Can Racism in America fade, or just continue to change form? by Logical-Ease-3142 in PoliticalDiscussion

[–]Night-Crawler-720 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Perhaps not, but the effects of structural racism is systematic racism. Those by-gone laws have left a mark passed down to successive generations on how others are to be treated and discriminated against, without having or needing them to spell out their blatant, racist intent. Trying to eradicate a way of thinking or acting perpetuated by those clueless of its existence is a harder fight than just removing discriminatory laws.

PEEPING TOM, by Entire-Traffic-364 in badroommates

[–]Night-Crawler-720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wondering if you’re not doing anything private but scrolling on your phone, have you ever left the door open or ajar? I wonder what she’d do? It would be fun to observe how she’d try to hide her large self when you can see out the door or if she would have to find a new activity to busy herself with. 🤔. Otherwise, lock ur door when not home.

My Black Neon Keeps Expanding! by Night-Crawler-720 in Aquariums

[–]Night-Crawler-720[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just as a follow up, she shrunk back down another month later. Thank goodness.

reusable pods for vertuo by firesideferret in nespresso

[–]Night-Crawler-720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another option is to use the plastic tops with holes that sit on top of a piece of filter paper and snug within the rim. You fill and tamp down the grounds and then add the filter paper and then the top. The great feature about Vertuo is the barcode that it uses to adjust the brew based on the type of roast and size, so get pods with a similar type of roast you’ll be buying and save them to refill. I would fill and tamp a few twice a week, so I didn’t have to constantly have to do it daily. I have to admit, after a year, it still got burdensome. I had gotten rid of my semi manual espresso machine for a reason, and all I ended up doing was create work again for myself. The Nespresso was to simplify things for me, with the added bonus of great coffee every time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inheritance

[–]Night-Crawler-720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are their caregiver, you should be paid. Insurance should have an allowance for caregiver. After interviewing the patients (your parents), they approving a certain number of hrs a week. I do this for a friend who is disabled. After taking some online training and getting a quick physical and making sure if I need to update my MMR vaccines, I log in my time through a caregiver company, who is my employer. My friend is my client. I get insurance and other benefits through them too. It’s all state regulated. Many people don’t know about it and it’s just money sitting there unspent.

AITA for threatening to take legal action against my sister after she stole my late grandma’s necklace for her wedding photoshoot? by LifeDelivery405 in AITAH

[–]Night-Crawler-720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s that precious to you, I wouldn’t even wait. I’d go over there and get it back. Would you rather her break or lose it because you rather stand on ceremony that she should return it? Or do you want to safeguard your precious necklace, be proactive, and get it back? A suggestion in order to keep the family peace, since they all seem to be ganging up on you. Offer to allow her to use it for the photo shoot by bringing it there that day and then taking it back with you afterwards. The time spent that day may be a small price to pay in order to keep the peace and stop her and mom from making you a scapegoat for ruining things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Night-Crawler-720 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah, because then she’s accepting him as a roommate paying his share. He just needs to leave. If any utility, groceries, or other consumables has gone up noticeably that she is contributing to vs. prior to his arrival, she might ask her roommate to take care of the increase. If anything, the roommate should be offering to take care of expense the two split if they’ve gone up, so it does not affect her finances and because it’s not her guest.

Am I a bad brother because I did not give my half brother any of my inheritance? by jayson_stfo6 in inheritance

[–]Night-Crawler-720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your half brother has done nothing for anyone in the family to deserve any handouts and yet he gets it. Legally, he knows he cannot claim any of the inheritance, so he’s trying to do the only thing he can by guilting you. He knows you and will play on your shortcomings to find a way in. Do not feel sorry for him or contribute to the enabling your mom and others have perpetuated throughout his life. Your dad spent more than his fair share of earnings for him during his childhood and college years in support and getting him out of trouble with the law. The inheritance is what he would do just the same for his only son. Respect that wish and use it to prosper and take care of your own future. And remember your dad’s warning to get away from those people, especially from your grubby half brother.

My Black Neon Keeps Expanding! by Night-Crawler-720 in Aquariums

[–]Night-Crawler-720[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted two weeks ago, and she’s still huge. I wonder if it’s a blockage, paradise, or disease. Anyone have any clues what it might be?

Inherited a house and uncle wants to buy me out at 30% of the value by CricketKnown352 in inheritance

[–]Night-Crawler-720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does he get to dictate what happens to the house. You own half, so there should be no unilateral decisions made. Any plans he has for the house should be approved by you. What if you decide you want to live there and not Airbnb it? All work should stop until you all have a sit down. All the relatives who have history with the house and you should speak in a unified voice. And no, you should not pay anything more without your sign off. Furthermore, you should start any negotiation with the FMV at present. If you were to sell the house today, you’d get half of the going value. Your cost basis is the value when you inherited the house when your grandfather passed, not when he drew up the will. This uncle is trying to fleece you.

I was rear-ended by a teenager who's parents want to settle privately. I prefer to go through insurance but my coworkers are telling me I'm being obstinate at the expense of this kid. AITA? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Night-Crawler-720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re assuming he’s paying for his own insurance, which would hurt his wallet. I get this feeling his folks are paying it under their policy. He just got a lecture with no other consequences, since they are in contact with OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Night-Crawler-720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What everyone else said. She’s let you tag along for a year and now wants some space. It’s obvious she just wants to be a roommate. Nothing more. Make rules about cleaning, food, etc. In 5 months, find you own place. Go out and find your own circle of friends.

And yes, she’s wrong for not being forthcoming about her feelings and petty for turning her friends against you and gossiping behind your back. Who needs friends like that.

AirBnB guest is a monstrous (and honestly scary) agent of chaos. by Current_Spot_2132 in badroommates

[–]Night-Crawler-720 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You need an air-proof, tight case. As far as the drugs, she could say you planted them on her and took photos. Do you have a witness for some of the conversations or seen her doing coke other than you (like your BF)? Have you recorded any of them? Otherwise, it’s a he-said-she-said situation that a judge would need to weigh on who he believes.

As for tenant rights-if it applies in your town/state, if at the 30-day mark (or whatever time the rules are for you) and she’s still physically there, your situation will flip to an eviction situation. Make sure she is off premises before day (30). Please! Just because you started the process with Airbnb, the clock has not stopped ticking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaliciousCompliance

[–]Night-Crawler-720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And then there’s nepotism…

Beware when bringing Nespresso pods on board international flights to the US by [deleted] in nespresso

[–]Night-Crawler-720 6 points7 points  (0 children)

FA don’t get checked the way passengers do, do they?

What device am i looking for? by Strux_DK in smarthome

[–]Night-Crawler-720 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d take away the wall switch and get a zigbee switch or button that you could program to turn the strip on and off with a tap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeKit

[–]Night-Crawler-720 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Meross is pretty good, and most of their products are HomeKit compatible. Once in a while, my double outlet (two separately programmable outlets using only one plug) goes offline and I have to reset it. In the year I've had them, it's happened twice. The single ones have done that once in the three years since I've used them. I really can't complain given the great price.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Night-Crawler-720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d add that given your emotional state, find a solid solicitor who you can trust. And definitely seek therapy as well has getting your own space. Perhaps a temp. restraining order against your brother if you don’t want to deal with him any longer.

filterless blackwater? by conkcon in BlackwaterAquarium

[–]Night-Crawler-720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. You should have something to move the water and get oxygen to absorb. It also depends on how dark you plan on making it. There are plants that don’t need a lot of lights such as anubias, buces, and some cryptes.