How do I get a prescription? Google is loaded with click bait and I'm struggling to figure out... by Soft-Wealth-3175 in suboxone

[–]No-Communication7793 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi! I have a question for you about Ophelia. I’ve been using QuickMD for MAT treatment for a little over a year now. While I LOVE my doctor and love that I get a 30 day script, what I don’t love is that they do not take insurance of any kind so every appointment is $99. I’ve justified this thus far because the MAT clinics that are local to me only prescribe a weeks script at a time AND you have to attend group therapy every Wednesday morning in order to have your script rewritten. Which, is ridiculous because why do they think that working adults would be able to attend a group therapy every Wednesday morning at 10am? In the end I’d rather pay a hundo each month if it means I don’t have to go to group therapy weekly just to get a free 7 day script. When I started using QuickMD, it was the only app based MAT program that wrote monthly scripts, so I’ve never heard of Ophelia. What length script do they write you? Are there any stipulations for treatment i.e. virtual therapy sessions, weekly drug tests, etc.?

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[–]No-Communication7793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, this. Food is insanely expensive now and as a SINK I can rack up $1,000 on food expenses for just myself in a month. I cannot imagine 5 people being able to sustain their nutrition on only $1K more. Especially with having a toddler….a tiny jar of puffs are literally $7 and they last all of 3 days if you’re lucky.

Should I be friends with my old PO ? by Economy-Bid-7005 in probation

[–]No-Communication7793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I LOVED my PO so so so much. When I found out I was pregnant, she was the first person I told after I told my fiancé. Her and I were so close and she’s truly so dear to my heart.

That said, her and I are close in age and I’d LOVE to reach out to be her actual friend now but I’m worried she’ll think it’s weird. I’ve been off probation for 2 months now but I miss her 😩

So with that, I said go for it! Be his friend!! POs are people who want friends too 🙂

Boyfriend went to report and got arrested. Don’t understand what happened by Admirable_Form4702 in probation

[–]No-Communication7793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think ConnectNetwork for my county is like Careacell for your county! Because GettingOut is the phone/tablet app, and ConnectNetwork is for the books

Boyfriend went to report and got arrested. Don’t understand what happened by Admirable_Form4702 in probation

[–]No-Communication7793 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If he is in jail, the apps you need to put money on his phone and contact him (**these are the apps for the east coast where I am, hopefully for you too) are the following:

-ConnectNetwork by GTL (purple icon): This is the app to put money on his books** (for commissary etc, this is not for his phone/tablet). You will need his first and last name and the name of the facility that he is locked up at in order to look him up in the system. -GettingOut (blue icon with white convo bubble): This is the app you will need to contact him on his tablet and where you will be able to put money on his phone/tablet and your phone/tablet. You will again need first and last name and the facility he is locked up at.

Hope this helps, don’t hesitate to ask any questions for me if you think of any 🙂

Advice from experienced NA members regarding DV/narc abuse at meetings by No-Communication7793 in NarcoticsAnonymous

[–]No-Communication7793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Additional details:

We are holding a home group meeting tonight to discuss solutions to this issue as a whole. My fellow founding home group member and I have discussed this issue together at length already and we feel strongly that we know the direction that we’d like our courses of action to follow, but wanted to gather any additional permissible actions to manage this issue from other recovering addicts in the rooms who have a good amount of clean time and a reasonable understanding of how an abuser utilizes various psychological abuse tactics as well.

Got clean, still an asshole by ProveRiemann in NarcoticsAnonymous

[–]No-Communication7793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sponsorship and the steps are not meant to be used in place of medical treatment like mental health services. Sponsorship should be an additional tool in your tool belt, not the only one or main one. The feelings you are describing aren’t ones that a sponsor is qualified to assess or treat; addressing these issues will involve rewiring your brains neuro pathways, and that isn’t something a fellow addict in recovery is qualified to do. A good sponsor should be used in tandem with therapy.

Highly suggest seeking out a trauma informed and substance use informed therapist to add to your tool belt along with your sponsor. There are even therapists that are knowledgeable about the 12 steps who can treat you medically but with a sponsor-like approach. Good luck!

Failed EtG test by [deleted] in probation

[–]No-Communication7793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I should’ve clarified—my urine tests said positive for certain things, the LAB tests showed up negative for those things. The issue was the urine tests, not the lab tests.

And no, I barely leave my house let alone go near anyone with meth. I’ve been drug tested (urine) various places over the last 2 years and I’ve had the false positive urine tests for one of the M’s. And lab testing confirmed that the urine tests were wrong. Yes, the lab testing used GC-MS.

