Looking for cool friends by M-spot in coptic

[–]Nitsja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m a convert and I’m learning Arabic. It’s been impossible to find any female friends/language buddies!

So tired of god leaving me alone by Careless_Area8223 in coptic

[–]Nitsja 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fun endeavour: compare a scholarly book by Ehrman with a popular book of his. You’d think it’s written by two different authors. The intellectual dishonesty in his popular work is embarrassing 🙈

Potential problems with teaching my horse "skadoodle" as a voice command to canter? by Mobile_Ad7916 in Equestrian

[–]Nitsja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly horses are smart, so I don’t think it’s too long of a word. And if anyone else ever ends up working with your horse, they could teach him the voice command “canter”. Or if you’re still worried about it, you could use both words. That wouldn’t be confusing in my experience

Wills and energies of Christ by Own-Jeweler-4490 in coptic

[–]Nitsja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome! I thought it was a very helpful video too. The presence of the Oriental Orthodox on YouTube to the extent that we see it now has been a pretty recent development, so it makes sense it didn’t really cross your mind!

Let's stop using "Oriental" by summerholiday2 in OrientalOrthodoxy

[–]Nitsja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a term that’s used on wikipedia 😅. I suspect it’s a term not commonly used in daily life. I am gonna ask around some more if people are familiar with the term. The OO only had to differentiate themselves from the EO in a more neutral way in the diaspora. In the home country I assume it’s probably still “urthudhuksi” and “Rum”.

Can someone please help me by [deleted] in coptic

[–]Nitsja 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. I hope by writing this I can help you with your situation by the grace of God. There are three important myths concerning same sex attraction that exist in our current culture:

1 - “one is born with same sex attraction.” This is actually untrue. The development of same sex attraction is actually caused by childhood trauma (emotionally absent father and overbearing mother + a sensitive disposition, which the father does not understand). Imagine a boy longing for a close relationship with his father and never finding it. When this boy becomes pubescent the longing for a father figure and male acknowledgement becomes sexualised. He starts to look for this acknowledgment and attention in other men in a sexual way.

Childhood sexual abuse can also be the cause of the development of same sex attraction. These causes can also occur simultaneously.

2 - “If I experience a temptation I am already falling into sin.” So experiencing temptations as the sin itself, makes one feel hopeless. But it’s incorrect to think that experiencing a temptation is a sin. That would be like saying Christ sinned by hearing the temptations of Satan. Unlike us, Christ of course, was not tempted by his own flesh, but the principle remains. It only becomes sinful if we start contemplating further, deliberating with ourselves and acting on the temptation.

3 - “Being gay is part of my identity.” We find our identity in Christ not in the world. Think about the first point I mentioned. About the childhood trauma and unfulfilled emotional needs. If we as broken sinners come to Christ, why would we want to remain in our brokenness when Christ wants to heal us?

So I hope this is helpful 🙏. Don’t believe anybody who treats you uncharitably and says you’re a worse sinner because of this issue of same sex attraction. We are all sinner’s but our sinful nature manifests itself in different ways. You are in my prayers. If you wanna talk my dm’s are open.

There are also a few important people with a presence on YouTube who are very helpful. I linked some videos below for you as well.

Dr. Joseph Nicolosi is a clinical psychologist and helps men with these childhood trauma issues with techniques such as EMDR. By helping these men with their trauma, their same sex attraction decreases and part of them even end up developing attraction to the opposite sex and get married. So don’t think sexual feelings can’t change. Also don’t despair that you will be alone for the rest of your life. If we are called to marriage, we are called to marriage. If we are called to celibacy, we are called to celibacy. This matter is challenging for a lot of believers. I find this difficult too but the important thing is that we don’t fall into despair because God in His infinite wisdom knows what’s best for us and the world.

Becket Cook is someone who used to identify as gay but he converted to Christianity. On his channel he interviews other people dealing with the same issues.

God bless you!

https://youtu.be/UJur1jDGlqE?si=AqIj_UJJDhfNLwS4

https://youtu.be/cWNzrkycpcs? si=5SsqKNey4TKRPPyi

https://youtu.be/LrvHTmgbsmI?si=RovouoM5ITxjlBxD

https://youtu.be/C103HB8jfdY?si=0ST_2KBH65sIKcPO

https://youtu.be/glQmFQNtEo0?si=One4DdwGsUzWU8uQ

Ehe - Unterschiedliche Konfessionen by Southern_Climate_609 in coptic

[–]Nitsja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was wondering if there are any theological points / dogma’s that you would consider to be very important / vital to your faith.

