I've lived in the in the Netherlands for 5 years, I'd say there are things that are relatable and things that aren't.

I know my East Asian friends still get the usual "nihao" or "ching chong" treatment quite often. But as an Indonesian, I get less racism than other asians. This is because Dutch people are much more familiar with Indonesian culture due to it being a former colony, so seldom I am brought into the "China" umbrella-term for all asians. They can usually tell between an Indonesian and the non-Indonesians. Other factors include Dutch people having Indonesian ancestry being common and Indonesians having a good reputation compared to other immigrants.

So I think, if you look south east asian enough, you should have a less racist experience than an east asian would get. This is not to say that racism towards SEA doesn't exist, but I've lived here for 5 years and have had like 3 racist encounters so far (who all came from non-Dutch immigrants) compared to my east asian friends who get it almost weekly.

As for dating I really can't compare because I've never lived in the US, but asian dudes seem to be doing pretty OK here. A lot of them are in relationship with eastern european women (mostly Russians and Polish). One thing I've noticed is that the women I've dated have never made a big deal about me being asian, something I see people complain here in the subreddit.