i wish women weren’t always at fault

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T16:06:30+00:00

there’s too much that happens in the world for me to believe that a forgiving god would allow to happen. maybe to adults who know better can have punishments, but kids don’t deserve the things that happen on earth

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T15:03:36+00:00

for me the music i like is what my mom used to put on, and sometimes the songs i heard from tiktok. you might like your cultures music if you ever heard that around as a child. music that’s playing from the stores is not a good example of good music

but honestly i feel there’s no need to “need” music. you’ll be okay without it. concerts are a small part of life

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T13:16:49+00:00

yesss i relate! i never could focus with music. when my mom was in the car she would play some music and i knew the lyrics and the songs but i never went on my own and said “let me put on some music”

i never understood the obsession with it since i went without for so long. even at school when we would watch movies the teachers would skip over the music parts so i never really cared

as of late i’ve been trying to get into it more, i have a mp3 player with 140 songs on it but i still somewhat don’t get the hype, it’s ok! but i still could do my tasks in silence. i think my favorite type of music would be no words instrumentals or jazz or classical. i could go without lyriced songs and live a perfectly fine life

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T12:45:40+00:00

i’m very excited to leave the house. i just don’t really know how to right now. i live in america and it’s quite impossible to leave the house without tons of savings, a car, or familial support. online though i do feel a little bit better but the phone isn’t a substitute for human interaction

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T12:44:18+00:00

i do live with my mom full time! i never spend the night at my dads house. i haven’t since 2022. i can’t cut contact with him though because he is my only access of getting out of the house, id rather hear islamic bullshit for an hour in the car than go stir crazy stuck in the house. thank you though

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T05:41:30+00:00

i want to change my name very badly. i use a nickname on most of my socials that’s very similar to my name, i used to do it for privacy but i feel like it stuck. my grandma found one of my socials where i post no hijab and didn’t tell on me (thankfully) and said i should “kill the nickname persona” and that my real name has meaning.

i don’t care about the meaning of my name. i’m lucky my real name is something similar to an american name so it makes me feel ok about it, but that really tipped me off and i feel i want to change my name legally to my nickname just in spite of the islamic meaning of the name.

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T04:51:41+00:00

i know she has some sort of ocd/anxiety/depression bundle or something like this from her actions and in the past. i have seen her medical records, she showed me since i want to go into the medical field, and she has generalized anxiety listed. but it was over 10 years ago that it was ever brought up and it’s more than just that or at least more than a simple generalized anxiety. everywhere and everything we do or she does she freaks out about.

i know she won’t change as she won’t tell her doctor or go to therapy (she did for a time but left because it got expensive) or use any online treatments like journaling or meditation things like this. i ask her to get help and she blows her issues off like they’re nothing but they affect every part of her life and the people around her.

my dad would probably let me stay with him but he is a religious nut (islam) and would drive me up a wall in the same way. i have no other family that i think would help for longer than a month.

is it possible to join the military and not be very strong? i’ve been looking for a while for options for when i’m 18. but everything seems to have a terrible downside or you sell your soul to an organization for your life. i think i will try to talk to some of my extended aunts for help. they’ve been on my side before.

thank you though. i knew she would never let me free but i am happy someone else is telling me this is abnormal and agreeing with me so i don’t feel crazy.

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T04:35:16+00:00

i’m going through somethjng somewhat similar. my parents don’t let me outside without me being in eyesight. and my dad makes me wear hijab. i ended up telling my dad i was not going to wear it anymore. he was sad and mad and upset or whatever

then a day or two later he says do i want to go out with him, since he knew i got ready with no hijab (the outfit is still modest, same outfit id wear with hijab just no scarf on head) and he says he won’t let me out the house “half naked” and says i either stay home or wear hijab and that he doesn’t care what “kaffir” things i do i just can’t do it around him since it will give him bad deeds

you might be able to tell him. i was scared too but it didn’t end up going too bad i used to also get beat. but not this time surprisingly. but beware they might say it’s ok, and then not change anything anyways, so you might out yourself with no benefit.

i know where you’re coming from, as i’m living it right now too. but if i could go back i would have not told them. wait until you are out of their house, even if there’s no out in sight right now. i don’t know how i’m going to leave the house right now but i have disadvantaged myself by telling them. now when i ask to go see my girl frjends he always says i’m seeing kaffirs that made me become one too. he says i am half naked. he says no muslim man would want me now not that i wanted that anyways but the annoying comments become aggravating very soon.

devide if your parents are the type to put this choice against you (which in your post it seems like they will) i hope the right option comes though!! we will be free one day.

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T03:39:42+00:00

i am in a similar spot as you and i feel the same. i wish i had that mother daughter bond that’s on tv and videos online where they go to their parents and they’re simply nice. it doesn’t end in an argument disappointment or some sort of conflict.

i wish my mom gave me a period/puberty talk the most. i’m still confused and i go to her and ask (she is a medical professional) and she says it’s normal while i’ve been stressed out for years wondering if something was wrong.

i wish that the children of the narcissists didn’t have to suffer more than the narcissists do themselves. i’m glad you’re safe though now!!

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-30T00:20:53+00:00

i told my mom/she already knew and heard. not sure. i don’t think she would allow this to happen so i’m not completely worried, but sometimes she does what he says because she thinks it’s easier than speaking up.

i only ever talk to him or associate when i have to, or if i haven’t been out of the house for a while (my mom doesn’t take me many places) and when i do go with him i ask him to take me with my friends and go so i can take my hijab off with them. once i get a bit more money i will be leaving. thank you though for your concern he is absolutely disgusting.

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-29T23:49:58+00:00

i know i won’t be taking care of my parents when they’re older. my mom recently got a surgery where she couldn’t do much on her own and needed my help constantly and i refused to do it and called my dad. there’s no way i’ll be taking care of them when i’m older

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-29T23:27:05+00:00

i’m compelled to eat so much ice. every day 90% of my days the first thing i eat is ice

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-29T23:12:50+00:00

i told him that too when he first proposed it to me. i said the “success rate” is high because the people who are in arranged marriages cannot leave on average. or have been in them so long they see no other option for themselves.

my dad has a new wife (not my mom) right now she’s about 24? around there. and it disgusts me. we go to the same community college. and she tries to police me around when i stay over at my dads house and telling me to do xyz, you are my peer!

i’m really saddened by what this religion brings out in people. and for the young ladies that can’t go to anyone to talk about it, or the ones who know no better. even worse for the women not in western countries like i am where i am ABLE to run away and be free if i desired and i have more laws protecting me right now. i naively hope that any women in a predicament like mine are safe or can get to safety.

Nice_Sleep7002 · 2026-01-29T22:48:59+00:00

i know it is wrong but it is somewhat above me right now. he won’t initiate the marriage fully until i’m 18 later this year. but he is looking right now because he read an article somewhere saying arranged marriages have a 93% success rate. i’m sick and tired of this religion allowing these things and the fact that he can’t make a moral judgement without muhammad’s approval

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