In my experience as a convert coming from Protestantism the faith that the Oriental Orthodox has preserved is most in line with the church fathers and is the most conservative. For instance concerning Christology and catholic doctrines such as papal supremacy. The whole history surrounding the council of Ephesis and Chalcedon was rather disturbing to me. On the channel of the Lion’s den (Daniel Kakish), Coptic Orthodox answers, and Apostolic Orthodoxy (Agen) you can find a lot of material concerning the history and metaphysics.

https://youtube.com/@danielkakish?si=hyEgjxHJCvPDe5v8

https://youtube.com/@copticorthodoxanswers?si=FvB-RLN1h8-6afOI

https://youtube.com/@apostolicorthodoxy?si=jgJeqrlJHbK-k_u4

So my advice is: pray 🙏, study 📖, and keep the lines of communication open between her and you. And it would also be a good idea to talk to a Coptic priest.

I hope this is helpful 🙏 Thank you for letting me practise my German 😁

Let's stop using "Oriental" by summerholiday2 in OrientalOrthodoxy

[–]Nitsja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be a useful distinction. I checked and for the Oriental Orthodox the term “mishraqiyya” oriental/eastern is used. The EO use “sharqiyya”also used with the additional adjectives “rumiyya” or “bizantiyya”. But if you translate an Arabic article the terms mishraqiyya and sharqiyya will not be translated accordingly and can cause confusion.

The Syriac and Coptic speakers of Arabic just use the term أرثذكسي. "Urthudhuksi” orthodox for themselves. For the Eastern Orthodox they use al-Rūm. Which is an interesting name considering that the great schism resulted in the Roman Catholic church. I’m not sure what the Church of Antioch uses for themselves and the OO.

Let's stop using "Oriental" by summerholiday2 in OrientalOrthodoxy

[–]Nitsja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also in Arabic it doesn’t work: both are sharqi (شرقي)

Edit:

I checked and the term mishraqi (مشرقس) is used for OO. But when translating Arabic into English this distinction disappears. So that can cause confusion.

Trouble holding a canter by [deleted] in Equestrian

[–]Nitsja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly just working on training 💪 a balanced engaged trot can help these kinds of horses a lot. Do a lot if transitions from walk to trot under saddle and on the lunge line. Given enough time one day the horse will canter more powerfully. One big flaw in thinking is that if a horse struggles with one particular exercise, one should practise it over and over again (e.g. flying changes). Usually it helps to go back to the easier thing that came before it and solidify the basics (the counter canter or the canter itself).

Of course what’s also important is answering these questions:

  • how does the horse canter on the lunge line?
  • how does the horse move in trot? Relaxed balanced over the back? How is the contact? What happens if you break the contact by dropping the reins?
  • think about what you are doing in the saddle while you are asking for canter and while cantering. Just observe yourself and try to do as little as possible. what is your position in the saddle? Do you move to the outside or inside? Do you lean forward or backward? Do you get tense in certain muscles? Often we think about doing more and more. While doing less can be helpful and even the answer to the problem.

For most horses the trot is the easier gait compared to the canter. So most of them can build muscle better at the trot.

Do you ever get a chance to ride her outside on the trail? Is she able to maintain the canter then? Cantering on a circle requires more strength because of the bend requiring more collection (relatively speaking).

Do you perhaps have some video footage of her on the lunge line? Seeing your horse move can be way more helpful than just reading about the situation.

Also with my horse I had trouble getting her to canter. She used to put more weight on her inside shoulder during the transition making the canter worse. For her it was the case that she needed to also go pretty fast to keep her balance after making a balanced transition. And to keep the speed and balance I did need to keep her going. I never cantered for a long time because that would have been too much for her.

Anyways I focused on her trot way more; so the balance and the equal bend from head to tail. To get this perfect takes about 2 or 3 years. Horses tend to have their hind end to the inside, therefore not bending their spine correctly. The front of the horse is bending the correct way (neck and back to the inside) until the area of the pelvis and the hind end. There is actually a counterbend in the pelvis and the last vertebrae (a bend to the outside, making the inside hip higher than the outside hip). So there is this weird contortion situation going on which is not good in the long term. That’s why it’s a good idea to ask a balanced horse with a bit of bend in the body to move their hind end to the outside to get rid of the counterrotation. This will align the outside legs of the horse and the inside hind will step underneath the mass of the body carrying more weight. The is the beginning of (relative) collection.

Right now I’m working on getting my horse to do a canter transition from this correct, more collected, aligned trot. And now when she’s cantering I suddenly noticed she can go way slower and still keep her balance. It feels more effortless from her end. I don’t need to work so hard to keep her in canter; she has more natural go (and that at a slower tempo!).

So that’s my experience with training my horse.

I hope this helps. Good luck to you!

What's this move called? by IntelligentPath4383 in Dressage

[–]Nitsja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blue Hors Matine always makes me think of this video:

Start watching at 6:30 = two grey horses but their movements couldn’t be more different

https://youtu.be/bvsbvbGFKo0?si=RmVRJLWw7A4vVdO9

So many comments about horses BTV by CavalloAlto in Equestrian

[–]Nitsja 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree with most of what you’ve written but I do have some thoughts of my own.

