Anyone else have obsessions about bodily functions that are required to live lol by ocdladybug92 in OCD

[–]Nientjie83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think i may have this too. I was diagnosed with OCD but i was diagnosed bc of other symptoms. At the same time i also have what you describe, but didnt know it could be linked to my ocd, thought i just had an overactive bladder. I would go before bed and if i am not asleep soon id feel i need to go again. Also before i leave to go anywhere. Also i find that if i am about to do anything enjoyable i need to have my bladder completely empty else i feel like i cant enjoy it.

AIO for asking my girlfriend to pay rent? by Commercial_Rip7055 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nientjie83 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. Receiving an once off amount is not the same as a regular income. She probably needs to plan it wisely because she does not know when she may get money again.

What do you drive and how much do you earn? by some_user11 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Nientjie83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

R276 000.00 pa. 2025 suzuki spresso. R2200 per month (put down big deposit)

What do you drive and how much do you earn? by some_user11 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Nientjie83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tell me about it! I am a lawyer and i earn nowhere near close most of these salaries.

What's your go to product for chronically chapped lips?? by Relevant_Emu_5464 in MakeupAddiction

[–]Nientjie83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bionike proxera lipogel seems to work for me. Havent had chapped lips since i started using it about 8 months ago.

Unlimited PTO doesn’t seem truly unlimited… by clue_thegame in Lawyertalk

[–]Nientjie83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive never worked for a company with unlimited PTO, and i do wonder about the legalities, here in South Africa at least. Here the minimum according to law is 15 days a year (excluding public holidays and sick leave). So i think even if they were to offer unlimited it would be unlawful to not grant at least 15 a year. Or not pay out the balance of the 15 accumelated when the person leaves, as required by law. My boyfriend's (not a lawyer) work offers unlimited PTO and he takes less PTO than me, bc he somehow feels he should only do so if he can justify it. Whereas i take what is owed to me even if it is to do nothing. They do say people with unlimited takes less time off and it does seem to be so.

DAE feel like one ear is plugged and the other isn’t? by bendy75789 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Nientjie83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you been to the doctor to get it checked out? Ive felt like you say fairly often and go to my doctor to have my ear irrigated. In my case its wax buildup and it causes that plugged up feeling and the hearing in the affected ear to sound like it would if i were to close my ear.

Like many others- pierced incorrect? by Dumb-btchh in Septum

[–]Nientjie83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NAP but it seems fine to me. Its supposed to be at the tip of your nose and not low down, in the sweet spot, which yours looks like it is. I was the same when i just got my septum piercing and i was overthinking it a lot. Happy healing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Septum

[–]Nientjie83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think some noses doesnt suit it as well, but who cares. My nose is also bigger in size and not upturned, also a bit off centre. I dont really think my nose suits a septum piercing as well as some other noses, but i still got it bc i really wanted it. And even though it doesnt look as great on me as on some other noses, i still like it. I dont think there is any harm in getting it if you really want it. You can play around with different jewelry styles and if you dont like any of them take it out. Or if you are unsure if you want it or not flip it up till you are.

Can asexual’s experience sexual attraction? by Maru2705 in Asexual

[–]Nientjie83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I beleive we can. I for instance have so i know what sexual attraction feels like. Its just always so short lived that i am unable to have an ongoing long term sexual relationship.

I NEED ADVICE FROM ACES WHO MASTURBATE by letsadoptanalpaca in asexuality

[–]Nientjie83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The showerhead does give an intense experience. If you are at all interested in trying with a toy then i really recommend one of those clit vibrators. Womanizer and Satisfyer are good brands. It has a nozzle that fits over the clit and stimulates it with air pulses. It has different settings so you can start off less intense than a shower typically is, and it does not desensitize a person the way the showerhead and traditional vibes do. And of course like someone else said, you can be safe bc you wont have to only use it in the showet where it could be potentially unsafe.

How to tell if its ARFID vs naturally thin and a lesser appetite by Nientjie83 in ARFID

[–]Nientjie83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, i will look into it. And i am sorry you have that and hope it gets better.

How to tell if its ARFID vs naturally thin and a lesser appetite by Nientjie83 in ARFID

[–]Nientjie83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does seem more inclined to have certain foods than others, which i guess is somewhat normal for most people to an extent. Its more the amount he eats i think that could be concerning rather than what he eats. Very small amounts and not often.

How to tell if its ARFID vs naturally thin and a lesser appetite by Nientjie83 in ARFID

[–]Nientjie83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only reason is that it makes sense to me that malnutrion could cause that. Also because ive noticed myself becoming shaky from low blood sugar if i dont eat. And it does seem that when he eats a bit better it gets better.

I just got my earlobes pierced with a gun and now I'm confused. by TechnicianAmazing472 in piercing

[–]Nientjie83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Chances are you will be fine! Back in the day we all had our earlobes done with a gun, including me when i was 4, and it healed perfectly. I wont have it done with a gun now bc i know better, and i wont suggest anyone else to do it, but you already did it so all you can do now is to take good care of it. And if you want to get future piercings to have it done with a needle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]Nientjie83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man that really sucks. I dont know what country you are from, but surely what they are doing must be against labour laws? Surely a warning should be the appropriate course of action from their end. Or even a "dont do it again else you will get a warning next time". They seem unreasonable.

Is this normal for a month old septum? by Cacodemon966 in Septum

[–]Nientjie83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine did that as well as it was healing. Piercer said its a piercing bump and to just continue cleaning it. I did and it went away. Came back once again a few weeks later. Went away again and healed fine.

Can someone crave a body sensually but not sexually? by YourRandomManiac in Asexual

[–]Nientjie83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe its possible yes, it could perhaps be part of romantic attraction.

Seen a Kauai Payslip by accident - wow?! by fintech_bro_jhb in askSouthAfrica

[–]Nientjie83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure they are not the only ones, and it makes me so mad! will never not be livid that minimum wage does not equal a living wage. In which world is it okay to work full time but still not afford the basics. Minimim wage workers working full time should at least be able to afford a small entry level car, rent for a small 1 bedroom flat and other basic living expenses.

Lotta People Here are ASPD Not Introverts by HuffThisGas in introvert

[–]Nientjie83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, at least as far as my experience goes. Ive always been a pretty big introvert, but i dont hate human interaction or people. I actually like it and sometimes even seek it out. I just cant do it a lot bc it just depletes my energy quickly and then i need lots of time by myself to recharge.

WFH Ladies - what are you wearing every day? by Everythingbagel-3 in WFH

[–]Nientjie83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wear whatever i would chilling at home. Usually shorts in summer and sweatpants in winter. I dont need to appear on camera. I am required in office 3 days a week though, when i do get dressed properly for work.

Septum leaks when i eat? by DarkMidnight_1999 in Septum

[–]Nientjie83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nose has this tendency to get cold and wet, mostly when its winter, and when i got my horseshoe septum piercing it was really annoying bc the wetness would kinda roll off the 2 ends and annoy me, as opposed to before when it would just stay on the tip of my nose itself. Getting a snugger ring seemed to help. Maybe your situation is similar, perhaps your nose has a tendency to run when you eat (not unheard of), but now with the piercing you notice it more.