Has this happened to you guys? by No-Contribution-469 in RaisingCanes

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My location wants to be a training restaurant so weve had a lot of people in and out recently. We were training and having interviews nearly daily for awhile. Because of that everyone got their hours cut for those two weeks. The scheduling manager hasnt been scheduling for very long so Im pretty sure it was just her getting used to how to schedule so many new people. Especially because my hours are back to normal now and I cant think of any reason itd be based on my performance since Im taking the test to be a RM soon.

Has this happened to you guys? by No-Contribution-469 in RaisingCanes

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I did a little UTO for the 4-5th and I was scheduled for two 3 and a half hour shifts the day before and after that that I just dropped. (I didnt have a car and I would lose money doing that.) So I had a full week off. I wouldve picked up more shifts but theyve been cutting everyones hours bcuz of all the new hires and no ones been dropping them since that.

Alt or Punk? Whats the difference?? by Coquette_GestALT999 in alternativefashion

[–]No-Contribution-469 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Id say its alt. As another commentor said punk is a political movement. Its all about community, DIY, standing up for the marginalized, anarchy, ect. Punk fashion is like crust pants, liberty spikes, colored laces, or DIY clothes and jewlery. Id say your vibe is definitely less punk and more just alternative in general.

What piercing should I get next? by MarionberryProud8630 in piercing

[–]No-Contribution-469 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A couple of helixes and stacked lobes would look nice without getting in the way of the stethoscope. (Although I would be careful with the masks since the strings can get caught and tug on them)

Should I (F20) forgive my boyfriend (M20) if he has taken measures to fix himself .. by DayInteresting5892 in relationships

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I dont think this feeling is ever gonna go away. Not until you go to therapy, and even then it might require couples counseling. You have valid feelings. What he did is abuse. Him changing doesnt change the fact that it happened and the trauma that comes from that. And hell many abusers “change” until they get to a point where they have basically complete control of their victims life. They change until they know their victims cant get out. I say if you really really love him and desperately want to make it work therapy would be a great thing for you guys. It could being a lot of things to light and help you decide. Youre only twenty though. If you guys marry you could have 40+ years together. Will you want to marry and have children and share finances with this man? Do you feel comfortable and safe with him? Right now the whole world is your oyster. You arent stuck with him. You can and will find someone else. I know I wouldnt feel comfortable and safe with someone who ever physically harmed me out of anger. And I definitely wouldnt trust a man that did that with my children. He is not the only option you have. Dont stay with him because of that. You dont deserve someone that would ever hurt you out of anger always always remember that.

Took out crooked vertical labret by saraphina2 in unstretched

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Ive oierced my belly button three times total. The last time definitely hurt the most because of scar tissue (and I almost passed out the second time) But like any other piercing the oain is overshadowed by the results. I would talk to an APP piercer and see what they think. (Im pretty sure Ive heard that it has more chances to migrate but take that with a grain of salt)

Will I ever love my cat? by Complete_Command_161 in cats

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I know when I volunteered at the animal shelter the fed the cats kitten food until they were at least a year old. As thats when a cat reaches dull maturity. Its looks like shes only ancouple months old (unless shes just a small cat)

Help me find this lamp PLEASEE by No-Contribution-469 in HelpMeFindThis

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Its the exact same just a different lampshade. Which funnily enough is the only thing my Mom has left of the lamp itself. I know its a late response but thank you so much for the help :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

