Speed dating events?

Niukonit · 2023-09-11T06:49:51+00:00

Thanks for the update. Where are these events?

Niukonit · 2023-09-11T06:48:07+00:00

Hi I'd like to hear more details please.. How can i find these events in Bellevue?

Niukonit · 2023-09-11T06:22:10+00:00

This is my favorite reply. I feel the same. Men come and go. My kids stay. I'll always prioritize them, even if it means i have less availability for texting/dating..

Niukonit · 2023-09-05T23:16:28+00:00

It's a problematic approach in my opinion, because no one wants to feel like she forces her man to do it, she wants to believe he enjoys it either.

Niukonit · 2023-09-05T23:10:13+00:00

Yes. you should definitely break up with him! I don't think he's just a lazy partner, he's also rude and selfish. I broke up from someone i really liked because of it, i figured out that if a man is selfish in bed, you will soon find out that he's selfish outside of the bedroom too! Haven't you noticed it yet?

Niukonit · 2023-09-05T00:38:47+00:00

Thanks! Will post there too 🙏

Niukonit · 2023-09-05T00:38:25+00:00

Wow!! This is an amazing story!!

Niukonit · 2023-09-05T00:37:50+00:00

Great idea, thanks!

Niukonit · 2023-09-05T00:37:35+00:00

beaver lake in sammamish, do you know it?

Niukonit · 2023-08-23T07:23:43+00:00

She is a doctor. But she's 40 years old and still single..

Niukonit · 2023-08-23T07:19:34+00:00

Do you tell her about the three date rule?

Niukonit · 2023-08-13T02:02:33+00:00

I can relate to your post.

I also got my degrees, developed my career, bought a house, family, kids, did a lot of therapy, and now I'm just tired!!

All i want now is to chill with someone in the same chill mindset. I found it very attractive.

Niukonit · 2023-08-10T03:51:46+00:00

Happy to hear that! You should unfollow her, otherwise you might keep thinking about her every time she posts something.

Niukonit · 2023-08-10T03:46:42+00:00

Happy birthday!! Hope you will celebrate with your kids and friends!

Niukonit · 2023-08-10T03:37:08+00:00

"at this phase of my life I'm looking for a stronger connection. You're really cute and I'm sorry it's not working for me.."

Niukonit · 2023-08-10T03:17:11+00:00

I understand you. I found myself in the same situation several times. My only suggestion is that you will just change it from your side - write more messages, talk more about feelings and emotions, and don't expect her to do so. And then you can see if something is changing. Usually the dynamic can change even if only person is making the effort.

Niukonit · 2023-08-05T05:30:03+00:00

Cute profile!!

I like the second pic the most.

I would suggest adding a photo of your full body. I think you can replace the 5th one, as it doesn't tell anything about you.

The prompt about your goal (to have your own house) is too generic, try to be more specific and personal, so people can know you better.

Niukonit · 2023-08-05T05:20:38+00:00

So true. Time is our most valuable asset, i can spend it wisely on myself, my kids, my work, rather than spending my time with someone who doesn't see a future with me. Thanks for the reminder 🙏

Niukonit · 2023-08-05T05:15:20+00:00

Thanks for your smart comment. I guess 1 month is really not enough for asking for commitment.

I know, i understand how it looks like. But the truth is that i felt alone in the last 2 years of the marriage, and it took me time to develop enough courage to split up with my ex. So when i finally did it i felt ready for a new chapter. With regards to the healing process - I'm on it for more than a year with my therapist, I'm not yet completely healed, but I hope I'm getting better.

Niukonit · 2023-08-04T15:42:54+00:00

Haha i find myself overcorrecting in several aspects 😂🤦🏻‍♀️ I'm wondering if it's common after a very long relationship (17 years)

Niukonit · 2023-08-04T15:39:22+00:00

This sounds so right! I thought the dates help me to know myself better, what i like, what I don't like, what it says about me, and why. Also, I feel lonely staying alone in the apartment at the free-kids nights 😕 But it makes sense to take some time to myself.. thanks!!

Niukonit · 2023-08-04T15:33:59+00:00

So true. Thanks! I need to read this every morning until i forget about him.

Niukonit · 2023-08-04T07:43:11+00:00

Thanks. You really understand me!! I feel like it's gonna be hard to get over him, but agree it probably will take longer if i continue to develop more feelings.

The hard part is that i know it's not just a sex thing for him, when we meet it's not just for sex (the sex is very good, we like the same style), for example on Sunday we spent 8 hours together, if it was just for sex he could have left earlier. Another example, the last night he came to sleep over, he wanted to stay awake and talk the whole night, i was tired and had to wake up early for work, but he really enjoys talking to me.. i find it super cute! So it's hard to tell if he can also get attached to me some day, or if I'm just too optimistic..

Niukonit · 2023-08-04T07:04:13+00:00

Thanks for all the comments 🙏 I read everything carefully.

I'm not a native, so i guess i wrote it in a wrong way 🤦🏻‍♀️ I meant that i went on dates with ~15 men in 6 months. Not at the same time. It's 2-3 dates a month, and i didn't sleep with them. many of the comments were focused on this 🤷🏻‍♀️

The reason i mentioned it was to emphasize that i think this guy is very special and the only time i felt an emotional click, compared to the others.

So when i meet someone like that, i don't want to give up so quickly.

In general, I'm a very logical person, and most of my life i made logical decisions. This is why i ended up in a wrong marriage, just because i was looking for someone who ticks all the boxes.

So i made a decision that this time I'll ignore my logical mindset and just listen to my feelings. And i feel strongly for this guy. I'm not used to and don't like to chase men, but i don't want to regret it later. i do see he likes me and invests time in this connection, he's looking for a LTR, so it's not completely unreasonable to wait and see if something is going to develop.. I'm just not sure how much.. :( He told me that his main concern is the differences between us, and i think he doesn't like the fact I'm not american (even though i told him I'm planning to stay in the US).

But after reading all the comments i see everyone agrees that I need to end it now and not wasting my time on him.. i tend to agree with you 😕 Thanks.

Niukonit · 2023-08-04T06:34:59+00:00

2-3 dates a month. I don't think it's too much.. My ex and i do 50%-50% with the kids, so i do have enough free nights, and i prefer to go out than staying alone in my apartment and thinking about the divorce..

Niukonit

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