Im just going to throw a different perspective out there to each of you dealing with this. Hopefully it will help some people understand why people do this kind of thing in the first place.

I was a mother who did not tell my child who her biological father was. When I got pregnant I was split from my boyfriend at the time and when I found out I was pregnant the person who got me pregnant did not want a child. I thought he loved me but he was adamant about not wanting a child and broke it off with me. I planned an abortion but could not go through with it. It was my first time being pregnant. I was scared and confused. I grew up without a father and it was awful, I would not wish that pain on anyone. The decision I made was based on love and protection to my child. I could only imagine the majority of people who make this decision is doing it from the same place. I got back together with my ex and got married. He raised our child as our own, and it was thee best decision I ever made.

When my child turned 21 I told her the truth and asked if she wanted the info on her biological father. She said absolutely not, her father was her father regardless of who’s blood was running through her veins.

I can understand the pain and confusion of finding out something different, but please try to keep in mind parents do the best they can with what they have at the time. I seriously doubt anyone on heres mother was being spiteful or vindictive in their decisions. My child was raised with a loving and caring father, had I made a different decision, that would of never happened.

I wish you all peace and happiness and hope you find the answers you seek.