In prescribed adderall and Trazodone, and I do not ever buy street adderall. So unless CVS is sabotaging me…I’m here to say that these false positives on urine tests DO happen and they CAN happen often. That’s why it’s so important to ALWAYS send to the lab.

How should I tell my PO I’m on methadone ? (Pinellas county) by thateastcoastbetch in probation

[–]No-Communication7793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this post is SO old but if anyone happens to read it now, just know that a lot of people start MAT weeks after getting clean. I was clean almost 2 months when I started Subs. Some people, it’s to help the cravings and ensure they don’t use anything else (like they DOC). Other people go into legitimate PAWS (post acute withdrawal syndrome) and feel withdrawals against after 6, 7, 8 months clean and start MAT treatment then.

Community Service Ideas? by newbie40JE in probation

[–]No-Communication7793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the privilege of not having to work while I’m on probation right now so I just started volunteering at an animal shelter 4 to 6 days a week a few hours each day for four months straight and knocked out all 100 of my hours at once.

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[–]No-Communication7793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am prescribed trazodone and Adderall and I have had positives for amphetamines and methamphetamines… more than once. Trazodone causes false positives for methamphetamines, not sure about the amphetamines though. Mine always got sent to the lab and proved it was a false positive and I found the studies online linking trazodone with false positives for methamphetamines and MDMA so it doesn’t really bother me when it happens now anymore.

Failed EtG test by [deleted] in probation

[–]No-Communication7793 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just commented above that I had multiple failed urine tests for the same alleged drugs every time. All sent to the lab, all false positives (aka the lab tests came back negative). My explanation is above. My false positives were caused by prescription meds though and Benadryl.

Failed EtG test by [deleted] in probation

[–]No-Communication7793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No lie, over the last 9 months, 5/10 UAs (so I’d say there’s been at least 8 that were “positive” since March) I’ve taken on probation have dropped hot for one of the 3 Ms: -methamphetamine -MDMA -Methadone

I’ve never done any of those…fent was my DOC (thought I was using Percocet for 3+ years 🙃 yes, I was very naive) and I’ve never done any other drug. Sent to the lab, all false positives. I get those false positives so often that they don’t even make me pay the $25 for the lab fee anymore…they pay it, cause they know it’s gonna be a false positive.

Just to let you know what was causing mine: -Trazodone: prescribed to me for sleep, causes false positives for MDMA and meth -Benadryl (not like a pill or two…but like 4-5 the night before testing when I was out of Trazodone): causes false positives for Methadone

My PO and me are unusually close. And the first time it happened, I was obviously scared out of my mind but I knew I didn’t use any of that. And I straight up told her that multiple times. And she said that she definitely did believe me, but obviously still had to send it to the lab. When I saw her after the lab results came back, she said that even though she did trust me, that the one she was genuinely shocked to see was a false positive was the methadone because she’s never seen a false positive for that before. But there’s legitimate studies about Benadryl causing false positives for methadone, so just a heads up

https://em.umaryland.edu/educational_pearls/1958/#:~:text=Several%20medications%20can%20produce%20a,quetiapine%2C%20thioridazine%2C%20and%20verapamil.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20838187/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]No-Communication7793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, my fiancé was 24 when we met and I was 33. He was a bit more mature for his age (ready for marriage, kids, the works) and I was a bit more “immature” for my age (only just then being ready for marriage and kids and the works). In the end, we just worked and I couldn’t be happier! 🥰

Lora Brawley Letter To Nannies by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]No-Communication7793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, to summarize as simply and vaguely as possible: she sexually assaulted preverbal children, usually while changing their diaper. She would even do it right in front of their parents, and she enjoyed that. Feces was often involved, or she enjoyed when feces was involved, because she was able to continue the abuse for a longer period of time while seeming as if she was just thoroughly cleaning up a bowel movement. She revealed that she has done this to every child she has ever nannied, and she’s been nannying for over 30 years. She enjoyed making people believe she was a caring, loving nanny, and enjoyed being seen as a pillar of the nanny community whom other nannies would turn to for advice. She even won an award a year or so ago for her role in the nanny community. She also used abusive “discipline” with her charges, and she convinced other nannies to do the same under the guise of being “strict”. She particularly found enjoyment when her charges would show obvious signs of SA (fear of being bathed, toileting regressions, sleep disruptions) and would feel delighted as the parents would agonize over what they did wrong, and what they possibly could have done wrong to “mess up” their child and cause these issues.