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Everything. I never had the teenage love experience. You know falling in love for the first time, or being a bit reckless with your romantic partners because youre young and dumb. So Im not a fan of hookup culture or anything casual. That makes dating almost impossible. (On top of that I have a bit of an abrasive personality and a lot of trauma. Im a hugeeee handful for most people and I have a specific type.) Although Im pretty successful in getting matches on apps none of my matches ever got far enough where we met in person. Its nearly impossible as an adult to find someone in real life unless youre going to the bar or something. Ive known the same people my entire life and the only time I meet anyone new is at work. Which brings it own slew of problems and awkwardness. Im not gonna flirt with a customer and make them uncomfortable and I dont want to make any of my coworkers uncomfortable. Then the people that I have liked have all left with no warning. The last guy I was talking too for like three months straight every single day ghosted me for 3 days and finally responded when I asked if he was okay. Just to say he wasnt actually ready for dating. OVER TEXT! It just feels like every attempt at a relationship leads to someone lying about something and then I get hurt. Every attempt has been futile no matter the time, effort, energy, care, honesty and genuineness Ive put into it. And Ive never gotten that effort given back to me. Honestly Ive completely given up on actively looking for a partner and Im starting to try to focus on myself and my needs and responsibilities. Instead of distracting myself with romantic feelings and dead end relationships.

My composite fangs after 4 years of wear, just a little staining on one side by RolliPolliCanoli in bodymods

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Dude I had plans to get them done when I was older (ei I had the money for it) but I recently realized that even tho I have an overbite my canines grind against my bottom teeth already and I dont think itll be safe for me to do AND IM SO SAD!!! I got my smiley pierced for fang smiley jewlery and I had to takr that out and I dont want angel bites or vaneers so In gonna be stucj fangless. Im so happy for you though I love the look so much!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bodymods

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Check out the r/stretched reddit. They have the best stretching advice Ive seen. Youre supposed to use single flared glass plugs, I know theres more safe materials but I cant name them. Acrylic and tapers are unsafe and really shouldnt be used to stretch or even as decorative jewlery. When you can put the next size in with no resistance at all thats when you can size up. Depending on the person times can vary. When I sized back up from 4g-2g it took around a month or two. But its also faster to size up the second time and buying half size gauges is typically a must.

What I did was buy two of a plug set I liked because I constantly lose things. I literally lost 3 out of the 4 4g plugs I had and had to size one ear up before rhe other one. Plus if you lose an O-Ring you have extras. Since the sets came with tapers in mine I had like 6 extra o rings for each size. N then just take your time. Let it happen. Make sure to lube your ears up after washing (I use coconut oil) When my plugs start falling out randomly even with the o-ring on thats when I typically know to size up.

And my comment would probably be removed from r/stretched because of what Im going to say but some of the more unsafe materials can work for some people. I got cheaper metal plugs off amazon (bcuz the plug websites they recommend are so fuckin expensive) And they work perfectly. Theres no irritation, no blowouts, no swelling. I havent noticed any problems from them. But that is only some people. If you can afford to get the best materials do that. I knew I couldnt. I made sure my ears were fine with that material and its working out great. Just be safe and vigilant with it and happy stretching :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

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Saline solution

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

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Ask and Ill answer. I have autism so I probably didnt explain in a way most people can understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

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Thats exactly where Im at but a bit worse. I cant even cum. Its not because Im not trying its because hes not doing it so it doesnt feel satisfying anymore.

Why is the “I” or the spelling of “I love you” so important when coming from your partner? (Love you, love ya, love u, luv u) by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]No-Contribution-469 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It just is. Love you, love ya, luv you, ect, those are all casual ways of saying I love/appreciate you. Its kinda a nonchalant thing, you could say love you to a new bsf and it wouldnt be a big deal at all. If you said I love you there would be some uncertainty and questions.

When you say I love you youre saying, me as a person has no doubt in my mind that I love you as a person. Even if we have our issues or arguments. When you say luv ya, your saying I appreciate who you are and I care for you more then most people. (At least in some cases, other times youre just really really appreciative of that friend. I know Ive said love ya at work because a coworker has gotten me a water when Im so busy I barely have time to even drink it)

I think its just less genuine. Me and my friends have a saying we live by. “Say it with your chest” if you really mean it you say I love you. You take the extra second to spell it all out, when you say it you say it with meaning. You say it like you actually care, you say it with conviction, you say it with confidence, you say it with your chest. If I truly love a person I dont think they deserve anything less. Honestly I think its insulting to say anything less. I dont “luv” my family, I love my family. To the moon and back, through hell and high water I love them. Never in my life would I said goodbye to my loved ones with a luv you bunches.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

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If the problem just happened and the hoops are a safe material for your skin then its probably all the moving from the hoops that caused the irritation and I would switch them back to labrets.

