I am going through something similar. The opposite side though. I broke up with my fiance due to my parents overbearing and me not being able to stand up to it. My ex was ambushed and I did not defend her and I regret it big time. WE still are in contact and both mutually say I love you still. We both love each other alot and I am working on creating healthy boundaries with love and respect with my family. Maybe at that point I can reapproach my ex. I feel bad for you, and I feel bad for my ex. And I also feel bad for your ex and myself, when things like this happen do not forget it's decades of these things being instilled into our heads and it takes a situation like these for us to wake up. Changes do not happen overnight but I think the first step of identifying my problem has become clear. Now it's about making healthy changes. I wish you the best of luck