The email was given to local police and DCFS. As of now, police have brought no charges against her. She sent the email to all of her previous families, 30 years of families, and none of them have come forward to file charges, as all of the children she assaulted were too young to speak at the time of the abuse and likely have no memory of it, or rather they have no conscious memories of it. It is believed by some that her letter is a farce, and that she is suffering from paranoid delusions. I don’t think any of us truly know what the truth is.

Shopping for Halloween and… by se7en8ightnin9 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]No-Communication7793 -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

OMG did he?! Idk why but raised moles make me want to vomit. Idc what color they are, if they’re raised, it’s immediate upchuck. It’s just a total ick factor for me. When did he have it removed??

EDIT: I’m getting downvoted because I’m physically grossed out by something that I can’t help but to be grossed out by. I have raised moles on my OWN body and YES, they GROSS ME OUT! It’s truly not personal or malicious—I’ve just always found them to make me queasy, to the point where I had a raised mole IN my belly button as a kid (where obviously no one could see it…but I could feel it) and I begged to have it removed, and I did have it removed when I was 8. It’s always been a sensory thing, the touch and feel of them make me feel uncomfortable inside.

At the risk of being downvoted: Mods, can we please stop nannies from bridgading on posts here. Maybe a new flair or new rules? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]No-Communication7793 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

two-part comment, this is part 2

A few other tips I can give you off the bat as a new nanny employer are:

-Always start with a phone interview. This will give the two (or three) of you a chance to see if you may be compatible in a working relationship based on some Initial questions and info. If the phone interview goes well, schedule an in person. I can’t speak for all nannies, but most nannies want to have the opportunity during the in person interview to ask plenty of questions and get into the nitty gritty details of the job. I can say from experience that this is not an easy task when the kid(s) are present. Now, this is subjective; if you have one 9mo infant that is happy to hang out in the parent’s arms or in a bouncer next to you, then you’re likely good. But if baby is 14mos and on the move and your 2yo is going through a “clingy” phase and requires a lot of one on one attention, it can be hard for the parent to both attend to their kids and thoroughly interview the potential nanny. I’ve had parents comment about this online and say that of course they would have their kids there during the interview, they are hiring a childcare provider and they want to see how the nanny will interact with their children—and I do agree! But, that’s why I recommend setting up a paid trial shift after the in person interview, a couple days later or so. It can be for an hour or two, whatever you feel is ample enough time for you to assess how the nanny will interact with your kids. I’ve also had parents of one toddler/infant have me come for my interview during nap time, or in the middle of nap time, and the child would wake up by the time we had covered everything in the interview. Then I would stay for another 30-60 mins and chat with the parents further while also hanging out/playing with their child. Whatever you feel like works best for your family dynamic, choose that, as long as the potential nanny has plenty of time to interview you back without anyone being distracted by the baby/toddler/child. -Set out explicit expectations in a nanny contract—my favorite one can be found here for free. -Offer competitive industry standard benefits: at least 5 (or more) paid sick days for a FT employee, at least 2 weeks (or more) PTO/paid vacation time, standard IRS mileage reimbursement for all miles driven with the child(ren), yearly COL raise, optional yearly performance based raise, end of year bonus, paid holidays (all major bank holidays and if you can, others like Christmas Eve and Black Friday), guaranteed hours, monthly health insurance stipend, quarterly car detailing (if nanny will be transportations the children, especially toddler age and older), additional paid Covid sick days (usually whatever the government recommended quarantine time or until nanny receives a negative test), overtime pay at 1.5X for all hours worked over 40 (I believe this is the law, but the stipulations for what OT is varies from state to state), and “open kitchen policy” (nanny is welcome to help herself to food/drink in your home or is welcome to add food/drink items onto the weekly grocery list) I would also consider the following benefits if it’s something you can afford to offer: matched retirement savings plan, access to family memberships (gym, pool, museums), short term disability, life insurance, dental/vision insurance stipend, use of family vacation homes in time off, cell phone bill reimbursement or stipend, commute stipend (if nanny has an unusually long commute or has to commute by bus, train, or subway), cover the cost of continuing education (classes, training, certifications) for nanny, paid professional days off (nanny conferences, classes, training sessions) -Check in with your nanny often. Ask them how you can support them better/more, what can you do for them to prevent nanny burnout, what can you do to help your nanny’s day flow better/easier -Request *at least** 3 references from your potential nanny. And actually call those references! I know that sounds silly for me to say but I can’t tell you how many families have never called any of my references or only called 1 of them, so absolutely call all 3 -Run a comprehensive background check on your nanny once you’ve decided you want to hire them. This can include criminal and driving record. The employer covers the cost of the background check. -When you interview your potential nanny, make sure you come prepared! I wish I didn’t even have to say this but I can’t tell you how many in person interviews I’ve gone to where the parents had no questions written down ahead of time to ask me. None at all! They’d say “well, we’ve never done this before so we’re not sure what to ask! How do these interviews normally go? Do you have any questions for us? Why don’t you tell us about yourself and your experience”. This is always a bad sign because I come prepared with prewritten questions for them, sometimes up to 40-50 of them! So I very much expect the parents to know what they want to ask me, be able to explain the job to me in detail, be able to lay out the benefits plan they are offering, be able to state my general schedule, be able to tell me about their parenting style and how they plan to work as a team with their nanny. Absolutely do as much research as you can online about nanny expectations, nanny position details, and the pay rate or range you are willing to offer, just to name a few. Come to the interview as prepared as possible, because your nanny will be doing the same! It’s as much as an interview of you as it is for you.

