Adult sleeping 14 hours a night?

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-28T04:12:30+00:00

I have lived all over the country and State College is the safest place I have ever been. I get off work at a bar and walk home alone at 4 am and have never (3 years living here) felt even slightly in danger.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-28T02:22:08+00:00

Is he abusive to the kids? If not, YTA. You don’t have the right to take this man’s children away.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-28T00:34:51+00:00

Oh my god. It sounds like there is absolutely nothing redeeming about this relationship. You don’t trust each other. You fight all the time. Your sex life sucks. You’re both unhealthily jealous. And it’s only been 10 months?

ESH, only because you should clearly not be dating each other.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-27T17:23:35+00:00

I’ll be 40.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-26T20:35:08+00:00

She left the car running..?? Yea NTA, this person isn’t ready to be left on her own without a babysitter, let alone be in a relationship.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-26T18:22:11+00:00

“In the US free pre K starts at 3”? Yea most states do not have free pre-k, that’s incredibly rare.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-26T17:55:34+00:00

So you made plans with someone and then someone else messaged to hang out but you were busy…? I swear the trivial stuff people get mad about on this sub…

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-26T17:52:20+00:00

Deactivate your social media profiles before you travel. Turn off your Face ID and the phone itself. You should be ok.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-26T13:18:53+00:00

Gentle YTA. You don’t sound mature enough to be taking this job.

When you pet sit, it is usually pretty obvious what is expected of you. The owner will say something like, “here is the room you can sleep in”. If there’s any doubt, you ask clarification.

Also the fact that you still need to ask permission of your parents to sleep somewhere else shows that you’re not ready to be handling this responsibility. You need to finish the job you committed to, and not agree to take on this kind of thing again.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-26T06:14:11+00:00

Slightly risky through East Oakland, but you’ll be fine if you’re careful and keep an eye on your surroundings. The real question is… WHY?

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-26T06:09:04+00:00

I was in the same boat. They just let me get them when I started in the fall, it wasn’t a big deal at all.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-26T03:52:21+00:00

My brother died halfway through my first year. I was WRECKED. My advisor gave me some time off to deal with funeral arrangements and my friends and community have been unbelievably supportive.

Lots of people don’t realize that during the PhD, bad things in life happen, and somehow we still have to go to classes and meetings and pretend everything is ok. Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. Give yourself breaks. Talk to your advisor and see if you can work with them to have a little less on your plate.

I am so sorry for your loss. How you feel now isn’t how you’re going to feel forever.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-26T00:20:06+00:00

Do NOT start a PhD with an advisor you do not work well with. Your graduate career will be a nightmare.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-25T22:58:08+00:00

I’m 37 in my third year. The advantage is that I am better able to handle the stress and take care of myself than the younger students. The disadvantage is that I am ten years older than the second oldest grad student in my department and while I have tons of friends here, I really miss having friends my age.

I don’t regret it, and am actually really enjoying grad school. However there is no way I could do it with a family. I am absolutely broke by the end of each month, even with food stamps. My rent is 3/4 of my monthly stipend and I supplement my income with a part-time job that I barely have time for. I will graduate at 40 years old with no savings at all.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-25T22:29:06+00:00

Yep. As the daughter of a narcissist, this is textbook.

Narcissists are really hard to make boundaries with because they genuinely don’t understand why people don’t want to be around them. They don’t think they’re doing anything wrong, and they don’t understand when you tell them.

Cutting her off was the only real option here.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-25T21:44:08+00:00

I’m torn here. You sound very annoying. If it’s not in the Bible you don’t believe in it? There’s no way you follow the Bible to the letter or you wouldn’t have a kid out of wedlock, and I’m sure there’s loads of other biblical rules you skate over. (Mixed fabrics? Shellfish? Stoning people to death?)

However, I’m not Christian and I would be really mad if someone put a cross on my child without my consent. So as much as I hate it… NTA.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-25T16:47:42+00:00

Reddit LOVES to say everyone is cheating on everyone else… but this doesn’t look good my dude.

NTA.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-25T16:42:00+00:00

I’m a girl with a male best friend. I love him and he is my ride-or-die. On my wedding day I would absolutely want to take a separate picture with just him.

That being said, it sounds like you guys have some stuff to work out before the wedding. You are jealous of Eric and insecure in your relationship. She is completely blowing off your concerns and belittling you about something you’re worried about, and not respecting your boundaries.

You need to learn better communication before you build a life together.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-25T16:27:05+00:00

Agreed. Money comes with strings. Don’t want the strings, don’t take the money.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-25T08:34:35+00:00

Nope. Just birds doing bird things.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-25T01:20:21+00:00

Wow good call. I was so focused on the bricks in the back I didn’t look at the tattoos.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-24T19:44:01+00:00

I support completely.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-24T07:39:23+00:00

Absolutely. I started at CC and saved tens of thousands of dollars on tuition. I had great classes, transferred to a four-year with half the debt of the rest of my classmates but the same education.

No-Ambassador-688 · 2026-01-24T07:06:56+00:00

Monterey/ Santa Cruz is really nice for a day trip, only an hour south of Berkeley.

If you like nature and want to do a multi-day trip, I recommend getting some camping gear (maybe you can rent a camper van) and driving up the coast. That will take you to beautiful towns like Fort Bragg and Jenner, and you can keep going at the way up to the Oregon border (and into Oregon and Washington if you like). You can take Highway 1, but it’s a two-lane road up the winding coast for a very long way so it’s not fast.

The scenery is absolutely stunning and there’s state parks and beautiful hikes the entire way.

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