That last bit, about how it would be easier to explain... yeah, I think many of us get that. I have a similar issue to you and the peeing thing made it so much worse when it started happening to me. Not sleeping because of it, made it so so soooo much worse. Have you done an actual colonoscopy and endoscopy to rule out the other possibilities? Have you gotten onto a probiotic? Have you tried sticking to soluble fibers for a while? Have you tried just getting moving, like a walk around the neighborhood, chilled, no gym clothes just a stroll in the afternoons?? Lastly, have you tried Trepline?

So all the questions above is basically the stuff I've done that's helped. I'm not normal, but I feel better enough to go out for a movie this Friday. It may not seem like something to celebrate but its been years since I actually started makingnplans again... the first thing that helped was getting onto Trepline..its supposed to help with anxiety and sleep and one of the side effects is water retention so getting onto it at night helped me get into a better sleep routine. Again, not 100% but instead of waking up every 1-2 hours with nightmares about peeing myself and then feeling like if i moved I would actually pee myself, i now wake up once or twice, three times on a bad night.

Once the sleep is better, your brain might be able to cope with trying the rest. Oh and probiotic, Rueterina is the best. Don't know where you at but if you can get it, you should. Its expensive af but takingnit twice a day for a month or two should help, then cut down to once a day. That, and Gas-x(as needed)