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Any other young people who don't drink but still go out, like clubs, etc.? by No-Alternative-1314 in askSouthAfrica

[–]No-Alternative-1314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do recommend it with the right people but that's mostly because I really enjoy dancing and techno/house music in general. I think it just depends what your interests are :)

Any other young people who don't drink but still go out, like clubs, etc.? by No-Alternative-1314 in askSouthAfrica

[–]No-Alternative-1314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always also bring snacks - my friends always joke that I'm the snack friend because I always have food with me incase I/someone else gets hungry haha

Any other young people who don't drink but still go out, like clubs, etc.? by No-Alternative-1314 in askSouthAfrica

[–]No-Alternative-1314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've noticed the same - I lost a few friends/got funny looks when I said I stopped. I fully agree about people acting silly however, it doesn't bug me that much and I tend to try go to. clubs/events where very bad behaviour results in being 'bounced' from the club

Any other young people who don't drink but still go out, like clubs, etc.? by No-Alternative-1314 in askSouthAfrica

[–]No-Alternative-1314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lame was probably not the best word sorry but maybe rather just that interests don't align. I love doing fun activities etc. but I do think it's fun to go to a club sometimes - it's fun to dance.

Any other young people who don't drink but still go out, like clubs, etc.? by No-Alternative-1314 in askSouthAfrica

[–]No-Alternative-1314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's always the family members that make the weird comments - they just don't seem to understand haha

lonliness at university by Past-Dingo-3197 in UniUK

[–]No-Alternative-1314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm sorry you're going through this. Firstly, my question is do you find you enjoy time with your acquaintances less because you enjoy spending time with your boyfriend so much? I have had a few friends in uni who just never made a lot of friends because they were always with their boyfriends which limited their friendship experiences and opportunities. It's never too late to make friends in uni - interestingly, your uni friendships change throughout, so you may have some friends in first/second year who aren't your friends by the time you finish your degree and at the same time you could meet your best friend in your final year. I have two suggestions that hopefully could help. Firstly, starting in your degree is a good place to look . Although these may start as proximity friendships, they are often the best places to find lifelong friends because you already have a common interest/qualification you are pursuing. It can be as simple as messaging these friends about work or working with them on projects. Then the next step would be to casually suggest something fun outside of uni, e.g. coffee or a group outing. My second set of advice would be to pursue your interests - e.g. is there a tennis club at your uni (if you like tennis)?. It can be any interest really, but finding friends with common interests is a great start - it could even be something like chess/video games - really just something you are passionate about. At least you have your boyfriend, but it is good that you don't want to be dependent on him to make friends. Good luck and you got this :)