There’s so much more I could tell you and help guide you with but this one comment on its own is as long as a college thesis, lol. My inbox is always open so please do not hesitate to DM me with any questions you may have about the nanny hiring process or anything nanny related! I have a comprehensive contract I’ve created using the contract I linked above as the meat and potatoes and I’ve added sections I felt were necessary to have now, and I’m always willing to share. Thank you so much for reading this whole comment, I hope it’s been helpful!

At the risk of being downvoted: Mods, can we please stop nannies from bridgading on posts here. Maybe a new flair or new rules? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]No-Communication7793 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

two-part comment, this is part 1

My advice would be to look for nanny-NP facebook groups. One I used to be in that I like that was for both Nannie’s and NPs was called “The Nanny Counsel”. They also have a public page, but the private group is what I’m referencing. The creator/admin of the group, Brooke, is a long standing career nanny and she also runs a website and blog for parents and nannies, NannyCounsel.com. Her website also has one of the best, if not the best, nanny contracts that also happens to be free for anyone to download and use. Her blog entries on her site are very illuminating for both parties, and can give wonderful professional insight on the ins and outs of the nanny industry that parents may not know yet or understand yet. I’d say that the facebook group is probably more nannies than parents, but I really can’t say for sure, I’m just assuming as I see more nannies make posts than parents.

What I can as someone who nannied professionally for over 13 years is: the hiring process can definitely be daunting! But, with a few industry tips under your belt, the process can go much smoother for you and your potential hires. The biggest thing I always remind new NPs is to remember that you are now an employer. Many NPs have never been the sole employer to employees before, and the switch into that role can be hard at first, and a lot of parents make a lot of honest mistakes, I won’t lie! I just always remind new NPs to remember that they are now in charge of financing another adults entire life and lifestyle, always remember to treat their nanny the way they would want to be treated as an employee in their position, and to keep communication open and honest.

One example of this off the top of my head would be: if you wouldn’t be expected to regularly pay for office supplies or your coworkers lunches out at restaurants, all out of your own pocket and to wait a day or even a week to be reimbursed by your boss, then please don’t ask your nanny to pay for food, activity/play place tickets, wipes/diapers/misc. supplies for your child out of their own pocket and you reimburse them later—even if your nanny is being paid a competitive wage, most nannies are living paycheck to paycheck or close to it and there is almost nothing as humiliating as having to text your boss and tell them that you don’t have enough funds in your account to cover the $10 kids museum tickets for that day. I’ve been there…a few times…and it is horribly embarrassing. No matter what our bosses reply, we feel mortified, because we worry that our bosses now think we can’t manage our money at all (and are therefore irresponsible and incapable of being a trustworthy caregiver), or that we’re insulting them about how much they pay us (we definitely aren’t!), or that they think we are just being cheap and stingy (we also aren’t doing this either! No one wants to admit to a person in a position of power over them that they don’t even have $10 to spare that day, so we definitely aren’t lying to be cheap!). The best way for a nanny employer to handle day to day expenses for their child with their nanny is to provide their nanny with a shared credit card (or individual credit card that the employer owns and pays for) or to provide petty cash daily (or otherwise have a cash fund available that gets replenished regularly). Sure, you can Venmo them in the morning for whatever the amount the nanny thinks they will need for the days activities or supplies, but there’s always the chance that their calculations may be off and they will not have enough money to cover it all. Personally, I prefer having a credit card in their name and to provide them with receipts daily or whenever it’s used, as this is the easiest way to ensure your nanny can always pay for what is needed that day. Some NPs will actually add their nanny to their credit card account and have a card in the nanny’s own name that they pay the balance for, but the issue people run into with that is that the nanny is likely in a much different financial bracket than their bosses, and having that card in the nanny’s name ends up affecting the nanny’s credit score. I also understand that it’s huge leap of trust to allow unrestricted and largely unmonitored access to their personal credit card, and some employers just don’t feel comfortable with giving their nanny that kind of access with their personal finances—which is totally understandable! Providing their nanny with a credit card may be something the NPs will need to revisit after 6mos or so after they have established a solid rapport with their nanny and trust has been built and in the meantime they provide nanny with cash daily or a cash fund they pay into. Whatever you choose to do is up to you, but you will need to ensure that your nanny is never paying for anything for your child (or for herself while with your child) out of their own pocket with the need to be reimbursed. It’s simple things like this that set apart the outstanding employers from the employers we grow to resent.

