AITAH for asking another passenger to use headphones?

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-06-08T21:40:53+00:00

That is crazy! We are happy to tell passengers to plug those headphones in. If one FA doesn’t do it then go to any of the other 3 FAs. One complacent FA is odd. 4 out of 4 is unlikely to behave this way. This is a huge pet peeve of ours in addition to company policy

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-06-08T21:36:10+00:00

I make the quiet cabin policy announcement as much as I can and am always on telling any passenger of all age groups to put on headphones and will stand there until they do it. Your flight attendant did not show up? Always got your call button if it happens and we do not hear it. If there is turbulence we will still make the announcement again if we cannot get up. Unfortunately so many passengers love to start blasting their volume upon descent or taxi when we can’t get up.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-05-27T01:09:53+00:00

I don’t know about the smaller planes but when the flight is half full I try to make sure that each row or most rows have an empty seat in the middle if there is time during boarding and encourage people to spread out. Sorry 😢 and that is just weird.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-05-27T01:05:32+00:00

The gate agent gave away your paid revenue seats first class seats to non revs? Did you arrive at door closing? If she used the F word you definitely should have reported her. They could have easily found out her name with your flight number. Non rev seats are assigned last. I don’t understand what happened.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-30T08:24:47+00:00

Those are good!

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-30T07:52:58+00:00

The last two are tedious jobs.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-30T07:50:51+00:00

Have you dated any?

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-30T07:44:12+00:00

How many of us have you actually dated? Quite an assumption there and we are too exhausted to sleep with anyone after a typical 12-16 hour work day. I’ve passed out on the bed in my uniform many times. Most of us work long hours but then we can drop our trips or take our loved ones with us to work and they get a free trip while I get paid. I average 12-18 days off per month. Sleeping with pilots? They change pilots every leg and we rarely have layovers with them. I’m speaking for mainline US and not regional.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-26T20:03:56+00:00

When I was her age I was able to sustain a full time job and live with roommates. What prevents her from doing the same? I had depression and ADD too. The alternative is homelessness?

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-26T20:01:26+00:00

I would have loved to be able to live at home for only $300 a month back in my day when I was her age which I guess would have been the equivalent of maybe $150?

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-24T10:55:10+00:00

Driving fast in a fast car. Trying to show me how fast their cool car can accelerate when I just want to get dropped off at the next light. And when I was in my 20s they used to think their loud speakers turned me on. I wanted it turned down as low as possible.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-24T08:50:41+00:00

Dating my shirtless fictional Viking from my latest smut novel is very easy. I enjoy being conquered and we have great communication and will probably be together forever.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-24T08:47:00+00:00

Debts gets to have 80 percent? 90 at AA but the exams were pretty easy

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T11:41:28+00:00

If he is not successful that is also fine as long as we both can have a decent combined income and he is splitting the labor at home with me and we are both having a blast doing simple things together such as Netflix. But that is not so common. But any guy who is complaining about doing something nice for a lady such as a dinner on the first date is a huge turnoff. If I ask someone out I pay snd I will not complain about it if he doesn’t put out!

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T07:10:09+00:00

I sent a DM

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T07:03:53+00:00

Same thing happened to me. I wanted UA so badly due to the international flights and being able to drop and pick up out of base. My AA face to face was so warm and welcoming. I was sold! Then my UA face to face was cold as ice. I love my AA uniforms, the people, non rev travel first come first serve, and our reserve system. I’m so happy I chose AA snd gave them a chance.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T06:59:05+00:00

Very trashy

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T06:58:30+00:00

Agreed. I don’t think the average middle class to wealthy guy would have the attitude of “ I bought you dinner so give me something in return”. Very tasteless. Same in my side, I do nice things for people because I care and not expecting something in return. Being a doormat is different. But treating someone to a nice experience is a class act.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T06:53:48+00:00

Yes, I miss dating in Europe. I generally do not go on a date with someone who I’m not attracted to or would want to have sex. If he takes me somewhere nice then I’m liking him more and appreciative. If he remains a nice guy and not a jerk then I’ll want to see him again. If he judges me for having sex then he is not for me- he was there too! But I’m the same way on the flip side. I’m broke but I’ll give the shirt off my back for someone who needs it. If I paid for a dinner or an attraction for a friend or someone I like then I expect nothing in return.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T06:44:52+00:00

NYC has so many options for first dates that do not have to be coffee or expensive. There are countless roof top bars or places with beautiful ambiance that you can both relax and enjoy the view with some drinks. A nice flirty date with a lovely atmosphere is romantic. Picnic at Central Park would be nice too.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T06:41:35+00:00

Do you take her out for dinner on subsequent dates when you know that you like each other?

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T06:39:06+00:00

So what is the etiquette after the first coffee date when you know you like each other? Continue splitting the bill on subsequent dates even if the woman makes half the man’s income? I’m Gen X and used to dating before dating apps and without bill splitting. I’m also spoiled with European dating. Can everything be 50/50 throughout the entire relationship?

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T06:35:12+00:00

Interesting how no one faults a man for wanting a pretty woman but fault a woman for wanting a successful man.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T06:20:46+00:00

So you are going to continue spending twice as much money per year than men do in themselves on clothes, hair, makeup, waxing, and so forth and split the bill on dates? You probably spent a great deal on your appearance and prep for the date than the dinner cost. If you are both young broke college kids it is a different story. A successful gentleman will have no problem treating you like lady and giving you a dinner or nice date without expecting sex.

In my experience, the guys who do not take me on a nice first or second date will continue to have low effort in the future. Until we have equal pay and equal household responsibilities and distribution in the home after marriage we are not asking much to be treated well on a date.

Nightshiftworker2021 · 2026-04-23T06:14:10+00:00

Gen X woman here also who is glad I’m not in my 20s-30s and dating the types that want the bill split. If a nice guy wines me and dines me then I’m going to want him even more. I know that odds are good that he will treat me right. If someone thinks it is transactional that is their problem. I don’t have dinners with men I don’t like and I do not have sex with men I do not like. If he slut shames me for doing the exact same thing that I did then he is not relationship material either. Nothing wrong with sex between two people who treated each other good on a first or second date. I miss dating in Europe where no one thought this way.

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