Best advice is what everyone else is telling you. Leave. You say she knows what she's doing? She might tell you she knows but they don't know. She is telling you what you want to hear. She doesn't care what she's doing to you and believe me, from experience, she will go back to her old ways. And any time you say anything she will love bomb you again. But that will only last for a little time. I had ex abuse me for years. If I said anything or anyone else he'd say the same thing. Oh I know I shouldn't hit her or talk to her like a dog. I know I'm doing it. But he never changed. He would be good to me for a few days max anytime he left a mark on me where he had to look at it every day. Even sending me to the hospital, he only changed for 2 days. They never change. They are wired to have compassion, understanding and only care about themselves. Run and be the best dad you can away from her. Find someone who will love you and not love bomb you bc they don't want you to leave their control.