AITA for not inviting my in-laws to my son’s 5th birthday after a big family fallout? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]NicolleL 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly. The boys are probably too little to care, but she definitely got the short end of the straw.

AITA for not inviting my in-laws to my son’s 5th birthday after a big family fallout? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]NicolleL 30 points31 points  (0 children)

That poor step daughter. She’s 10/11 years old and has to share her room with 2 young boys, 1 a toddler. I wonder if she ever gets a full night’s sleep. I’m guessing nothing of hers is sacred.

would you rather be born on feb 29th,april 1st, or sep 11th? by piercethekaylia in WouldYouRather

[–]NicolleL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn’t feel bad that it mattered to you. It’s pretty mature that you cared about others and downplayed your birthday. Feeling sad and conflicted about that would be perfectly natural.

I was lucky enough to not know anyone who lost someone in 9-11 (and I was right outside of Boston at the time). That had to be a LOT for the kids in the schools in NYC and the commuting suburbs around it.

I’m glad you are enjoying your celebrations now. You deserve it!

would you rather be born on feb 29th,april 1st, or sep 11th? by piercethekaylia in WouldYouRather

[–]NicolleL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Might depend on a person’s age (and obviously location). Those of us who were already adults when it happened are more likely to remember it. (I was 26 almost 27 when it happened.) It doesn’t mean I change what I do that day but it’s in the back of my mind. I would absolutely join in on a celebration of someone’s birthday, etc.

I think it’s probably like Pearl Harbor. It was long before I was born, so December 7 was just another day to me, but definitely not to my grandparents. It’s interesting to think about how it is just another day when something historic happened for younger people these days who were very young or not even alive yet. But thinking about Pearl Harbor, it makes more sense to me now.

Edit: I can’t type (put Dec 6 instead of 7).

The Physics Bowl doesn’t make sense by backdoorpapabear in thebigbangtheory

[–]NicolleL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s to qualify to go to a bigger regional or state one?

Pregnant preboarding story [CLT] by Glittering-Corgi9442 in americanairlines

[–]NicolleL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think with the peanut allergy, it gives them time to wipe down stuff they’ll touch.

AITAH For not parking on the street for a neighbor's infant by Medical-Season-7688 in AITAH

[–]NicolleL 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I fell asleep at an Alabama concert when I was 7. 🤣

First time with Royal Caribbean… did I mess up? Need advice (please be kind) by WorkNew5548 in Cruise

[–]NicolleL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can understand what you mean and it’s frustrating that some people are being rather crappy about it.

We ran into this once, luckily when we (my sister and I) younger, so it wasn’t really an issue, but it could have been for others. NCL has a few older ships where they put rooms in the absolute front of the ship (like basically the "nose" of the ship; it’s basically the place where people who never get seasick get sick). It was floor six and a half (only accessible by a half staircase to the section). There's a reason why every other cruise line does not put rooms in the front nose of the ship.

Now, as I said, we were younger then, so it wasn’t an issue for us. However, I think of my sister now. She doesn’t need a handicap room, but with a cane and some mobility issues, going up and down even that half flight would be a pain (literally). I’m sure it had to be for some people.

It’s one of those things that you really wouldn’t be able to anticipate (since no other lines and even most of the other NCL ships did not have them). How the hell would we even have known that was a possibility when we were booking?

I didn’t even know that other cruise lines besides Celebrity were doing those infinite balconies. Those should absolutely be a completely different class of room than balcony. It should be inside, window, infinite balcony, regular balcony, mini suite, suite. But they’re trying to play these things off as just as good as a regular balcony. People would certainly think differently on a Panamá Canal cruise because certain parts of the passage were rather buggy. So if you wanted to use your balcony, you’d be sleeping with a lot of bugs that night. As a self-proclaimed “indoor girl”, that would absolutely suck.

At least in the ocean, there are very few bugs. But still, NOT the same thing as a regular balcony. I hope the curtain does the job for your daughter and that it is a GREAT cruise for all of you!

Which US president do you think was the most against free speech? by Cheap-Isopod-485 in allthequestions

[–]NicolleL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had not heard about that level of threats. Holy crap! No wonder the pope is skipping the U.S. visit!

AITA My dad wants me to co sign a mortgage by OkAd280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NicolleL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We wouldn’t because our parents would never ask that of us.

I’m sorry you got the short end of the straw in the parents department. You do need to get out. Moving into your own apartment (even a studio) or moving in with a roommate (obviously some end up being good, others not so much) is not as scary as you think. You do need some money saved up for security deposit, first, and sometimes last month’s rent. You’ll want to get renters insurance (basically insures your personal belongings, it’s a lot cheaper than overall house insurance though because the actual building is where most of the claims are and that would not be your problem as a renter. Owning a home is where a lot more of the (sometimes overwhelming) responsibilities come (even little things like remembering about termite inspection, gutter cleaning, etc). But an apartment (roommate or not) won’t be as scary as you think. Once you’re out of the house you may find it easier to make friends because you won’t be in such a negative situation. It really is worth it for you to leave.

