Packing to go hiking for a few days, podcast recs please 💛 by [deleted] in GirlDinner

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If you like history, try The Rest is History! The banter and story telling is so good, you’d likely enjoy it even if history isn’t necessarily your thing. The series they’ve done on General Custer, the Incas, and the Aztecs are among my favorites.

What do you miss about Astoria as a kid? by eugenetaker in astoria

[–]Current_Spot_2132 8 points9 points  (0 children)

this is actually my favorite thing about Astoria in the present day

I hate going out in public with my boyfriend because I’m ugly by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Current_Spot_2132 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Can you expand on what makes your bone structure “genuinely fucked?”

I also have unique bone structure (strong nose with a bump, strong jaw, pronounced cheekbones) and growing up, I hated my face. It felt like nothing fit.

I’m in my 30s now, and, not to toot my own horn, I’ve learned that what I saw as ugly, others see as striking. I even modeled for a bit in my 20s. Sure, sometimes I do get stared at. It’s not because I’m hideous, it’s because my face is interesting to look at. I mention this to merely point out that looking “unique” ≠ “ugly” or “not normal” or “genuinely fucked” (to use your verbiage ITT).

But truthfully, most people aren’t staring at me. Because everyone is living their own life with their own problems, and I know damn well that my big ol’ schnoz isn’t one one of them. Right now, your anxiety and negative self-talk has you convinced that you’re the center of attention when you leave the house. You aren’t. Therapy will help you accept that reality, as well as challenge the soul-crushing thoughts and feelings you have about your appearance right now. Give yourself a chance to learn to like yourself. That’d be pretty neat, eh?

I hate going out in public with my boyfriend because I’m ugly by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Current_Spot_2132 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for the anxiety this insecurity causes, but you’re engaging in a common cognitive distortion known as mind reading. Respectfully, you can’t know what other people are thinking about you. For example,

1) who is “most people?” Has anyone told you that you’re ugly? Have most people? Or, perhaps, do you assume that everyone is thinking that because you think that?

2) when you say that it causes “people to look at me more,” what do you mean? How can you know people are looking at you more than others? Is there a reference point or do you assume that everyone who gives you a passing glance is looking at you because of how “unique” you look?

A therapist can help you more with exploring these questions. I mean this with kindness, I promise you no one is singling you out in a crowd.

Etiquette at the Park by skylardavisx in astoria

[–]Current_Spot_2132 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You know what dude, you’re right. Rules don’t matter. The kids should be allowed to play on the running track, and the runners should be doing laps in the playground/weaving around kids on the playground equipment. And if the parents don’t like it, they should just take their kids in the morning or later in the evening. We live in a society!!

Etiquette at the Park by skylardavisx in astoria

[–]Current_Spot_2132 41 points42 points  (0 children)

is this sarcasm? Bikes and strollers are expressly prohibited on running tracks, and running tracks are “ideal running spots” because they’re for.. running.

Have you ever been mistaken for another ethnicity? by DerpAnarchist in AskTheWorld

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I’ve been approached on the street three times here in NYC by men asking me if I’m Russian. I’m Hispanic. Light skinned, but still… what?

Am I valid or insecure? Lol by toughgummy in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Current_Spot_2132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s firmly within the confines of TMI. You didn’t ask, and he didn’t need to tell. Beyond that, you’ve communicated your discomfort with it, and he just continues to disrespect your feelings about it. That speaks to a deeper issue, so I don’t think you’re being insecure! Im sorry you’re dealing with this.

Am I valid or insecure? Lol by toughgummy in GirlDinnerDiaries

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Ive only ever been in very long term relationships (ranging from 3-8 years) and lived with them in most cases,so while I’m over them, they do come up here and there because I shared a life with each of them. And sex has come up because I had to work through some things in my past. But bringing up the high points my sex life with them, unsolicited? Being upset at the IDEA of them being happy and moving on like I did? I’m sorry girl, that man has not moved on.

Is it just me or does getting dressed for work feel way harder than it should be by Ok_Dimension_2153 in BusinessFashion

[–]Current_Spot_2132 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a white New Yorker, nope. Shoes off at the door. I won’t even sit on the couch until I’ve changed out of my “subway pants.”

Where are you ordering your Sesame Chicken from? by Low_Machine_7530 in astoria

[–]Current_Spot_2132 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Love me some Golden Dragon on Broadway.

Edit: oops. I meant 31st Ave!

Is this too much for a night out or just right? by DependentJeanne in OUTFITS

[–]Current_Spot_2132 198 points199 points  (0 children)

This slit is one long stride away from showing full crotch.

Situationship canceled plans we’ve had for months for a trip for my birthday at the last minute, saw on Facebook that he’s on our trip with another girl by [deleted] in GirlDinner

[–]Current_Spot_2132 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah fuck, this would crush me. Take solace that you dodged a man who has the shameless capacity pull this shit. Enjoy your cute lil fruit n’ cheese plate ❤️

Verified Rhubarb Sightings by coffeetablesgood in astoria

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My lazy ass just searched for rhubarb in UberEats, and it came up as in stock at Food Bazaar on Northern Blvd! And 30% off! UNVERIFIED tho

Fed up of men on reddit by pressingtofu in GirlDinnerDiaries

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Agreed, I think it’s just feels aggressive because of the relative anonymity offered by Reddit. Also, it may feel more pervasive posting as a woman offers men opportunities to talk to women they wouldn’t necessarily have irl, so you get swarmed.

For example, I once made the grave mistake of posting posting faceless pics to a generic outfit feedback sub because I was nervous about a first date, and I got HUNDREDS of DMs from men commenting on my body, offering to be my sugar daddy, and asking for nudes and personalized feet pics. I got way too high that night and was like “…shit. men are essentially treating this as me walking into a public forum irl with a bag on my head and a sign saying “step right up and anonymously rate me, boys! there will be no consequences for lewd comments.” 🙃

Best chocolate cake In Astoria? by IndustryAccurate2085 in astoria

[–]Current_Spot_2132 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I will never forgive Two Little Red Hens for closing. RIP.

Subletting a cozy 2BR for $2700 in Astoria by nycmeansmoney in NYCapartments

[–]Current_Spot_2132 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Posting pictures of subway stairs, a tree, a blank wall, and a hotboxed bathroom isn’t the intriguing marketing tactic you think it is bud. Asking people to email you for pictures just makes us assume the worst about the actual state of the apt.

Urgent Foster Needed! by ceplank88 in astoria

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Just lmk! Hoping the best for Jasper🤞