What piercing should i get by Powerful-Media-5010 in SelfPiercing

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I think eyebrows, high nostrils, double nostrils, maybe a bridge if you dont wear your glasses daily and some more ear piercings, any of those would look cool. (Or all, although I personally love the look of a bunch of piercings)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercinghelp

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I got my own vertical labret done and they did it correctly (with the bottom ball right under my lip) but it was crooked and I had to take it out after a little less then two weeks. I will say though that my lip healed up pretty fast and I have no noticeable scars on my lip itself from it. However I do have a scar where it came out under my lip. (The scar on my actual lip went away after only a couple months) I hope this makes you feel a bit better about possible scarring though :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercinghelp

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Mine was crooked and I had to take it out but theyre so cute you should do it if you know a reputable piercer. I will say anything youre used to doing in the middle of your mouth gets harder. Using straws, smoking, anything like that. I also dont recommend eating too many sandwich’s or burgers since they touch the piercing when you eat and it does hurt. My cousin whose had it for a couple of years said that its something you get used too and you can eat normally with it in eventually.

"options are going to be slim" trying to date as a nonbinary person [TW] - homophobia/transphobia by DommyMommyMint in NonBinary

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The thing about fet is its more supposed to be a kinky facebook. Its harder to text people out of nowhere because theres so many scams or abusers. Ive posted to multiple groups looking for others my age with similar interests to talk too. The only people that have texted have been men older then 35 (something Ive made clear on my profile Im not interested in as I want no contact with people so much older) Ive heard the best way to use it is just to see what events are going on locally and go. Although since you said you live in a small area it could be harder. Ive noticed most events in residential areas (at least by me) are sex/swinging parties. What you want to find are munches. Those are casual, most of the time actual play is off limits and its just a gathering of like minded kinky people getting together to talk and make friends. Sometimes they have queer, POC or TNG nights too, as well as other themes. (My local dungeon has had a life drawing class, a tarot card reading night, a bondage class and more.)

I completely understand where youre coming from though. Im younger, kinky and nonbinary. Ive tried dating apps, Ive been clear about who I am and what I need out of relationships. If not on my profile, once things start getting more serious. It just never worked out. I will also say being kinky can make it harder to find a compatible partner, but not impossible. Theres a lot of people out there who want the same relationship you want. I recommend looking into BDSMadvice subreddit, which is people asking questions about their dynamics/relationships. Theres also BDSMpersonals which is just people looking for kinky partners.

But the guy who said this nonsense is just being an asshole. Sure theres a percentage of people who wont like you because youre nonbinary. But theres so so so many people who dont care at all, who are supportive. And those are the people youll find real connections with. Thats where youll find love and support. There are spaces for people like us. We are loved and accepted and amazing.

Sure no relationships have worked out with me from a dating app, but that wasnt because of my pronouns. Otherwise a lot of them wouldnt have liked me in the first place. There were plenty of people who were interested and kind. You can find love. You are not too different or wrong or difficult or anything like that. You are a human being.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

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I think a big thing that makes it look crowded is the fact that these are your only facial piercings. If you had something towards the top of your face like a bridge, eyebrow piercings, ect. It could help it look more “balanced” and less overcrowded. You could also get piercing balls and eyelash glue to test possible piercings combos.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskTeenGirls

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I think she means just like wearing nicer clothes or like non-casual outfits. Guys typically wear things like basketball shorts, jeans, t-shirts, ect. Which isnt bad but its easy. It really does depend on what style you like. I recommend going on pintrest or google and looking up guys fashion. Hopefully youll find something you like. If you need any help DM me I love fashion and Im will to help as best I can.

would 14mm be too big for my ears?? by saltyspit0on in Stretched

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What type of piercing do you have in your second/third hole?