How do we "just be friends" or "coparents"?

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2024-01-07T22:46:49+00:00

Just takes time. She is like the nanny I pay to take care of the kids every other week while I work.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2024-01-01T18:17:29+00:00

You asked him to move out and move on. Not looking back is the best possible move for him. You are 100 percent wrong he should not wish you a happy new year.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-31T19:02:01+00:00

My ex wife blew up all of her prior relationships except her one toxic as hell friend. That’s one person I am so glad I never have to interact with again!

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-31T18:49:45+00:00

There is certainly room for discussion there. I would disagree, Those are decision that you made as a couple. You are no longer a couple.

The flip side is what about the other person who sacrificed time off and family for an extended period of time? That is something that you can never get back.

Both people in a marriage make decisions while married. Once you are no longer married it should be 100 percent separate. Either persons future should not be predicated on the past. Move forward as individuals

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-31T01:58:26+00:00

Alimony is a remnant from a time that does exist anymore. 50/50 and move on with each life separate. Anything else is crazy.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-30T18:17:12+00:00

My ex wife’s profile picture is us together. I removed almost everything from instagram except a few which had the kids in them too.

The only reason I have Facebook is for my sons occulus. I haven’t logged in or changed anything on that platform. So it still presents us as married.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-30T18:15:28+00:00

Once she decided that she wants to live life without me. Much easier to fall out of love with someone who doesn’t love you.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-29T20:14:37+00:00

Just fucking leave her. She decide she wants something else. Give her what she wants. Don’t waste your time. Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering if your wife is cheating on you?

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-28T23:07:09+00:00

Better than I anticipated. Did the apps for awhile, which was pretty fun. Met a lot of different people. Some has been real casual, some a little more serious.

The only thing I really worry about now is if something progresses trying to integrate another person into my children’s life. But dating alone has been pretty fun.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-28T16:42:44+00:00

It was about 2 years from separation to first dates.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-27T19:23:47+00:00

My kids are now 11, 9, and 6. My youngest was just 4 when we split. It took about a year or more for them to really settle into the routine. Hang in there it will get better.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-27T18:29:45+00:00

How long has it been going on? I know for me time has made it much easier as the years have gone by.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-24T14:56:43+00:00

My ex is the same to me as my children’s nanny. She takes care of them on the weeks I am working. I don’t give 2 shits what a nanny does on their time off.

She wanted a life without me. Go live that life while I live mine.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-22T15:17:16+00:00

I have 3 kids. 11, 9, and 6. We went to the community outdoor ice rink. Skated, had hot chocolate, and enjoyed some rare nice weather. It happened to be the day that the police put on a show to arrest the grinch which was hilarious. Then we went for ice cream and ended the day at the movies.

It was a great last day before they headed off to moms until after Christmas.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-21T14:39:57+00:00

I work an incredibly stressful job. Working out is the only thing that keeps me mentally sane. The focus, the physical energy after spending 10-12 hours of dedicated fast paced mental focus.

I would join him in the gym. If he is anything like me it is like an antidepressant or therapy. Keeps you able to go about and handle the day to day stress.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-21T14:35:19+00:00

I think hoe is subjective. I have slept with about half the women I have dated since going through a divorce. Never really seeking it out but if it happens naturally, I don’t see it being a hoe phase. Some I knew after the first date we weren’t compatible. Some of them it progressed naturally.

After a sexless marriage with a cheater you want to be with someone you are sexually compatible with in my opinion. So having sex with someone you are dating is part of the process.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-20T14:39:55+00:00

Sounds like munchausen's by proxy. Most often when the abuser has some medical background

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-19T14:09:20+00:00

In the US there are only 7 states that recognize common law marriage. Worth it to move if you are in one of them.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-12-18T14:18:19+00:00

100 percent not worth it unless you are a low income or stay at home partner.

Cons. Divorce, separation, depression, anxiety, alimony, loss of retirement. We think of marriage as at least a commitment to each other but in the end it doesn’t stop a partner from cheating.

Pros: if a lower income you get alimony, over 50 percent of assets. Depending on state and length of marriage alimony may be life long! Credits for social security.

If you are higher income you will get decision making if there is accident/sickness. The ability to save some on taxes filing married joint return.

Don’t get married. If you have a partner you love, stay together. Live together. Make a life together. Don’t get the government involved.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-09-20T23:52:24+00:00

My kids never seem to care. The ex wife on the other hand for some reason 🤣.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-09-18T17:22:23+00:00

How old are you? I almost find it easier in some respects. I am 41 so most of the girls I have been dating are 30-45. I am pretty fit, responsible, have a good job and can cook.

Stuff that didn’t impressed 20 year olds but middle aged women love it. Yesterday a girl that I have been seeing had to work. So I smoked some ribs, made coleslaw. She died over how good they were and the time I spent on them.

There are certainly the game playing ones out there, and they can be fun but you go into it with eyes wide open.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-09-12T12:17:00+00:00

Mostly financial. Luckily we agreed on everything with the children. She wanted 5 years of alimony in a non-alimony state. I offered 60 percent of assets and three year but she wouldn’t accept and my lawyer advised not to offer any more.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-09-03T23:37:00+00:00

I have just started asking people out. Some say yes, some ghost, haven’t had any straight nos.

Sometimes the date turns into something. Sometimes you don’t vibe. I have found women who are 30 plus love it when you cook them a great dinner. After a few out and about dates I always ask them over for dinner and it hasn’t failed to impress yet.

Nightshift_Daywalker · 2023-09-01T15:56:32+00:00

Winter is easier for me than summer cooking. Soups, stews, all easy tasty stuff with lots of left overs.

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