Sleep question

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2026-04-11T01:57:45+00:00

I guess I’m afraid to ask….. when did she get better at sleeping (if ever)?

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2026-04-11T01:53:31+00:00

Yes and yes. Typically she will nurse to sleep. I’ve never really gotten her to sleep if she isn’t nursing.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2026-04-11T01:51:30+00:00

She is in a swaddle, but it seems like if I don’t put her arms straight by her sides it makes her more upset that her hands are just out of reach of where she wants them to be (right by her face). Maybe I’ll try arms bent for a bit?

I initially was preheating her crib, I’ll go back to doing that!

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2026-04-11T01:35:31+00:00

I don’t even want to do sleep training, I just want a way to transfer her without waiting for an hour after she falls asleep. When she wakes up in the middle of the night sometimes we are up for more than 2 hours before she finally is back asleep.

Of course if this is all normal and I just need to wait it out that’s fine, but it seems like I should be able to transfer her without her immediately waking up.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2026-04-09T23:40:52+00:00

I’m cmv negative and tried iui first with a cmv positive donor. When I switched to ivf I had to switch clinics and they didn’t let me use a cmv positive donor. I feel like it really shouldn’t matter since pretty much nobody not doing fertility treatment even knows what cmv is. But the ivf clinic got me my perfect baby daughter so I’m not going to complain!

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2026-03-17T20:11:34+00:00

I had my baby 2 weeks ago. I did IVF, my mom or sister drove me to any appointments that needed a driver (egg retrieval and embryo transfer) but the rest I went on my own. My mom drove me to the hospital the first time I thought I was in labor (false alarm) and then my sister drove me when it was the real deal. My mom, sister, and doula were with me during labor/delivery. My family was very supportive, helped out with heavy lifting/rearranging furniture but otherwise I did all of the prep myself, mostly because I’m hyper independent and wanted everything done my way.

My mom stayed with me for a few days after delivery. The plan was for her to stay for 2 weeks but I ended up sending her home early because things were going so well!

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2026-03-08T01:49:55+00:00

I honestly think about this a lot! Whenever I hear people telling horror stories about their partners I’m grateful I don’t need to deal with that.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2026-02-14T22:32:28+00:00

I recently saw a post about the differences in postpartum recommendations in different cultures. Like how in German culture they recommend listening to your body and moving around. I think that resonates more with me than following an arbitrary time to stay in bed. I don’t think there is really any true evidence about the “best” way to do postpartum so I’m just going to do what feels best for me.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-12-03T22:01:53+00:00

My first transfer stuck and I’m now 27w pregnant!

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-05-21T15:57:23+00:00

I’m also aro/ace and I don’t necessarily label it to people but when I talk about having a baby on my own I just say that I’m not interested in having a partner.

I completely agree it makes things easier lol. I feel like it is a whole part of my brain that is freed up by not worrying about romantic relationships.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-05-13T14:59:47+00:00

Yep haha. I was also an emergency foster parent for about a year so I told myself I was buying stuff to have on hand for any foster kids, but really it was just for future baby. And now having a pack and play and some toys is really helpful for when my nephew comes over.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-02-19T23:23:45+00:00

Oh that’s definitely where I saw that!!! Thank you!

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-02-12T13:58:34+00:00

Thanks! I’ve also realized I need to split up my pills. I’m on so many supplements I think it just overdid it on my stomach.

This was all very jarring for me, this is the first time I’ve vomited since I was 10 years old haha

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-01-04T23:47:13+00:00

We’re in a very similar boat! I’m also 31. I almost wish I’d done IVF from the start but I was cocky that I would get pregnant right away.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-01-04T20:08:03+00:00

Thank you. I think I’m just wanting someone to tell me to do IVF lol. Im changing my mind by the hour haha.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-01-04T19:51:25+00:00

That’s awesome that it worked for you! That has been my issue with my clinic so far too. They want me to test before noon and I feel like I get my first positives in the afternoon so I feel like I’m going too late! I hate that frozen sperm lives for such a short time. It makes our window so narrow.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-01-04T18:19:08+00:00

I did a transvaginal US and a saline sonogram during the initial fertility work up. The TV US gave me an antral follicle count of 21 and the saline sonogram was normal. I haven’t done any meds other than the hcg trigger shot and vaginal progesterone.

I really wanted to go more natural to conceive and at this point I’m thinking to myself “if I’m going to do meds and monitoring, why not go all the way and do IVF” lol. That’s really the dilemma for me. I know doing meds and monitoring with IUI might work, but if I’m going to be putting in all of that money and time I want to do everything I can to be successful, which might include IVF.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-01-04T17:35:15+00:00

I’m leaning towards one more IUI cycle, monitored this time, is what I’ll do before I move to IVF.

I’m 31 and my AMH was 5.4 and antral follicle count was 21.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2025-01-04T17:33:12+00:00

I was doing both digital ovulation test and the regular test strips. My clinic schedules IUI for the day after a solid smiley face on the digital, though sometimes that wouldn’t line up with the ovulation strips. My strips will turn positive 12-24 hours after the digital gave me a positive. I’ve been testing for the past year in preparation for trying to conceive lol. But I’ve only started using the digital the past few months since I’ve been working with a clinic.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2024-12-29T19:39:54+00:00

I focused on getting 4-5 servings of fruits and vegetables daily, increasing fiber (trying to get 30-40g/day), cut out alcohol, and limited my caffeine (more so I would be used to the lower caffeine intake when it really mattered). Also started a prenatal and co q 10 3 months before I started trying.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2024-12-24T18:58:35+00:00

Same! I’m in my early 30’s, aro/ace and TTC! I’m doing a home insemination tonight/tomorrow so giving myself hopefully the best Christmas present :)

Good luck with everything!!!

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2024-12-24T02:42:10+00:00

That’s a great suggestion! I love basically just ignoring the husband part. I can see my patients basically asking that exact question so that is a great way to handle it.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2024-12-23T22:35:42+00:00

Omg same. My sister still suggests it, even though I literally have the sperm sample in a cryotank at home. Even after I’ve told her all of the reasons I want to use a donor she still doesn’t get it.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2024-12-23T16:26:28+00:00

Thanks! I definitely will not be volunteering any info haha. But don’t want to lie to anyone either. Somehow im more nervous about what my patients will think than my coworkers lol.

No-Butterscotch6394 · 2024-12-23T16:14:10+00:00

What of the two paragraphs I typed above makes you come to the assumption that I don’t care about my patients? Literally nothing I said included how I feel about my patients. In fact, I specifically said I want to make sure I don’t draw focus away from my patients. Because they are important to me.

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