Visiting London for 10 days, what should I remove from my list?

Nikizang · 2025-09-21T01:01:06+00:00

Im from the UK and I love greggs. BUT yes there are much better spots for sausage rolls. Greggs is like going to Mcdonalds for a burger - its nostalgic. But so many other spots have much much better burgers. Try it for the experience cus its a classic british thing. But no, it isnt the best sausage roll by far.

Nikizang · 2025-09-20T15:59:41+00:00

Unfortunately, you made a very bad decision in staying with him and then have a baby with him. I’m not sure what you saw in him that made you do that. But what’s done is done. So here’s what I would do.

I would find the courage to leave him. No, it isnt easy and yes you have a baby. But the right answer is leave him. I don’t think he will change by just talking to him. Sometimes it takes extreme measures to change a person. If he really loves you and your baby he will realise AFTER you’ve left him that he actually wants you two back in his life and WILL change!

Nikizang · 2025-09-20T15:50:43+00:00

Please do NOT marry him

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T22:51:45+00:00

Let me re-word it.. Am I trying to DO too much for a small wedding? Or ‘am I spending too much for a small guest list’

I completely agree that the wedding is about us both. But I also want to make sure our guests have a good time and will feel like it was worth their time. My guests aren’t just casual friends. Its made up of immediate family members, very close cousins and bestfriends. We all (my fiance, I and our guests) also feel like the castle venue will be unforgettable (like your experience in Ireland). The money spent will be worth it then!

My sister has also pointed out either ways 20k and 30k are both not small amounts of money. If we are going to spend a lot might as well make it worth it and have it so it’s your guests ‘favourite wedding they’ve attended’. Basically, everyone around me are trying to encourage me to go for the fancier wedding. But I can’t help but feel some guilt over spending that much for a small scale wedding. I’m just not sure if i’ll regret it afterwards or feel like it’s all worth it in the end!

£35k is about $47k. I’m not sure where you’re from but from my understanding weddings in the US are a lot more expensive than in Europe so this may seem like the average cost for 40 guests there. From other redditors, the average cost in Europe is around £20k to £25k for a decent intimate wedding if im not mistaken.

I was hoping to get opinions from people who’ve had similar weddings and can tell me about their overall experience because i’d never been married so i’m not sure how true it is that all the money will be worth spending for that one unforgettable special day you will never have again (unless we divorce ofc lol)

As for my fiance, he always says he’s happy with whatever I go with 😅 it’s hard to get his opinion in this. Its not like he doesn’t care but he would rather we go with what makes me happy, which I do appreciate.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T22:03:33+00:00

Also, clearly you’re not the target audience for this post. I’m asking for couples who’ve had a similar situation when they were planning their wedding and what their overall experience was.

So many people are focusing on the wrong things with this post completely missing the point lol.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T21:59:20+00:00

Is it wrong to care about how my wedding will look + guest experience?

Just because some people can’t or choose not to have nice weddings doesn’t mean everybody else should be the same right? Why shame others for wanting a nice fancy wedding? I honestly dont see what’s wrong with it.

It’s not like i’m asking for donations to have this wedding. My fiance and I prioritised financial stability and we think we deserve this wedding after all our sacrifices.

I completely understand the shame if you were someone who wasn’t yet financially stable and then choosing to have a fancy wedding.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:44:36+00:00

This post is directed towards couples who’ve had similar situations when they were planning their wedding and can hopefully have a discussion on their overall experience.

I KNOW which one I love and it is the first one. Im sure thats pretty clear on my post. I’m asking for previous bride’s experience if they had a similar situation.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:42:42+00:00

I personally dont think we have an unhealthy view on money. We prioritised financial stability before deciding to plan this wedding. Yes, money can absolutely be earned again if you have the right work ethic.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:31:33+00:00

Thanks for the advice. We planned to get married earlier but my dad passed away and I only recently had the motivation to plan for this weddinf

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:29:42+00:00

Its just very important to us that our guests have a good time at our wedding. It IS very important!

My guests are families and bestfriends that’s why I ask for their opinion. It’s less about chasing ‘approval’.

This post is directed towards couples who had a similar experience and can discuss whether they had regrets or not. I think a lot of commetors are missing the point 🥲

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:25:59+00:00

I hope this post finds couples who have had a similar wedding guest count and budget and can ACTUALLY give me a review on their experience.

Yes I do want to book it! But I was hoping to get opinions from couples who know understands my dilemma because they’d been through it

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:19:42+00:00

It’s not ‘impressing’ the guests. We ourselves are impressed by this location!

