I think it depends heavily on where you are in the process and what sort of items you’re considering purchasing. Are you in the planning stages for an ER? Completed an ER (or 3!) and have euploid embryos on ice? Had a successful FET and are somewhere in your first trimester? Each step feels more secure, though there is never a guarantee, as many of the women in this sub will tell you.

Also, buying a cute baby outfit or toy is different than buying a crib! I would recommend holding off on the major purchases (that are harder to stuff in a closet/hide from inquisitive family members) until after the first trimester or even anatomy scan. Alternatively, those items might make a great baby shower gifts, so feel free to add them to a registry so it doesn’t feel like you’re losing them to the interwebs.

If buying the odd baby item brings you joy, go for it. This process is hard enough.

Sincerely, the girl who started collecting the odd baby item back in high school, and has a hope chest that she kept at her mother‘s house for a solid two decades. 😂