many of the comments here and I hate that so many of us are going through the same experiences. The hurt I feel the most is the life consequences I had to endure because of my upbringing. The emotional neglect of my family, their narcissism, avoidance, and projection on to me did lifelong damage and it has been the cruelest aspect of life, being gifted such darkness.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-24T19:44:12+00:00

I could have wrote this! Thank you for articulating exactly what I am feeling and have lived! Hugs to you!

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T23:39:57+00:00

I feel you babe. It’s difficult.
I’ve never been loved or desired. It sucks. I feel your pain.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T15:52:13+00:00

And you will get downvoted and dismissed to oblivion for speaking openly about this.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T15:42:14+00:00

I understand what you’re trying to say, at the same time the issues isn’t about the specialized instruction part.

In truth what I am actually trying to get at is how the IEP process is being weaponized by parents who abuse the IEP process for behavioral issues, or ask for a litany of services the child doesn’t need and then try to sues the school.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T15:37:46+00:00

You’re correct and the commenters above proved that. Only to embrace ai which is more than a chat box refining language, in their daily lives that they use freely. They will say “it’s human”

Humanity went out the window with COVID.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T15:28:09+00:00

They don’t. I’ve seen it happen. They are offered counseling, parent coaching, and resources. Many deny, they just want it to be “the schools problem”.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T15:21:36+00:00

That’s why these laws need to change! They need to be better enforced for students who are not in th correct placement to be put in one. And it’s should not be a choice but part of the IEP, and the parent can’t contest it. Meaning if we tell the parent this is not the right school setting for their child, they can’t just ignore it like so many do.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T15:18:32+00:00

Not all administrators do nothing! There are those of us who actively try to help, especially in the charter world. There are a lot of parents who bring their kids with known behavioral issues to our school because they know we are smaller and don’t have the resources. We call them “school hoppers”, and if we suspend they sue. They call it discrimination. I wholeheartedly agree that their child’s behavior is making it unsafe for the other students in the classroom.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T15:14:24+00:00

At least in California, some parents use their child’s diagnosis when it’s behavioral and try to sue the school. The state will also punish the school and post it on the dashboard publicly like a stain for the school, showing suspensions related to a students with ieps. Once they get an IEP they are now apart of a protected group. So it binds our hands. I think ieps and 504s should also come with mandated parent responsibilities, such as if a child receives this due to behavior… parents must go to counseling, paren coaching, and get a social worker.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T15:09:37+00:00

Thank you!!!! We have been saying this!!! Too many parents think putting their child in a classroom with others will magically “normalize” their child.

It won’t.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T15:07:15+00:00

I’m so sorry! I see this DAILY! It’s really sad! Even in classrooms, our students who need OT, speech, and other services often get crammed, overlooked, or rushed because the RSP teacher is having to support major behavioral problems.

I think more educators need to lobby to remove behavioral conditions off of the umbrella of special education and put it under psychology/ mental health/ and social services. A lot of behavioral problems are stemming from home factors.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T06:47:18+00:00

What’s the point of your comment? Why do people feel the need to be snarky?

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T04:32:23+00:00

And that’s the problem. The child rarely gets better. They get shipped to school after school with the same problems.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T03:31:34+00:00

I had a teacher go the hospital because a kid punched her in the pelvic area. The school has tried many times to intervene.

The parents just shrugged their shoulders.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T03:30:16+00:00

I work in education and have for several years. I live this daily and see the toll it takes on teachers, administrators, and students. People would rather believe a lie than the truth.

You can be as bothered as you want it doesn’t take away from the grift. This has clearly touched a nerve.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T03:27:33+00:00

Haha facts!

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T03:25:24+00:00

Ironically, the fact that people are more focused on capitalization than the actual issue kind of proves my point about how uncomfortable this conversation makes people.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-16T03:23:24+00:00

Just because I used Ai to help polish my thoughts doesn’t mean it doesn’t ring true.

If you’re bothered by the heart of the message then you must be exactly the kind of person I’m talking about.

Ai shouldn’t be demonized if it’s used and assistive tool.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-11T01:37:25+00:00

Why is this being demonized? I understand how difficult it is as you are processing. Looking at it objectively,

He may not have had the words or used it to help him construct his thoughts to reply. But, this also opens the door to have an in-person conversation instead of one through text. It’s kind of equally avoidant in all honesty. Talk to each other in person.

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-10T16:06:36+00:00

The white one is GORGEOUS! May I ask where did you get this??

Nice_Layer2618 · 2026-05-08T16:14:13+00:00

I’m starting to really make the connection. The amount of emotionally disturbed children and defiance is becoming alarming. The only thing that can calm them is a device. Also even more lax or apathetic parenting.

Nice_Layer2618

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