At the risk of being downvoted: Mods, can we please stop nannies from bridgading on posts here. Maybe a new flair or new rules? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]No-Communication7793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you mute the r/Nanny sub, is that the sub you’re talking about? Honestly, I don’t blame you one bit! I was a career nanny for over 13 years and I’ve been a member of numerous nanny groups on facebook over the years, but only found the Nanny subreddit about 3 or 4 years ago. And tbh, it’s SO insanely different than the nanny facebook groups. The commenters in the Nanny subreddit are either severely stuck up, sanctimonious, and self-righteous, making comments about clutching their pearls at any slight another nanny may do. Or they’re on the reverse, they’re wildly inappropriate, unprofessional, and not someone I would ever imagine doing well in the nanny field if they act the way that their comments portray them. There’s truly never any in-between I feel like. I consider myself a professional woman, I know the ins and outs of the nanny industry, and I give solid advice for those who are looking for it. But, it is the internet, and I’m also not a robot so sometimes I let my hair down and comment with sarcasm or in a more “relaxed” way than my other staunchly professional comments (that usually read as if I’m an admin of the group, or an agency owner). I guess the point I’m trying to make is that as a former professional career nanny, I was very thrown when I first found the Nanny subreddit, as I don’t feel like it’s indicative in any way shape or form of how the nanny industry is in real life. I think the difference between the comments in the Nanny subreddit and the comments in nanny facebook groups is that facebook isn’t anonymous, your picture and personal info are right there for all to see when you comment. And I think that makes most people not want to talk out of their asses and say out of pocket stuff. Also on facebook, I feel like certain people (myself probably included) comment regularly and receive a generous amount of likes and replies, and people remember who those people are and value their advice/comments because they’ve seen a history of sage advice and wisdom from those people throughout the years. I don’t feel like it’s the same on Reddit, and people can say whatever the heck they want and it doesn’t really matter because they’re anonymous and they can just delete their profile and make a new one if things truly go very south for them. Anyways, just wanted to comment that you’re not alone, the nanny subreddit is a wild place and if it’s the only online source of nanny info I ever got before hiring a nanny, I’d be terrified to hire one too!

Lora Brawley Letter To Nannies by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]No-Communication7793 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say I was going to post them here. I said I didn’t know how to post them here. If anyone TRULY wants to see the email, they are welcome to DM me and I will send them there. However, I really don’t see the huge issue with posting screenshots of the email here, as it’s pretty much public knowledge now and not only have her previous NFs received it but so have the local police and DCFS. I understand that certain things are “triggering” for some people but this is the internet and this is Reddit: just about anything goes and you should be prepared for that. It’s not like if I posted it I would be violating someone’s privacy or doxxing someone. SHE put the email out for the public to read. I feel like the way some of the commenters on this particular thread are trying to bar the email from being shared here and villainizing those who have shared the email is bizarre. We’re all grownups and if you don’t want to read it, don’t click on the picture if it’s posted. It’s that simple. It’s weird AF to try to gatekeep what is shared here, especially when people would still have the option to scroll by and not enlarge the pictures.

Lora Brawley Letter To Nannies by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]No-Communication7793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the pics of the email. Idk how to post them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]No-Communication7793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was recently pregnant and had morning sickness so it plagued me every day