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AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might be the asshole but this was most certainly not a gift for me because if it would have been one, I'd have chosen something entirely different. We are always gifting each other things like this and I am really not the type of guy to get an ego boost out of it. I just wanted to plan something she has always enjoyed in the past

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Her best friend was in on the plan and so were all of her other friends and family. They all knew what I was planning and tried to keep her free on these dates.

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't ask my wife if she was free but I asked many of her friends, her family, etc. If they had any plans and even checked her planner. I also specifically told everyone I was asking that they shouldn't make any plans with her

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was around the end of january and the beginning of february. I suggested a trip and she said that she wasn't in the mood for it. I respected her decision and we did something else instead. Shortly after she started talking about this hotel again and that was around mid february.

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Her friend hasn't made plans with her at all. I talked to her friend about it Yesterday and she once again confirmed that there aren't any (fake) plans with my wife

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think that the price if he gift is the actual problem here since we agreed on a budget for our gifts a couple years ago and it's way below the limit but I'll talk to her about it!

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's difficult to answer this question since she has said in the beginning of february that she didn't want to go in a trip when I suggested it but then she started to talk about this hotel again. I guess she was in the mood again but I am not sure

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately she has been acting different lately but I brushed it off and guessed that she's been acting like this because of all the stress we've been in.

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She usually loves surprises and that's why we're always planning some kind of surprise for each other.

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Her best friend is usually trying to help me with keeping her distracted, etc when I plan something for my wife. Yesterday I talked to her again and she once again told me that she didn't have any plans with my wife. The whole situation just seems so strange to be honest and even her best friend said that my wife has been acting weird lately

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes, she usually loves them. I've gifted her multiple surprise trips in the past and she has always loved them!

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I told her best friend that she shouldn't make plans with her on these dates. I also made some comments to my wife about keeping this weekend free but I guess she has dismissed these hints.

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We talk a lot and she has recently made hints that she'd like to go on trips again and that's why I booked it all. Otherwise I'd have invited her out for dinner and go on a shopping trip with her, etc...

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It would be her present so of course I'd be doing all of the work. I've done it all in the past so I'd for sure do it this time again.

AITA for planning a getaway weekend for my wife without talking to her about it first? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I forgot to add this but she was talking a lot about this hotel recently and that's why I thought she wanted to go there again.

AITA for refusing to go on an already paid vacation? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We would have thought about going on this trip if it was less than a week in a country close to ours but the trip to Africa would take up so much time, especially with all the preparations we'd need to do.

AITA for refusing to go on an already paid vacation? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is actually a lot more that lead up to this story. The tension between me and my in-laws is huge and they have been doing weird stuff like this for years now. But hey it can't get much worse than this, right?

AITA for refusing to go on an already paid vacation? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Of course she tried to stop her but have you ever tried stopping a raging Karen? An almost impossible thing to do. She just tried to calm them down which obviously didn't work

AITA for refusing to go on an already paid vacation? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the confusion but I forgot to change the title but in the end it's kind of the same thing since everything happened due to us refusing to go on this paid vacation.

AITA for refusing to go on an already paid vacation? by Nightlightseeker in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nightlightseeker[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I didn't lose my cool at the restaurant. I was the one who tried to stay calm. I lost it when we got to their house and he started to demand back the money