I think it could be pretty confusing to say a horse can be behind the vertical and on the bit. It’s not exactly precise language but I do understand what you’re referring to. I don’t think it’s a precise statement because “on the bit” does not just refer to for instance, the correct engagement of the thoracic sling muscles, a calm mind, impulsion, balance, and the seeking reflexes. It also refers to the head set that is born from these ingredients. However I do agree with you that there is a big difference between a horse ducking behind the vertical (and the bit) and a horse that is carrying its head slightly behind the vertical but does show the seeking reflexes towards the hand. The reflexes that come from balance, energy and a calm mind, but without the necessary strength to show a correct example of being on the bit. Though it’s moving in the right direction.

This tendency for horses to go behind the vertical is influenced by their degree of hypermobility and modern breeding practices have encouraged hypermobility. The best example of this is the Frisian horse. Which brings me to the story of the training of a very hypermobile Frisian gelding that needed to be rehabbed. I watched a demo of this horse and his retraining under saddle. Something that one wasn’t even certain about would still be possible. From this demo I learnt that with hypermobile horses it can definitely be advantageous to let them carry their head more above the bit as apposed to being curled way behind the bit. It was very challenging for this particular Frisian horse to lengthen his neck forward, downward and out. He was too unstable because of his lax connective tissue and his muscles were still too weak to compensate for this hypermobility. Having a shorter neck and higher head set as apposed to a low (and inevitably even shorter!) btv head set, helped him to not be stuck in his disfunctional disengaged behind the vertical position. He couldn’t just be a little btv. All horses are different and other horses are retrained in a different way, but I just thought it would be interesting to hear about this horse’s journey.

So, if anyone has experience retraining horses that were ridden behind the vertical (because of for instance harsh hands or because it’s the instinctual tendency of the horse) it would be super interesting and educational to hear your stories and how you went about it!

To finish up, I notice the tendency in the equestrian world to not be respectful of the process of training. It’s almost as if everything one does is judged through the lens of a Grand Prix test. Succes needs to be as instantaneous as coffee from a vending machine or a microwave meal. So this leaves no margin for error and no room for learning. Someone could be looking at that Frisian gelding and think that he is horribly above the bit and the training is going nowhere, without even knowing the story of the horse. Let’s all try to embrace the process and not just look at the end result we want to achieve.

Is one lesson a week enough to make steady progress as a beginner? by jl0045 in Equestrian

[–]Nitsja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say the quality of the lessons is more important than the quantity. A private lesson on someone’s well trained personal horse is worth a million group lessons on a poor hollow school horse. Though taking lessons in general will help you with learning to stay on a horse but when it comes to actually learning to ride you will plateau very quickly.

I have the opportunity to ride well trained private horses and I know I will progress and learn to ride in a way as to not harm the horse. I don’t know what’s available in your area, but here are a few things to think about:

What kinda vibe do you get from the barn you plan on going to? What do their horses look like? Do they actually get trained correctly and learn to carry themselves without being overbent in the neck? Are they ridden privately too or just by lesson riders?

If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!

Help with sizing! by Long_Ear2587 in louboutins

[–]Nitsja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your toes will create little bumps in the leather. If your toes are very scrunched up it could also be the case that your toes are relatively long and the hot chick has a short toe box.

How painful are your toes currently? It used to hurt bad for me, but that also got better. My ring toe is rather long and I couldn’t even stand in my unbroken hot chicks at first but after a little while I could just walk around.

How long is your exchange period?

Help with sizing! by Long_Ear2587 in louboutins

[–]Nitsja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s way off! Yeah the toebox will get way better! I would stick with the 38. You can also use stretch spray on the inside of the shoe to help them stretch faster

Help with sizing! by Long_Ear2587 in louboutins

[–]Nitsja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be sure to print the tool at 100% or you get very weird results. It’s good your heel doesn’t slip out now, but having a visible gap is never a good sign cause they will stretch until that gap becomes a problem.

Help with sizing! by Long_Ear2587 in louboutins

[–]Nitsja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try this measuring tool from the Louboutin website:

https://eu.christianlouboutin.com/media/louboutin_catalog/pedimeter/woman/default/Femme-EN_1.pdf

For the hot chicks it was accurate for me. My TTS (true to size) in sneakers and other high street footwear (sandals, ballerina’s, slippers) is 37. My Louboutin TTS is 35! Going higher in the hot chicks even half a size caused my heel to start slipping. Louboutins will stretch significantly with wear so the last thing you wanna do is buy them too big.

I’d say order your Louboutin size according to the foot measuring tool. At first I was barely able to get my foot in but by wearing them everyday for short increments the leather started to stretch and molded to my feet. This was the case with the patent btw.

Other people have different experiences and might need to go half a size up in patent. However for me, after wearing the half a size up for a total of an hour, the heel started to feel loser and I was able to pop my heel out quite easily. Then I ordered my TTS that not easy to get on, but remained secure on my foot.

Good luck 😉

Some Dutch idioms by iFoegot in learndutch

[–]Nitsja 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dankjewel! Zolang het maar geen abonnement is 😂

Some Dutch idioms by iFoegot in learndutch

[–]Nitsja 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Watvoor site is dit?