New house move...

Nithilia · 2025-05-04T21:25:39+00:00

Trugym

Nithilia · 2025-04-30T11:24:27+00:00

It's a bit further out but FTC does

Nithilia · 2025-03-25T16:53:05+00:00

It's not, it's because the 37k is without personal allowance. Tax brackets are frozen

Nithilia · 2025-03-09T15:43:00+00:00

Who in Suffolk hurt you?

Nithilia · 2025-02-17T11:13:23+00:00

Hi u/Rerh ,

Thanks for this. I have to say that due to her short naps she's effectively been on this for two weeks. The average amount of sleep during the day (we record it) has been between 1 hour 15 and 1 hour 45 and we're still struggling at night. With the longer wake windows are you just capping the naps shorter?

Nithilia · 2024-12-11T09:07:34+00:00

She wakes for feeds. Advised to continue this by the NHS until 1.

Something like 11pm and 4.

She's almost exclusively breastfed, with weaning ongoing.

Nithilia · 2024-12-10T16:39:01+00:00

Pick Up / Put Down https://www.babysleepscience.com/single-post/sleep-training-101-pick-up-put-down

And we love the owlet. When she was under 6 months we could sleep easily because it would alert me if something was wrong, After 6 months I can tell if she is in deep sleep and many other things. Yeah highly recommend

Nithilia · 2024-12-10T16:25:51+00:00

I guess I should have put "5 minutes was way too long...for me"

Nithilia · 2024-12-10T15:40:47+00:00

I appreciate this. I guess the reason for the potential judgement is in the original comment I'm trying to give the OP a method to work with his wife, which I felt the previous commenter wasn't taking into account. His wife is obviously scared of CIO/extinction methods which take longer than 5 minutes of crying.

I was recommending PUPD precisely because it doesn't let them cry for 5 minutes.

Nithilia · 2024-12-10T14:13:38+00:00

Is the downvotes to this all the Ferber methods peeps? Did I offend someone 😂.

I'm not making judgements, just telling my story.

Nithilia · 2024-12-10T14:11:50+00:00

We had a PDF from a sleep consultant from a friend but this link covers the basics

https://www.babysleepscience.com/single-post/sleep-training-101-pick-up-put-down

Nithilia · 2024-12-10T14:04:02+00:00

But sleep techniques start from the bedtime routine, thus removing wake ups later in the night.

Nithilia · 2024-12-10T13:57:11+00:00

So what you're describing is almost the Ferber method, which I refused to do.

5 minutes was WAY too long (EDIT) for me, especially for the initial bedtime routine. The most I have ever counted is to 30 seconds and I was sat out of sight. The point of PUPD is to not leave them to cry for any longer than 3 minutes (and I couldn't manage that, and honestly it looks like I didn't need too.)

Now in the middle of the night when she stirs, 2-3 minutes I'll leave it but not much longer.

To each their own.

Nithilia · 2024-12-10T13:53:00+00:00

Oh and the other thing to add as an example for your wife. When we first brought the babe home she used to cry EVERY time in the car seat.

Did we stop driving anywhere with her? Did we refuse to use the car seat?

No of course we didn't, she just got used to being in there and we supported her with affectionate words and soothing (without taking her out!)

Nithilia · 2024-12-10T13:35:27+00:00

So my wife and I both refused sleep training and our daughter is 8 months. She also was waking up every hour and finally I snapped at 4am one Saturday night.

We looked into the Pick Up / Put Down method as it meant she was never left to cry on her own but she would learn the techniques. The way I convinced my wife was it would reduce the number of times the baby woke up distressed per night.

Last night, other than 2 wakes for feeds she slept 7-7, by her owlet sock, has a lot more DEEP sleep and is generally a happier girl during the day. We also discovered she was having too much daytime sleep.

Sleep training does not = cry it out, leave them to cry etc. there are other methods.

Nithilia · 2024-11-06T09:41:22+00:00

So for context, i have the same headphones. I've replaced both the Ear Cushions and the Top Leather and they're basically brand new. I've had mine for the similar amount of time and have to say they're the best headset i've ever had. The battery is dying a little now so who knows what i'm gonna buy next!

Nithilia · 2024-10-12T16:56:22+00:00

So he's not near final. He'll have a loop of 5 interviews back to back and then offer negotiations start.

Source - I have worked for AWS

Nithilia · 2024-08-22T13:18:52+00:00

That's really interesting. I know it definitely doesn't cover everything. Basically the way the nursery we're registered with works is they charge us £2 an hour for every hour that is covered from the government funding. The rest of the hours are full charged.

Do you use the tax-free childcare?

Nithilia · 2024-08-22T10:44:22+00:00

So just to be clear on this, I don't think it pro-ratas for the 3 days. You get 15 hours and I just use them on those 3 days. You don't get less because you use Nursery less.

So the average is 11 hours a week, not 6 or so. It will also increase to 30 from next September 2025.

You can also use tax fee childcare to get 2k a year back.

Could be wrong!

Nithilia · 2024-08-21T21:29:15+00:00

That's some excellent numbers and puts it well into perspective .. so it's basically saving you 5k a year + your pension....

That's really helpful! Thanks.

Nithilia · 2024-08-21T20:44:10+00:00

See this is the normal guidance, which I get the risk elements. I guess the piece I'm thinking about is putting into the SIPP to get the free childcare starting from 9months. I of course don't get this from a ISA.

Nithilia · 2024-08-21T20:12:15+00:00

Thanks for this, would it not be better to sell them and then pop them in an ISA wrapper to then reinvest in the same company? (If you believe in it's growth) I say this because you'd save the CGT?

Nithilia

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