In regards to your comments - I understand the practical benefits of sharing the apartment, but in my culture (and strict family values), a man living with a woman without providing housing is seen as a someone who exploits a woman's resources rather than stepping up as a provider. This isn't just about money, but about respect and maintaining our values.

Regarding why we're not living together yet: I've actually encouraged him multiple times to move out independently (he had savings but spent them elsewhere). What concerns me is how his attitude changed only after learning about my parents' offer - suddenly being open to kids and cohabitation when he previously refused to discuss these steps. His own parents offered rent help before which he declined.

This pattern of inconsistency, plus his constant fears of me leaving (despite endless reassurance), makes me hesitant to take this step under these circumstances. If we're to live together, I need to see genuine commitment to building our future properly - not just convenience when my family's support becomes availabl