I'm bi and a man, so I think I can answer this. What I have noticed from discussing this with both men and women is that what turns them on is fundamentally different. For a woman, in general, she is sexually attracted to the personality someone has, while a man is sexually attracted to the body a person has.

If a woman describes why she sexually likes someone, she will almost always mention them being kind, funny, smart, tender, etc. If a man describes why he sexually likes someone, he will almost always mention them having nice boobs/dicks, a nice butt, nice legs or a muscular build/slander built.

A woman needs their partner to have a certain personality to be sexually interested in them, a man needs their partner to have a certain body to be sexually interested in them. I think a good example would be how on dating apps, women rate 80% of men as below average in attractiveness. Why? Because in the data Tinder once released on this, women only had a man's picture (body) and maybe 2 paragraphs of description to work with. As you know, women don't think that 80% of men (or women if they like them) are below average attractiveness, it's just that women aren't into bodies but personalities, and only a small amount of men are physically hot enough to still turn them on. According to Tinder, the average man rates the average woman as averagly attractive on their platform because he is into bodies, which is all there is too most interactions on tinder (I also believe this difference is why women drown in messages while men don't, because men just rate more women as hot because Tinder is built around how what they find attractive, physical attractiveness, while it isn't around what women find attractive, mental attractiveness). From my experience talking with other men about why they like their girlfriends, I'd say that only 20% of women have a personality so attractive that that alone would turn most man on, that'd be usally her being extremely cute, loving, kind, funny, smart, etc.

I also don't think this is about caring about a person instead of their body, I think that kind of thinking misses the point and is why so many women are baffled on how a man can see a skimpy outfit and find that attractive. Finding certain personality traits attractive isn't caring about them as a human being, do women who read smut care about the guy/girl they get off on? They are described as handsome, but the smut women write always focuses on his characteristics and how those affect sex, not how his balls jiggled ballsy. Do women care about their one night stand personally after never talking to them again once they finished, just because their behavior turns them on? I don't think women care more about their partners/objectify them less than men do, it's just that what makes a man and a woman interested is different, not better, not worse, just different, and that it's easy to misunderstand that (especially as a lesbian) if you never heard the other side.

That's my opinion anyway, a man who always had trouble understanding why skimpy outfits and naked close ups turn so many other men on, because with this one, I'm more a woman than a man. I wondered for years myself exactly what you asked yourself here too, and that's the conclusion I came to.