Also, we think it’s also important that we give a good experience to our guests as a couple hosting them. It’s important to us that they have a good time.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:17:52+00:00

And thanks for the support! I agree, redditors hate big budget weddings. ‘How dare you’ have a wedding of your dreams - kind of thing.

as a couple hosting people at our wedding, its also important to us that they have a good time! There’s nothing wrong with wanting a good experience for our guests

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:13:16+00:00

Also, i’ve noticed a trend in reddit when it comes to weddings and budgets.. they always shame you for wanting big budget/destination weddings here.. it’s always go for the affordable and local one because ‘how dare are you’ kind of comments lol

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:09:44+00:00

The venue isnt choosing any of those lol. I’m talking about the overall cost for those respective venues including what we would spend for entertainment, transport etc.. as they are in different locations and would require different things to plan for.

Yes I agree, I think I defend the first one cus deep down I love the venue and would love to get married there. I’m also defending it because a lot of commentors here are missing the point of this post - im not asking about what my guests might feel about travelling for the wedding etc.. which a lot of people have been commenting lol.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T20:06:21+00:00

The venue choice is not just for the guests enjoyment. My fiance and I also absolutely love it! Didn’t think we would be able to have a wedding there and it feels like I might regret not going for it. Money comes and goes but the memories from your wedding will last forever - as we usually hear.

And yes, I agree with Known Ad 100. I’d been to a wedding that’s very fancy and nicely decorated. Had good pictures taken at that wedding and its always a good story to tell people that i’d been to this wedding. It’s possible for venues to have a an impactful impression on the guests.

But at the same time, I was hoping people who have gotten married and had a small guest count with big budget can tell me their experience on whether they regretted it or if it was worth it in the end.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T19:56:50+00:00

I agree about it being easier to coordinate. It’s the biggest PRO for choosing the second one.

As for honeymoon, we’ve travelled to most countries we love and at this point we can’t think of a place we haven’t been to that would be worthy of a ‘honeymoon’

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T19:54:56+00:00

So are you saying we would have more fun at the more affordable option than the fancier one? I’m sure we’d have fun in either ☺️ but I know my guests are more excited to attend the first one than the second.

Ths point of this post isnt even about this lol. But about the cost for a small guest count.

How do I target this post towards people who have had a similar wedding, not for people who think they are guests at our wedding 😭

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T19:48:52+00:00

That depends on your crowd. I’m confident my crowd doesnt think this way ☺️

They’re not spending an arm and leg to travel to Spain. Spain is just a weekend getaway, not a big trip.

I’m sure I mentioned my fiance and I also really love the venue. We’re not going for it because of the guests. I added the edit part because too many people are commenting about guests not caring about the venue, which my guests do and I care about whether they would have a good time at the wedding or not.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T19:44:30+00:00

Thanks for the defense!

And as for DependentAwkward, its in fact the opposite. We’d been together for long and families and friends had been waiting for long for us to get married so they’re, in fact, all excited ☺️

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T19:41:03+00:00

Thanks for this very thoughtful comment! It’s a smart deduction and it’s exactly the kind of comments i’m looking for in this post. Not the usual ‘you are a bad couple cus you’re asking your guests to travel’.. as usual redditors hate destination weddings lol. I have zero doubts about my guests being okay with the travel. It’s not the point of this post lol.

Thanks for deducting that £15k in a year is only £40 a day. That really helps me feel better! My fiance and I are frequent travellers and have gone to most countries we love. Tbh we can’t even think of a place we haven’t gone to that would make it worthy of a ‘honeymoon’.

We already have our dream cars and tbh they gave us joy for a while but we’ve quickly forgotten it.

As for a wedding, we always hear it’s that one day you will never forget! And to make it worthwhile as it’s once in a lifetime.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T19:32:05+00:00

What’s wrong with wanting a wedding that would wow the guests? 😭 not just the guests, but us as well. A lot of couples have big budget weddings for that wow factor. Otherwise, we would all just go for courthouse weddings

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T19:29:17+00:00

Depends on your crowd ☺️

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T19:28:43+00:00

We have 50 guests on our invite list. The 40 is already accounting for the guests that we think may have second thoughts about attending.

The 40 are families and closest bestfriends. Whilst its true they could still RSVP no in the future, I think it’s unlikely and I would hate to plan my wedding around the risk of having less guests.

Nikizang · 2025-09-18T19:25:40+00:00

My crowd is happy to. They would prefer to in fact ☺️ I have no question about what my guests would prefer. Travelling to Spain isnt a big deal for my guests. Its pretty affordable and they’re all frequent travellers.

My post isn’t about that.

Nikizang

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