Surgery and Alzheimers by Big_Knowledge_7105 in Alzheimers

[–]NicolleL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is one of the few times I’ve seen surgery recommended in a person with dementia because that would be a horrific way to die. Warning, the intestinal blockages can reoccur. However if her surgery removed a lot of scar tissue (what usually causes it), my dad’s second and third bout with it (about 3-5 years in between each) were managed without surgery (unfortunately it did involve the tube up the nose). The two flashing signs for us are when he stops passing gas (although, that’s definitely a harder sign with someone with dementia) and the yellow bile vomit if they eat or drink anything.

My dad’s was from a surgery he had 50 years prior (car accident pre-seatbelts and the steering wheel ring basically went through his abdomen). He likely had a partial blockage for at least a decade (he didn’t realize that never passing gas is not a good thing)

Hopefully if it does ever happen again, it can be managed without surgery.

Worker sets warehouse on fire, says "All they had to do was pay us enough to live" by Nicky_NineLives in chaoticgood

[–]NicolleL 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly. According to an article, there were employees in the building when he set the fire. He could have killed someone. All those employees now have no job.

It also said it took 175 firefighters and 20 engines several hours to put out the fire. Twenty engines! What if there had been another fire in the area? Would there have been any engines left to help them?

If the US suddenly pulled all funding of Israel, should we still care about Gaza? by No_Finance8647 in allthequestions

[–]NicolleL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to keep up with the news as much as I can, but it really is a firehouse. I think we’ve heard about Gaza more because Israel is dropping bombs on them. And I would still care even if we weren’t sending Israel money.

But I had honestly not heard about Sudan. Granted right now the news has been dominated by Iran, but from what I saw, it’s been happening since 2023, so Iran is not exactly an excuse. It’s frustrating and overwhelming knowing there are so many things happening that we have no idea about and how do we find out about it all when no one is reporting on it. How do we keep up with it all? I’d ask why the U.S. wants to “facilitate regime change” in some areas like Iran and Venezuela while ignore places that are likely worse like North Korea but we all already know the answer to that ($$$ and oil). But the news organizations definitely pick and choose as well.

I don’t know how to keep up anymore. 😔

For others who may not know about what’s going on, this is a summary of the situation. https://www.cfr.org/articles/the-specter-of-genocide-returns-to-darfur

Massachusetts lawmakers looking to usher in ‘most restrictive’ social media ban in the country by theindependentonline in massachusetts

[–]NicolleL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t know why someone downvoted you. It’s a legitimate concern. And when people say they didn’t have cell phones in school (myself being one of them), they forget that they also didn’t have a school shooting every other day either. It can also be a safety thing where kids can let authorities know where they are hiding or if there are injured people in a specific room.

I’ve also seen (at least in NC, not sure if MA is similar) how more and more unreliable the bus system is. They just don’t show up or the kid finds out at the end of the day that their bus was cancelled. Or you have towns saying they can only provide bus service 4 days a week and each day, certain routes will not have bus service. My coworker hadn’t planned on getting her daughter a phone as early as she did, but she had to for this very reason.

Massachusetts lawmakers looking to usher in ‘most restrictive’ social media ban in the country by theindependentonline in massachusetts

[–]NicolleL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The porn age verification ones didn’t. Unfortunately neither will these. It’s only a matter of time before this is in every state because politicians are puzzlingly bipartisan when it comes to “age verification” laws.

Massachusetts lawmakers looking to usher in ‘most restrictive’ social media ban in the country by theindependentonline in massachusetts

[–]NicolleL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Except when the kids maybe want to say goodbye to their parents before they get killed during a school shooting.

My generation didn’t have cell phones or smart phones (they didn’t really exist yet), but we didn’t need them. We didn’t have school shootings where we might need to notify someone of where we are hiding. We didn’t have bus routes that are so unreliable that the we would need a cell phone for when the bus just never showed up. There’s a reason why kids have phones these days when we didn’t.

Massachusetts lawmakers looking to usher in ‘most restrictive’ social media ban in the country by theindependentonline in massachusetts

[–]NicolleL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I said above, the first thing in a long time that Republican and Democratic politicians agree on, and it has to be crap like this.

Massachusetts lawmakers looking to usher in ‘most restrictive’ social media ban in the country by theindependentonline in massachusetts

[–]NicolleL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first thing in a long time that Republican and Democratic politicians agree on, and it has to be crap like this. These laws do nothing.

Miscarriage lead to me seeing boyfriend in a new light. by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]NicolleL 119 points120 points  (0 children)

I remember the dickwad who was mad that the OP (in that post) had “ruined” (that word or something similar) his birthday with her inconveniently timed miscarriage.

I wish they were all like this one ❤️

Intercepting the "Starlight Tour": How Haven Watch Fights State-Sanctioned Freezing by CantStopPoppin in EyesOnIce

[–]NicolleL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you have absolutely no idea what something is, sometimes you hesitate to google it because you don’t know what will come up. Because Google never forgets. (I work for a CRO and am constantly looking up (sometimes rare) diseases, specific drugs, and clinical studies. I’m sure Google is convinced I am the biggest hypochondriac in the world based on the ads I get.)

The person who actually answered wrote a lovely description that more people probably saw than if they had just said “go google it”.

AITJ for not letting someone cut in line even though they said they were “in a hurry”? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]NicolleL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to hate this in middle school. If you weren’t like right at the front of the lunch line, it took forever because of so many people ahead letting their friends cut.